How do you deal with bullies?
By Ann LeFlore
@poehere (15123)
French Polynesia
October 15, 2015 9:04pm CST
Have you ever been bullied in school or even online? I know everyone has been bullied one time in their life or another.
I remember the best one for me. We were living in a new neighborhood in Ireland and there was this kid around the block from us that came around daily. He would pick on my two young brothers and hit them and throw things on them. My younger brother’s weren’t fluent in English and the kids really went after them for this and because they were young.
One day I had enough when I saw him doing this. He was on his bike delivering newspapers on our street. I came up to him with my baseball bat and hit the wheel of his bike to knock him on the ground. He was a lot older and bigger than I was but I didn’t care. I jumped on top of him and started to hit him time and again. I then threw all of his newspaper all over the road and kicked his bike. I took my two brothers’ home to wash them up.
That night his dad drug him over to our house and knocked on our door. His dad wanted to fight my dad for what I had done. The boy failed to tell his father it was me who had done this. My dad called me to the door and asked if I did this. I started off by explaining I was sick of him hitting my brothers and I put a stop to it.. My dad said hold on speak in English so this man can understand you. I told the man that his son was a bully and every day he hits my brothers’, spits on them, and throws things at them. So I stopped him today because my baby brother was crying so hard I was mad at what he did.
The man grabbed his son and started up the street yelling at him and knocking him in the head. I did hear his dad say to him “You let a girl do this to you?” My dad was laughing so hard.
Do you have a story about a bully and how you finally got him to stop?
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@GardenGerty (160612)
• United States
16 Oct 15
Unfortunately I have been a magnet for bullies, but they were not physical, but bullied with words and emotionally and my solution is to just avoid it. Not really good coping, is it? On the other hand, I taught my kids to stand up for themselves in the instance or two they were picked on. I could teach them things I could not learn.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Oct 15
Good for you. I never had to deal with this with my daughter. She was never bullied at school. Maybe that was because the UN had a private tutor for the children that traveled with me and my team. These children all grew up together and got along so well with each other. I do have to count myself lucky on that one. I learned young about bullies when I was growing up. One time I came home from school I was like 5 I think. I told my dad about this girl in school and how mean she was to me. He said punch her in the nose she'll; shut up,.I really don't think he meant that and when I did and the school called him he told me I didn't mean it like that.
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@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
16 Oct 15
Glad that I have never been bullied. Maybe it's because I don't look like a good target for them :) lol
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@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
17 Oct 15
@poehere
Thank you :) that's flattering .
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@celticeagle (166672)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Oct 15
I was always extremely shy in school. I had these two black American girls bullying me and I don't know why. I happened to have a gal in my P.E. class that knew these girls. She and I didn't really know each other and didn't interact together, just In this one class. So for some reason this gal saw what was going on and told the two girls to leave me alone. And they did. That has been my only experience with bullying. My granddaughter was bullied in grade school because she was in the Gifted and Talented class. She didn't tell me or anyone else. She just choice to quit the class. When I found out years later I was saddened to hear it.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Oct 15
That is so sad that she quit. Bullies can be so mean and make you feel so small. I was always a tiny, skinny kid growing up. A lot of bigger kids would teas us all the time because it seemed like we were always the new kid on the block.I learned at a young age to stop the bully was either to call him out on it or to punch him. I tried to embarrass them but then it gets worse. So more times than I should of have done I punch them in the nose, mouth, or eye and if they are too much taller I punched them in the stomach. Now I look back and it wasn't a good idea to do all this. I just got tired of everywhere we went the look and remarks and the bullies showing up.
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@vandana7 (100225)
• India
16 Oct 15
"You let a girl do this to you"..rotten up bringing. That deserves flogging. The boy will develop hatred towards girls and tomorrow he might be one of those who rapes or throws acid on women. From where does this trash come? 
Now, as to your query, I have bullies in my family. Two aunts and two cousins. Had to use vulgar language to get them out of my life. Pity. Physically I am not strong to be beating them.
Now, as to your query, I have bullies in my family. Two aunts and two cousins. Had to use vulgar language to get them out of my life. Pity. Physically I am not strong to be beating them.1 person likes this
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Oct 15
Yap my dad was laughing when he heard this one. He said he was glad his tour there was up soon so we could be moving along. He too did not like the way this child's father handled this one. He was also mad at me for doing what I did. He told me I could of handled it better. I told him I tried and it was too much. I was mad and I just reacted and hit his bike with my baseball bat.
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@GardenGerty (160612)
• United States
16 Oct 15
@poehere Better to hit the bike than the kid. My husband has always been afraid of hurting people, so he never physically stood up for himself. His younger sister, however would go beat up the bullies. She was and is a spitfire.
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@KristenH (33381)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
16 Oct 15
I've been bullied in high school. I was made fun of and teased. Sad story. I didn't get this person to stop, but I had to tell my mother and my guidance counselor to help me out. Bullying isn't fun, whether it's done online or in person.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Oct 15
You are so right on that one. I never heard my daughter complain about bullies. But then on the other hand she didn't attend a public school until she entered College. My life was a little different and I installed networks around the world. The UN had a private tutor for the children of people who did this. I worked with a group of 17. So we were all close and all of our kids grew up together. So basically there wasn't any bullies there but at times there was some fights between the kids to deal with.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
16 Oct 15
I was bullied and teased at School because my Mum only has one arm and has had this from Birth When I was 11 years old this Boy kept calling her names now I am not a violent Person or get angry quick but after 5 years of being pushed and listening to kids being so evil I swung round and hit out not knowing how close he was I got him on the nose and broke it I was devastated that I did that ........ I cried for Days .....but when the Boy his Parents and me and my Mum had to go to the Headmaster, he told them it was his own fault as he should not have been so horrible my Mum .........after that Kids left me alone and did not call my Mum any names or push me any more
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
17 Oct 15
Wow what a wonderful story. Kids can be so cruel and mean because either you or a member of your family has a handicap or is different. I think you did the right thing. I know you feel bad about this but on the other hand enough is enough and it's time to put a stop to this.
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@Teep11 (7673)
• United States
16 Oct 15
Bullies are something to deal with. Some you can ignore. some have to be reported, but most of all. Pray. Pray for them. If that's something you believe in. It depends on what type of bullying you're dealing with. I hope that bully didn't bother your brothers anymore.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Oct 15
No he learned his lesson. The next day he came down our street he went by so fast you didn't even know he was there. He no longer stopped and picked on my two brothers. I was their older sister, tiny and skinny but I was mean and angry. I grew up all over Europe and learned to fight young because it always seemed like we were the new kids on the block or in school.
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@antonbunot (11093)
• Calgary, Alberta
16 Oct 15
O, yeah! I was bullied in the elementary grades and in high school. I was also bullied in college. I was a very nice young man. But, to tell you the truth, if it's legal to kill a bully, I would have "slingshot" 'em all till they kick the bucket! I just hope one day it will be legalized to kill a bully just like smoking grass . . . 
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Oct 15
Wow those bullies really did a number on you. But in all truth everyone thinks the same when it's happening to them but they are afraid to say it. Your right I felt like this too when I was attacking my bully who was after my two brothers. But my baby brother was crying so hard and my other brother was screaming go sis go hit him again now again. I knew to stop because this kid was crying too. In the end I felt good for defending my brothers but bad for hurting this kid.
@Ceerios (4698)
• Goodfellow, Texas
16 Oct 15
Ms Ann ( @poehere ) - I can only remember one time, back when I was 10 years old, there was a bully boy in my elementary school class who was about twice my size and who enjoyed picking on me. I was always careful around him, for he could whip the snot out of me anytime he felt like it. One day he kept on knocking me to the ground at class recess. Got me really angry. When we got to class again I invited him to a "fight" for outside the school at lunchtime. We met. I had to jump up to hit him, but he wound up with two black eyes. I don't think that he even hit me, the way I was jumping around. The result. He came up to me TWO days later (when he finally got back to class) and asked me to "be his friend." 75 years later now, I wonder if he ever picked on anyone again after that.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Oct 15
Wow great story. I came to that conclusion with the bully who was picking on my 2 brothers. One of my brother's was only 3. This kid was like 13 at the time and I was only 8. When he said to me - What do you think a wimpy girl like you can do about it? That when I got mad and the next day I hid behind a tree waiting for him to show up. Sometimes you just have to show them.
@agek07 (30)
• Mexico
16 Oct 15
When I was in school I got to see a lot of people getting bullied, some people took it hard, others knew how to handle it. The best solution to stop the bullied is to just ignore them, people who tend to bully seek the attention of others by trying to make others feel bad.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Oct 15
Yes I agree but when they go on day after day and it never stops then you have to stand up for yourself. I knew a boy who thought the only way to be accepted by others was to bully other kids. He got a lot of attention from the other boys when he did this one. One day one of the kids he use to bully was crying. I came to him and showed him a trick my dad taught me when I was young. It was a way to block this kids hand, use your foot between his legs, and trip him to make him fall. The little boy tried this one and it worked. He was so excited and so happy, What was funny after this kid did this to the bully he never bullied another kid again at school. At times you just have to teach them a lesson to make them stop.
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