Accepting a Cheating Father
@JaneApril (334)
Philippines
October 15, 2015 11:15pm CST
If there's a man that you look up to and admire since you're a child, it's no one but your father. For you he's the strongest and greatest man. He's perfect.
But what if you find out that your father is cheating? That he is the reason behind your mother's sadness? Would you still see him the way you did before? Would you still accept him?
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@jump2high (53)
• Delhi, India
16 Oct 15
@vandana7 we only have one duty towards our parents that we should respect them. But we can't interfare in there life.
@rashu_j883 (144)
• Hyderabad, India
16 Oct 15
if i find my father cheating i will be shattered.i will try to ask him why he cheated my mother?too hard to imagine
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@rashu_j883 (144)
• Hyderabad, India
17 Oct 15
@JaneApril if he is cheating ,it means something he is not happy about.cummunication is the best way to solve this situation.
but one thing all parents are equally responsible for their children upbringing.parents are the creators of their children.
its their duty to be sincere,respectful,loving,faithful to them lifelong so that their children can successfully pass on these family values to their children.
parents who cheat will be never believed by their own children also.it hurts their moral,inner self confidence.
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@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
17 Oct 15
Yeah . too hard to imagine .. but a lot of people is experiencing that in reality.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
16 Oct 15
When you cheat, if you have kids you are cheating them too. It effects the whole family, not only the spouse. I'd still love my dad as he's my dad of course, but would respect him a lot less.
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@yukimori (10143)
• United States
16 Oct 15
There's a story that my mom told me way back when about my dad telling her to buzz off in a casino when he was drunk, then taking some random girl back to their hotel room.
It definitely made me rethink how I perceived him, but he'd passed away at least 7-10 years before my mom told me about that incident. Beats me if it was true or not. I take it with about as much salt as the story about some random woman showing up at his parents' house with a baby that was supposedly my half brother.
At worst, it made me see him as human and just as capable of making bad choices as the rest of us. If he were still alive, it wouldn't be my place to forgive him--he'd wronged my mother, not me. If it was something he was truly remorseful for and he was willing to work through it and do what it took to make things right with her, I'd probably have a lot more respect for him than if he just rugswept it and acted like his behavior was perfectly acceptable.
Then again, we learn what's normal in relationships from how our parents behave and treat each other. Maybe my normal meter would have been broken in a completely different manner than it was.
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@Beatburn (4286)
• Philippines
16 Oct 15
Even if he did cheat, he's still the father of the kids. He is expected to support and care for his children. If he can't handle that then he has no right being called a father. It's unfortunate when these things happen. Can it be solved by simple forgiveness?
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
17 Oct 15
i would have had a hard time forgiving that behavior i think it would change things
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
16 Oct 15
Why? Did your father cheat on your mom too? Or did someone you know have a cheating father?
@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
16 Oct 15
Not my father. Someone else's :(
He kept on telling me that he hates him and that he will never be like him.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Oct 15
I totally would look at him differently. I would also confront him and call him out on it. I would tell him to leave so your mom can finally be happy again. I would tell him that I still loved him but I had lost respect for him at the moment because he wasn't man enough to tell my mom and just leave. I know my mom's heart would of been broken. But as long as he stays in the home and continue to cheat on her the worse it can be for my mom. I feel it is better he leaves.
@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
16 Oct 15
That's the same thing my friend said. That he didn't want his father in their house anymore.
@jump2high (53)
• Delhi, India
16 Oct 15
Great thought. I wish this situation will never come in anyone's life. Else its going time horrible situation. I noticed these days we see this cheating problem in both male and females. Accepting a cheating father or mother is not possible however try to stay away from this situation and don't interfare let mither or father handle the situation. If they love each other and see further in eachother's eyes they will never repeated this.
