Loud people

By sofs
@sofssu (23662)
October 27, 2015 9:54pm CST
We were at my mom in laws this Sunday and my husband's cousin came visiting. He has a one year old son and the man was speaking so loudly to his baby. I asked my husband if his cousin was deaf because the little boy could hear my normal speech and respond to it normally. I was told he wasn't The man was speaking to me as if I was sitting a mile away from him and it was grating on my ears. I wondered if his father was deaf and was told he wasn't deaf either.. They were just a family of loud people. I mean he was reeeally loouudd. I didn't realize that some people have a habit of speaking so loud. I literally had to excuse myself and walk away from the room because I couldn't take it any more. I started to have a headache and my ears were ringing from it. Can you stand loud people?
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
28 Oct 15
I also talk loudly sometimes , but modulate it when i notice that it has come too loud .
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD At least you know when to modulate.. that guy seems to have lots control. Man I have never heard someone that loud. I am sure you are no competition for him.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
28 Oct 15
@sofssu I have an officemate who talks loud and it seems like he is argumentative . And when you ask if he is agitated , he would say NO and we laugh . .
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@SIMPLYD Its difficult to figure out the cause though.. I pity you for having to put up with him everyday.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
28 Oct 15
@sofssu, Yes,my younger sister is a 'loudspeaker.'She starts saying something and I immediately move a little away to protect my ears.Problem with her is that she is an unstoppable speaker.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@else34 Is she unbearably loud? Does she have any problem with her ears nose or throat? If not maybe you need to tell her to calm down or something.
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@sofssu (23662)
29 Oct 15
@else34 Maybe she just needs to become aware of the problem this behavior would cause in normal social interactions or at the work place.. if she has no underlying physical causes she can easily get over this habit.Maybe you could help her understand this and encourage her to change.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
29 Oct 15
@sofssu Yeah,too loud for her listeners.We all have told her to calm down,and she tries to,but....She has no problem at all.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
28 Oct 15
Same here, I can't stand loud people. Unfortunately, my new neighbor is so loud and each morning as I water my plants, all that I hear is her loud voice. My place was once peaceful, each morning all I could hear was the tweeting birds in my mango tree but now, that loud woman. I am trying hard to avoid hating her.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
28 Oct 15
@sofssu I wish I could drive away that loud woman but she is not just renting but she owns the house. Sometimes, I am tempted to ask God to silence her in whatever way.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@salonga Oh no.. Maybe he is teaching you patience.. he often works in ways we don't understand.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@salonga I am so sorry.. If you have to listen to that everyday its torture. We used to have someone like that when we lived in our apartment. That guy used to live half his life on the phone in the corridor next to my door.. Finally we had to ask him to leave.
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@jstory07 (140106)
• Roseburg, Oregon
28 Oct 15
There is no reason why anyone should be so loud. I have seen and head loud people before they are no fun.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@jstory07 I agree with you completely.. You cannot have someone sitting next to you and yelling their heads off. Just not fun,
@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
28 Oct 15
Our maid in Manila is like that. It seems that she always having a fight haha! If I really can't stand the volume I am just telling her "Are you angry? Why are you shouting?" and everybody will laugh! Haha!
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
28 Oct 15
@sofssu I think I can slap him if I will be the wife haha!I prefer whispers on my ears! haha!
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@wiLLmaH Thank God you aren't I did laugh out loud seeing your comment.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@wiLLmaH Maybe I can even understand a poor domestic help.. but an educated IT professional yelling at the top of his lungs seems rather silly to me.. Imagine him with his wife or at the office.
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@LadyDuck (472160)
• Switzerland
28 Oct 15
Oh poor you, I understand your pain, I cannot stand loud people. The members of the family of my mothers all speak very loud. I have to quit the room when I visit.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@LadyDuck I pity his wife.. Thankfully I get to see him once in five years at the most.. but It was unbearable to say the least.
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
28 Oct 15
I know someone like this. they talk so loudly, you feel like you've been assaulted.
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@sofssu (23662)
29 Oct 15
@Rollo1 You have hit the nail on the head.. that was how I felt.. I mean, I have met people who speak loudly before.. My teen with his changing voice is loud and we have to remind him to speak softly.. but this is brutal like an assault.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
28 Oct 15
lol I live in the US so I'm used to loud people. Sometimes I wonder if we don't have some huge hearing loss pandemic over here. Not that everybody is like that, but there are still a lot of people who think they have to be heard over everything.
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@sofssu (23662)
29 Oct 15
@cupkitties LOL you had me laughing.. I am not sure if you have a hearing loss pandemic over there.. My American friend are soft spoken and well behaved.
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@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
29 Oct 15
I prefer a softer tone of voice myself. It is disturbing to everyone when it is too loud.
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@sofssu (23662)
29 Oct 15
@BelleStarr I am sure most of us would agree with you.. its really disturbing to have someone talk so loud.
@delyaj30 (613)
• Quezon City, Philippines
28 Oct 15
maybe he is accustom to speak loud and for him, it's normal
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@delyaj30 It is normal for him.. but He is decibels above the normal peoples normal.
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@Juliaacv (51551)
• Canada
28 Oct 15
If its just isolated instances like that I agree that it can be very annoying and you also have to wonder if its not an attention thing. Some people will do that to get attention.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@Juliaacv I was sure he wasn't seeking attention.. because there was no other audience other than us inn that small house.. He was talking to everyone in that same pitch.. I was seriously feeling sorry for him thinking he was deaf.. but my husband laughed and said he wasn't.
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@Juliaacv (51551)
• Canada
28 Oct 15
@sofssu I've seen that over the years in people that are high strung. Its sad because it does take away from any possible enjoyment if they are too loud and intimidating, and it sounds like they were.
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
28 Oct 15
I have a feeling there was hearing loss there and they didnt know.
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@sofssu (23662)
29 Oct 15
@Jessicalynnt I do suspect that it runs in that whole family. Its possible.
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• Centralia, Missouri
30 Oct 15
@sofssu with that kind of yelling, maybe secret ear plugs, lol
@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
28 Oct 15
Sorry for that,sometimes loudness can turn out to be a headache for sure. I guess you should find a way to deal with the loudness incase there is another family gathering and they happen to be around.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@Missmwngi Its easier for me to avoid him now that I know his problem. I cannot put myself through another obe of those sessions.. I wonder if no one close to him tells him about this.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
28 Oct 15
@sofssu It might be his nature and so the people around him got used to that
• Morocco
29 Oct 15
Sure, there are too many peoples suffer from this bad habit, i think that is grow with the person from childhood, so this period is very suitable time to get rid of this bad habit.
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@sofssu (23662)
29 Oct 15
@idrissi1977 It is surely a habit and as in all habits people can gain a certain amount of control if they put their minds to it.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Oct 15
I prefer people that speak loud enough that I can hear them without needing earmufffs.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@1hopefulman I am glad that you qualified your statement with that one last word.. Oh boy did I need them ever so badly!
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• United States
29 Oct 15
Some people just have loud voices and probably don't even realize they are that loud. Unless of course someone would them something, along the lines, 'Can you take it down an octave or two'. I'm not sure I could handle it, specially if there is a group of people. It would surely give me a headache.
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 15
They make me so uncomfortable. I know sometimes it's probably just their nature and they're not aware of it themselves but yeah it's a bit annoying.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@cahaya1983 Annoying? With this guy I was at the risk of going deaf.
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@amnabas (14720)
• Karachi, Pakistan
28 Oct 15
No i cant but i have to as my sister is too loudy and i am a cool and calm person.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@amnabasc Phew.. This guy is extraordinarily loud.. I fear for his kid.. I feel he may go deal just listening to his dad.
@DeborahDiane (40324)
• Laguna Woods, California
28 Oct 15
A lot of people who are hard of hearing tend to talk too loud. It could be the man was a little bit deaf.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@DeborahDiane That is what I thought at first,..but I was told he wasn't. My mother in law laughed when I suggested that he needs his ears checked.. she told me he has been like that since he was a kid.
@vickyrose (2235)
• Cooma, Australia
28 Oct 15
I lower my voice when speaking to loud people and they tend to follow suit if they are not ... deaf. Nope, I can't stand loud noise nowadays.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Oct 15
@vickyrose LOL I did that.. and he started to yell some more.. Oh boy that was when I need to get out of that room. I was having a headache by then.