Forgive and Forget

Forgiving is something you do voluntarily, but you can't make yourself forget.

I trust others and I forgive easily, but I never forget, and if someone walks too many times on my feet, he/she will regret it soon or later. I will just wait for the right moment to pay them back with their coins.

I neither forgive in the normally understood sense of the word, nor forget. Unfortunately, people expect the things to be normal after forgiving effectively they expect the person who was hurt to walk that extra mile to "prove" that he or she has "forgiven". I don't feel I am under any obligation to do so. Second thing is forgetting. Never. It is treated as a warning of how people can be, so I become more alert.

The forgive and forget is me principle on 99.8% cases. And that 0.2% - 1 I am quite rigid on that. If there is something that has really hurt me (I dont normally get hurt that bad), I still forgive, but dont forget. I have to keep that in mind so that I do not create another instance where the same can be inflicted upon me. And 2. Until I forget, I make things miserable for the one who inflicted that upon me. There has been an instance where the one who inflicted that did not dare come to me and avoided me. But then, when we met, I had forgotten all about what she had done. I am a lovable ghost, but at the same time, I can be dangerous if I am hurt beyond my capacities of bearing (for a while though) I think all this happens because I am ruled by my heart 99% of the times.

On forgive 'n' forget, I always have a difficult time to forgive, but when I do, I truly forget. One thing I've been "training" myself on is not to let previous bad experiences to continue cause damages to new relationships. I used to think that if I remember what badness had occurred then I would avoid falling into the same trap again in the future. Whilst that works well in principle, but entirely different in practice. As it turns out, I started to view new relationships through "tainted" lenses. It does incredible damage to the new relationship, as I was always on the look out for "warning signs". I never got around to truly enjoy it. I guess part of being strong is not about holding onto painful memories and use those to avoid future pains. It's accepting, that I will probably be hurt, be deceived, and be wronged again & again. But I am willing to embrace each 'n' every new relationship as if this bad stuff has never happened to me before. To love without the taint of past experiences. I think that is why, it is very important for me to forgive 'n' forget.

i fergive quite freely, but like'n elephant ne'er ferget. don't harbor grudges 's i find those useless.

People are different in the way they approach life and other human being in general. Yes, forgive and forget should be a mantra in order to live with healthy emotions and peace. But some people choose to neither. I guess its because these people have either been hurt or totally stuck up. For those who forgive but never forget, maybe the experience they learned from it prevent them to forget but forgive anyway just so they can move on without the ill feelings.

It's hard to put things behind you if you never forget, but you don't want to put yourself in that position again in the future, so it's probably a good idea not to forget. But not forgiving means holding a grudge, and that means being obsessed with the wrong, which is a much more active state than just remembrance. Not forgiving is very destructive to your own peace of mind. So forgive, don't obsess, but don't forget and make the same mistake again in trusting someone who isn't worthy of that trust/

I do forgive and forget, as I don't want to be bitter my whole life, as I would die a bitter person. I feel better once I forgive and then forget as it has eased my mind. I do think that forgving but not forgetting, does defeat the purpose. If a person can forgive and not forget, then they shouldn't forgive at all. Sometimes beein forgiving and then forgetting it isn't an easy task, but it can be done if we all put our minds to it. You can have peace of mind by being able to forgive and forget.

I've been through some back stabbing situations with my previous relationship but I can now say I have truly forgive them as I don't feel any ill feeling against them now. I really cant say that you can easily forget what they did but not forgive them because right now I can still remember what they've done to me but thought of the past pain as a learning.

i will forget and forgive incidents but not attitude. Attitude is permanent.

O yeah, I forgave my first love for saying goodbye to me . . . but I cannot forget her for it was her from whom I got my first lips-to-lips kiss! And I also forgave my cousin for not paying me the 5 dollars that she borrowed from me . . but, man, why can't I forget about it?!

I try very hard to forgive and forget. It doesn't do any good to harbor a grudge, it only causes strife within ourselves and with those around us.

there are some past situations in my life that i can still remember even in complete detail but not forgetting the past doesn't mean I have not forgiven the persons involved in such issue.. i can easily forgive a person and continue with my life without forgetting what has happened between us in the past. .. i take those negative and positive happenings as a lesson

I am an easy going Person and yes I believe in forgive and forget but there are 4 People that I will never forget what they did to me they nearly destroyed me I am a Person who does not like arguments or hurting People but what those 4 People did to me I will never be able to forget

I think that forgiveness is not directly related to forgetting something, we can forgive someone without forgetting what was done to us. We can also forgive someone while choosing to exclude them from our lives. These situations are t easy. They aren't black and white. And sometimes they get tricky and complicated. It isn't always what It appears to be.

Wow, I'd not thought about this topic much but now I'm thinking back and realize that with some people I tend to harbor a grudge. Now you've got me thinkin kiddo.

Tammy, its silly to not to forgive or forget.. by doing both we do ourselves a personal favor.. we just permit ourselves to be free from hurt and move on with life. On another site the site admin was trying to undermine my article on forgiveness by saying we need not forget.. we can still fight our fights... Each to his/her own.. The choices we make in life is the person we turn out to be.. I forgive , forget and move on,.. life is too short to hold grudges and make myself unhappy in the bargain,.

I feel like I have a great capacity for forgiveness.

Everyone got his own "red line" let's say. Ofcourse you can forgive and forget some actions that been done against you or the public.You may forgive some people for their actions or thoughts but never forget or even not forgive them , it all depends where is your red line , what actions disturbes you the most. its always easy to forgive but its not always easy to forget , and it takes alot to forget.