Is "Suggest" being abused on MyLot? How do you do it anyway?
By The Horse
@TheHorse (220266)
Walnut Creek, California
October 20, 2015 12:20am CST
There are certain writers here who consistently "Suggest" their own posts to me. I gave in and read and commented on a few of their posts.
To my surprise, only a handful of them have ever reciprocated and liked or commented on any of my posts.
Am I wrong in finding that a little rude, and maybe even a tad abusive of the system? One on these individuals has bragged about how much money he's making here.
I expected "Suggest" to be used by writers who thought someone else might be interested in a particular post. For example, if someone posted about John Prine or Warren Zevon, I'd want to "Suggest" it to FourWalls, who shares my taste in music.
To add injury to insult, I have no idea how to "Suggest" a post to someone else, so I can't "reciprocate in kind" to those who suggest their posts to me all of the time.
Do you know how to "Suggest" a post to someone else?
Am I being too hard on those who "Suggest" their posts to others and don't reciprocate in any way?
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
20 Oct 15
must be somethin' in the air??? this's the 3rd discussion i've seen 'f this sort today! many folks abuse this handy lil feature. i see that @yukimori 'twas kind 'nough to tell ya how to do that suggestin'. fer myself, if'n it interests me i read it - suggested 'r not 'n regardless 'f if those folks reciprocate. if'n ya don't enjoy readin' those folks discussions - unfollow 'em 'n they'll not be able to send those 'suggestions' to ya any longer. life's jest too short, eh? 
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@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Oct 15
I reckon' I could unfollow 'em or just let it go. I'll probably do the latter. It gives me the opportunity to do research on human nature. I hadn't realized others had written (I wanted to say "wrote" but just couldn't) about this today.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
20 Oct 15
@TheHorse yes sir, ya could do either. reckon time'll tell which's best fer ya. gigglin' o'er the 'wrote' versus 'written'. no frettin', jest thought such's odd. kinda like there's lil gremlins runnin' 'mok 'fter midnight spreadin' their 'joy' 'round.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
20 Oct 15
I see that Yuki has already gave you the instructions to suggest a discussion
. I have suggested a few discussions to a handful of friends (not only mines) who asked for it, and because we like to interact in discussions started by each other. It is not a general rule, but most of the time I tend to ignore suggestions from members who have never responded/commented to my own discussions. I have not unfollow anyone yet, and I should probably better do it for some members who are suggesting several discussions daily and are rarely responding to discussions started by other members.
. I have suggested a few discussions to a handful of friends (not only mines) who asked for it, and because we like to interact in discussions started by each other. It is not a general rule, but most of the time I tend to ignore suggestions from members who have never responded/commented to my own discussions. I have not unfollow anyone yet, and I should probably better do it for some members who are suggesting several discussions daily and are rarely responding to discussions started by other members.2 people like this
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
20 Oct 15
I sort of think this topic has been addressed now 5 or 6 times since yesterday. There is a lot of responses on all of the other posts. I did start one off yesterday about discussion and after this I have seen like 4 or 5 people start one on the same topic. Looks like it's a problem. I was told you can do one of two things. Delete them if your not interested, ignore them because they are in their own section, or block the person who keeps sending them if they bug you so much. Personally I like mine and it helps to read what people write and then I don't need to spend so much time searching. Others don't like them and don't want them. So if you do send them find out who likes then and who doesn't. Then only send them to people who like them and not the others. it's simple.
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@ElizabethWallace (12074)
• United States
21 Oct 15
I think it is bad form to Suggest your own post. We follow our friends, shoving our posts at them is pushy, at least from my perspective.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
20 Oct 15
I only know how to suggest a post because I have just read Yuki's reply below. Of course it would have been easy enough for me to discover, but so far I have never had a use for this.
I would tend to feel that "abused" is a little too strong a term, but it does appear to be misused and taken advantage of.
In reality it may be understandable because it could be improving the overall traffic to the discussion, so I cannot criticise a person for using this approach if it pays.
@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
20 Oct 15
I very occasionally suggest someone else's post that I have really enjoyed reading. I never once used or ever intend to suggest my own writings on suggestions.
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
20 Oct 15
@horse now i'm interested how you would go about suggesting your own post. would you suggest it to everyone in your list every time you have a new post? or would match the topic to the person based on how much you know about him or her?
@LadyDuck (472060)
• Switzerland
20 Oct 15
If I were the administrator of this site, I would make impossible to users to suggest their own posts. Anyway if you want to suggest your discussion, passing the mouse at the end of your post, a menu will show and you can see "suggest", from there choose the people to whom you want to suggest your posts. About those who suggest and never come to see your posts, I have a pretty long list of them.
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@TheHorse (220266)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Oct 15
Thanks. I finally figured it out. I think only being able to suggest others' posts would be a decent idea. I actually suggested THIS post to about four people, once I figured it out. But in general, I find suggesting ones own post a bit "vulgar," unless it's used only occasionally.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
20 Oct 15
I have no idea how posts are suggested? I have never suggested any posts. I usually go down the suggested list after I have exhausted the discussions and the notifications list!
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
20 Oct 15
@TheHorse Thanks for that! I never knew!
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@fawkes62 (1276)
• United States
20 Oct 15
I suggested a my posts the first few days I was here but then forgot about it. I hardly ever look at my suggested posts so figured others probably weren't either. I barely have time to make it to those that commented on my posts and those I want to read, so don't really bother looking at them other than to get the little number to disappear.
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