How can WE help a friend facing divorce or loss of a Mate?
@Hatley (163776)
Garden Grove, California
October 26, 2015 3:31pm CST
I often am inspired by others posts. Talklng about friends going
through divorce or loss of a mate,I just realized that for me my coworker friends were most helpful when they were just there for me. They did not gush "Oh Im so sorry etc" but they let me talk then sometimes suggested ways to make the grieving less painful, one dear friend told me' "just take it one day at a time, you can handle that then it will get better gradually." an that is what I did.,
That would work for the friend who is going thr divorce too, just be a good listener amnd also suggest she just take life one step at a time. Your take fellow m ylotters
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
26 Oct 15
it never hurts to simply ask, do you just need to let it all out? Or you want me to offer up some advice. Sometimes we need to talk, sometimes we need an opinion
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Oct 15
@Jessicalynnt he he I got it yes my lot wo uld not lie that one but I know what you meant. Iknodw we all grieve a bit differentlyh but just being there for somone shows we care.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
27 Oct 15
@Hatley yeah, we dont always need to offer what we would do, sometimes people just need time to b....er that word isn't ok on here, um, complain and rant and vent! lol
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
26 Oct 15
When I was divorced, I felt totally abandoned by my family. I know now that it was because they didn't know what to do or say, but just being there is the most important thing. It doesn't hurt to ask if there's something they need. As a suddenly single Mom, I could have used some help with ordinary things.
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@marguicha (223010)
• Chile
27 Oct 15
I think that the only thing we can do is to be there. What I mean is hug if you are a hugger, show the person your love. There are no words
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Oct 15
that is it as we cannot always feel just what they are feelikng but just being there is so mujch comfort and help then they took up a collection and paid haflf m y rent I was so overwhelmed tith their kindness. the best staff I had evedr wor ked with;
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Oct 15
hiGudheart that is it really and I remember the oldestone of the fri ends of the Library just took me in her arms and said you have been through a shock but it will get better. That really helped me so much.
@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
26 Oct 15
I am so poor in the choice of words to use in such a case and so would gladly go with listening. i can do that pretty well
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Oct 15
@Missmwngi yes and thost times we need our friends to just lksten to us help;s so much
@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
26 Oct 15
@Hatley Sure,there are times when we just want someone to listen as we let it out of our system
@jugsjugs (12967)
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27 Oct 15
I tend to listen to friends that have gone through a break up, or like yourself a loss of a loved one.
You are right that you do have to take one day at a time, I also feel that remembering even a small thing can also put a smile on your face of fun times, silly things that you done with the person, or even pet names helps.
I was devastated when my dad passed away, for a long time.It was not until I thought of him no longer suffering that I realised we shared a special bond that some people never have the chance to have with one another, thankful of the time we had together and the love we shared.
@Tampa_girl7 (50250)
• United States
27 Oct 15
Just to have someone listen to us is a lot of comfort.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Oct 15
yes it really is as so many of can talk a stream but are not good listeners at all.
