Spare the rod and spoil the brat

Keep calm and be a happy mommy!

I really don't understand why not choosing to physically assault a child automatically means that we have to be spoiling them and letting them get away with everything. I don't physically discipline my children, but I wouldn't necessarily consider them pampered, either. Their basic needs--physical and emotional--are always met. They often see things in the store that they want, but I rarely purchase things for them just because they want them. My kindergartner saves up for the things she wants to get and buys them for herself. If either of the kids throw a fit in a store, we pick them up and carry them out to the car. There are plenty of ways to teach children how to behave appropriately without having to hit them to get your point across. All hitting does is confuse them and make them afraid of you. It doesn't accomplish anything close to what the intention is.

Thank God our daughter grew up to be a kind lady , without us having to spank her . We simply have to say No and she will follow.

Today it is very different in child rearing than years ago. It almost seems that the child rule the parent.

I rarely had to spank my kids when they were young. They learned very quickly what to do and what not to do. They weren't perfect by any means but most of the time all I had to do was punish them.

The biggest behavior problems we have are when we are out in stores. They think they are free because they know I cannot get them them out in public. All it takes is a little whisper in the ear reminding them, they DO have ot come home with me. Straightens them right up

Personally, I see it with my friends who are parents. They don't spend as much quality time with their children as they should. There is a disconnect between parent and child and before you know it... you hardly know one another. So sad.

I always believe in using the rod to correct the extreme naughtiness of a child. But this is only when mere words are not effective to them.

I don't scream or shout, just talk it out. I don't spank or pamper, I discipline. I don't rule, but I prefer obedience. How's that?

they make the odd slapped wrist sound like the work of Torquemada of the Spanish Inquisition. It is possible to raise children without violence but some parents do let them run riot - the main punishment for me was being sent to my room, but with my books in there it was no problem. Similarly for kids with computers, TV and cell phones to hand.

It is hard to find a good balance between caring and telling a child how to behave right. I find it hard shouting at my nephew and niece, because they are too cute.

I am still wondering if there was no mom, how would a child will learn how to live. Lol! i cant even imagine that. It would be terrible

I gave my daughter 3 chances. On the third she was put in a chair facing a kitchen timer for 10 min. If she continued I added 5. After it was over we talked. I never really had all these problems with my daughter. I think a lot of this is because both parents work and they don't take the time to talk with their kids and teach them from the beginning.

The government listened to Dr. Spock who said we shouldn't spank our children. That was back in 1975. Now we are a nation with out of control children and grandchildren.

I think some kids need spanking but some do not. The discipline method has to change since each child is different. I do agree that a lack of spanking leads to many society problems. The high crime rate is probably due to the lack of discipline when the criminals were young.

What is wrong today with a lot of kids is the fact that the kids are in charge. There is nothing wrong with telling a child the word NO. Taking something from them that they like as a punishment.

I was spanked as a young boy if I misbehaved--I learned quickly not to misbehave or, at least, not get caught! I could NEVER be a parent--too much responsibility--I wish many more people would think twice before having children.

and also I hit them once in a while in their butt. But afterwards I will talk to them about it.

hmmm... that is a good fact nowadays. As for me, if I cannot handle the situation in and civilized manner, I have to use more effort to let it be known to my kids that they have to follow my rules. I give them rewards if they do something good. But if not, no rewards for them even though they cry the whole day. It hard to see them like that as a mom but I have to do it so they will learn from it.

I never had to spank my children. Taking away toys, electronic games, and TV privileges usually worked just fine.