Got No Time For Love?
By Artgirl
@owstalaga (4707)
Philippines
October 17, 2015 1:44pm CST
It sounds awful but somehow I don't have any time for it. I'm always out trying to fix my life and do business mostly but love is not on any of my list. I will be adding it soon but not right now.
I have found that it is a distraction for me or my plans whenever I get involved with someone. 
What the heck right? But I know I'm not the only one like this.
Right now I'm busy busy busy. The past few months I was just doing nothing so maybe the next time I've got nothing to do I should let love come find me eh? 
What can you say about this?
What the heck right? But I know I'm not the only one like this.
Right now I'm busy busy busy. The past few months I was just doing nothing so maybe the next time I've got nothing to do I should let love come find me eh?
What can you say about this?11 people like this
13 responses
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 15
True. He might feel that he's taken for granted if I only have little time for him. Nobody'd want that right?
Nobody'd want that right?@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
19 Oct 15
@softbabe44 Ah... I spent the other day thinking too much on it. Now I have decided that whatever happens will just happen. Don't want to think too much on it anymore.
@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
18 Oct 15
i don't think you should rush right in like you said invest but make sure things are meaning ful
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
17 Oct 15
as long as you';re able to draw a line between your work and your relationship than things should be fine. the key would be not to mix the two
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
17 Oct 15
My thoughts exactly. If it's at work usually your workmates get involved and I don't like that.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
18 Oct 15
@swissheart - It is not easy to draw the line between work and relationship. I am in agreement with @owstalaga that if she is not free, then entering into a relationship could be distracting for her.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Yes and it is a hassle too. I've been there done that so I'll never have a romantic relationship with a coworker again. 
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@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
18 Oct 15
I REALLY CAN RELATE TO THIS. hehehe.. Because of heartbreaks I engage myself in things that can really make myself busy. Its quite tiring sometimes but I guess its all worth and I kind of see myself differently this time.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 15
*apir*
The heartbreaks usually take time to heal. What I did to get through it was lots of prayers. It actually made me closer to God and eventually I felt how He changed and renewed me. 
The experience definitely made me a better person.
The experience definitely made me a better person.1 person likes this
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
21 Oct 15
@owstalaga God is good in many ways. I'm currently praying he'd do the same to me.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 15
True, I know love is important but if it will give people heartaches and headaches I'd rather not have a relationship right now. We did have pets before.
One day I would probably be able to get past this situation. 
@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
17 Oct 15
when one's a hectic schedule, there's lil time fer growin' those kinda relationships. 'n then it takes dedication to maintain such long term. when 'the time is right', it'll happen
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
17 Oct 15
I hope so. Yeah it takes time to have a relationship, something I don't have right now. But it's fun to have crushes from time to time.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
18 Oct 15
Is the discussion meant for a prospective guy so that he could come to know that you are too busy for a relationship and he should wait for you till you find time for love?
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
19 Oct 15
@owstalaga - I think you just cannot get this out your system so easily, it will linger on your mind and till you take a decision, whether to go for it now or not go for it, your dilemma will remain.
, it will linger on your mind and till you take a decision, whether to go for it now or not go for it, your dilemma will remain.@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 15
Oh no, I just wanted to get i t out of my system because I was having a dilemma when I posted this.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
21 Oct 15
All I can say here is that it is just an excuse about being busy and being unable to keep in touch with the person we love.
Honestly, I simply do not believe that one can really be working the entire 24 hours of a day. I'm sure the labor laws of all countries would never let this happen. When someone says that he/she is preoccupied with whatever then it is obvious that the other party is not in their hearts. We all have to eat at one point of time, washroom break or even commute to work and with today's technology we can talk on the go and if the other party is unavailable we can always leave our loving thoughts of the day via Whatsapp or chat apps. Even a simple short text message would suffice.
Love is never logical but it is in every couple to be accountable to one another in outdoing good for the other. We need to be attentive to what we do for the other, to gain the same back at us. When I'm cold I'll wonder if my husband had put on enough warm clothing, when I am eating, I'm wondering if he is too busy to have a normal meal sitting down and if I'm happy, I would wonder if he is miserable and lonely somewhere. Such is having and sparing a thought for the other, I don't doubt for one moment that we will not do likewise.
So are we really busy every second of a 24 hour, I doubt that.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
22 Oct 15
Oh I like how you put it. 
Yes the reciprocating factor is what makes this an issue for me. Of course people, especially our significant other/bf/gf require time and affection, we can't just go around and take them for granted. That's the only reason why people will not have time for love.
A simple message can sometimes not be enough if the person's love language is more on touch. There are 5 love languages and the primary ones for each person are different. So it still depends how one can make it work but it still takes time and effort to be in a relationship. Unless one party is willing to not be the priority then the relationship might work on some level.
Yes the reciprocating factor is what makes this an issue for me. Of course people, especially our significant other/bf/gf require time and affection, we can't just go around and take them for granted. That's the only reason why people will not have time for love.
A simple message can sometimes not be enough if the person's love language is more on touch. There are 5 love languages and the primary ones for each person are different. So it still depends how one can make it work but it still takes time and effort to be in a relationship. Unless one party is willing to not be the priority then the relationship might work on some level.1 person likes this
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
24 Oct 15
@artemeis Oh that is so true. If one of them does not really like the other then it is definitely not gonna be a good relationship. The other one will be taken for granted because he/she will not feel they have any attention at all. Why start it then right? Better to just stay single until what you are saying happens.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
23 Oct 15
@owstalaga
More importantly, I firmly believe that before one can reciprocate, one must have enough liking for one another. Liking a person is what bring about that illogical ways in loving like having additional consideration like when one party is laughing at a joke, at the same time would suddenly wonder if the other party is miserable or when one had just finished a nice meal, would wonder if the other is hungry or busy to the effect of missing a meal.
So in the first place I don't think a person who has the other person in heart and mind would ever be giving the excuse of having no time to even send a simple text message. All I can say is that this is the kind of illogical ways when one is in love.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
17 Oct 15
All in good time. When you least expect it love will find you.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
17 Oct 15
I think the bud is staring at me right now but I'm not sure if I'll acknowledge it or let it grow.
@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
17 Oct 15
thats a true idea mabe you should let love come find you
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 15
I seem to always ignore it when it does find me, except for a few times. Oh boy.
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
19 Oct 15
@softbabe44 I agree! If I'm not comfortable I tend to keep it out or ignore it.
@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
18 Oct 15
@owstalaga its gotta feel right
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@Kchitij2007 (445)
• Pune, India
18 Oct 15
Ever thought that maybe the point of this game of life is to find love amidst the distractions of work, problems and worries? If so, do you really want to leave love to convenience? How do you wonder if love really is the one thing you really need?!
Ask yourself these questions, there are no fixed answers but probably you'll realize something you didn't before.
Best wishes.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 15
Uhm... well I haven't thought of it that way. And clearly, the question still does not change my perspective but thanks for the input.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
25 Oct 15
Aw... I should do more of the things I love then so I will find love too. Maybe I wouldn't be too busy for it then.
@akshat007 (156)
• New Delhi, India
17 Oct 15
Dont wait for the busy life to give you a break. Grab a break :) It might distract but eventually jumping from one to another relationship we learn to balance them out.
May love find you otherwise :D
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
17 Oct 15
Oh thanks for the advice. That gives me a different perspective...
