Wait To Be Pursued Or Pursue?

To each their own. If purusing is required then ladies should not wait but just go about it.

I don't know if pursuing is acceptable nowadays, but when I was young we always waited for the men to do the pursuing.

I'm biased in this case because I'm quite shy so I've never really been that bold to approach people first.

Waiting to be pursued would be better, I suppose, but sometimes it's right and okay to do the pursuing. I've asked guys out in my younger years, and I've asked plenty to dance at parties too. I didn't end up marrying any that I asked out, but that's neither here nor there. It's best for both men and women to date more than one person before marrying so they can see what type of personalities and habits they work well with. It think that each party should remain celibate until they marry, because then other factors-the obvious ones- overtake sound judgement. Especially once a person finds out that the person they are with isn't the best match for them after all. Also, even if a woman pursues in the beginning, she shouldn't have to be the one to continue doing so. You'd think the man would figure it out eventually and take the reigns. Each situation is different and each person is different. (btw, I found your post while looking at @Deborah-Diane 's profile).

My daughter who has the happiest marriage waited to be pursued. I think there is a connection.