how do you react when you're angry?
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
October 22, 2015 10:20am CST
when I have one thing that bothers me I can't keep it inside and I need to talk about it. if I don't do this it will get on my nerves and sooner or later I will explode. on the other hand my boyfriend instead of arguing with me prefers to get out of the house so that he could chill. what do you think is the best solution?how would you react?
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
22 Oct 15
are you serious? I think you're the first person who tells me that
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@destry (2572)
• Kirkwall, Scotland
22 Oct 15
@swissheart Indeed - I see no point in getting angry, it is such a waste of emotion and energy, it is far more productive to be happy and to have fun!
@Rationalwriter (1813)
• Lucknow, India
23 Oct 15
Haha.. No it's not the same!! Like if you see a football game, and your team loses you are pissed but I don;t thing you are angry!! ;)
@youless (112742)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Oct 15
I don't like man who wants to go out to stay calm. In fact I like to talk about it when we are both arguing with something. It is better to solve it rather than leave it. Perhaps men don't like to argue with women and they feel tired. So they often go out when they are angry. It is irresponsible and inmature in my opinion. When I am angry, I usually keep silent. Since I am too angry to speak. I know it is also not a good method to solve problems.
@Rationalwriter (1813)
• Lucknow, India
23 Oct 15
No No!! No No!! MEN never walk out.. It's the losers who can't handle a relation, they are the ones who walk out!! A man like me always talks the things out!! Maybe not at once but yeah we do!!
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
23 Oct 15
I'm a type that tends to be silent when angry but bombards the person I'm in relationship with on harsh, atrocious messages. Somehow now I realize that this might be the cause of my failed relationships before and I come to learn to lower my temper and never let anger overpower my thoughts in a relationship.
In my previous work, I once hang out with supposed friends who make condescending remarks at me, but don’t think I should do anything about because I don’t want to come across as petty. I have a really dysfunctional office environment, filled with shady colleagues and a controlling boss. The problem is, I thought I was “stuck” or I absolutely “must” be with such people because of the circumstances; they were my travel buddies and the work pays high.
Right now I just made a conscious effort to surround myself with people I can look up to and talk to. It won’t always be easy—if you need to look for a new job, for example—but it’s worth the time and effort.
Our surroundings influence our mood in a major way. So instead of focusing solely on addressing your inner anger, also address the external factors that trigger it.
@Rationalwriter (1813)
• Lucknow, India
23 Oct 15
Well I guess I get it from my parents that I am able to handle my temper very easily!! Even when my gf gets all angry and starts yelling or is in some trouble I keep a cool head and I listen to her, and when she is all spent by explaining the things that bothered her, I change the topic to some happy moment!!
But every person reacts differently!! All you need to do is just tell your boyfriend that all he needs to do is listen!! If you are mad at your boyfriend then I won;t suggest anything but if you are mad at someone else and you are trying to share it with your boyfriend just tell him that all he needs to do is listen and he doesn't even have to suggest you anything!! Slowly he will come around!! ;)
