No matter how educated, talented, rich you are, how you treat others ultimately tells us how you actually are.
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58676)
Delhi, India
October 29, 2015 5:47am CST
Hello everyone!
We come across many people in our life. Some of them tell us that they are very educated, talented and rich. However, we only come to know about real them, the way they treat us. If they give us due respect and treat us nicely, we tend to see them at higher pedestal and come to a conclusion that they have been imparted meaningful education and manners. If they don’t treat us well, we feel - what is the use of their education and talent if they don’t know how to behave decently with us.
Do you treat others nicely, irrespective of their status in society?
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36 responses
@vandana7 (100300)
• India
29 Oct 15
I don't agree with this. People tend to be nice with others when they wish to gain something. This is true almost 60 percent cases. I would not place anybody on pedestal for sure simply because he spoke well. At times, those who do not speak well are the ones who are kinder and more reliable ones.
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 Oct 15
Is that why I never get what I want, because they want me to be NICE to them in order to get it?!
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 Oct 15
@vandana7 So I should go to the 40% that will allow me to be my mean self and still give me what I want? How will I find them, though?
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@vandana7 (100300)
• India
29 Oct 15
@purplealabaster ..I am glad I enlightened you. I said 60 percent of cases. It may be the set of folks that are around me.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
@jaboUK - Yes, you are very right that one's financial or social status should not come in way of decent behavior.
@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
29 Oct 15
I may not "like" everybody, nor agree with them. But I treat them with respect and expect the same.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
29 Oct 15
Yes money does not buy breeding for sure dpk.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
29 Oct 15
So true that if one is rich or has lots of wealth, there is no guarantee that s/he would be nice in his/her behavior too.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
29 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Yes seriously, I have witnessed this many times. Some with money have absolutely no compassion and all ego about themselves and their possessions.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
@jstory07 - What you say is correct, however the focus of the post is - irrespective of one's financial status, one should treat others with respect.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
It is very interesting to hear that you judge a person the way how he treats a waiter. You see many persons sitting in a restaurant feel that waiters are not equal to his status and many treat a waiter shabbily. Their treatment to a waiter tells about real them.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
Our dear friend @boiboing has expressed similar views like you.
Yes, you are very right that to judge a person it should be observed how he treats a waiter or an assistant in a shop. If a person does not treat them with minimum due respect, he is not worth his status.
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
30 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Equally, I would see someone who is scared of a waiter or unwilling to send back something bad as a bit weak.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
I know that you are humble and polite and you would treat others, the way they treat you. us. It is good on your part to treat others, without taking into consideration their financial or other status.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
30 Oct 15
It depends on individuals themselves, I feel the way people treat fellow workers and others like waiters in a restaurant, menial workers and those who are poorer than them - shows how arrogant or compassionate they are . I feel that people are far too complex to be judged by any one action of theirs
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
Yes, you are right the way someone behave with waiters/servants etc. tells about a person's attitude. People may be complex but if they are pretending that they are behaving decently, they cannot do it for a long time. What they really are will come out from their behavior sooner or later.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
29 Oct 15
I try to treat others as I would like them to treat me. Of course, this does not always work, but I find that if you are nice and pleasant with most people, then they will be the same way back to you.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
@purplealabaster - Yes, you are very right that if we treat others with respect, there is likelihood of they reciprocating, barring some exceptions.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
27 Jan 16
Thanks for the invitation. When you are going to release your book?
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
27 Jan 16
@pgiblett Our best wishes are with you.
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@pgiblett (6524)
• Canada
27 Jan 16
@dpk262006 About 2 years after I find a publisher, which I am currently working on.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
29 Oct 15
It is not easy to treat everyone equally since I don't have anything in common with everyone. I try to avoid people, except my husband of course.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
29 Oct 15
Yes, you are right that you cannot treat everyone equally but you could be nice with people who come across you in your day to day life, provided they are also behaving decently.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
@AbbyGreenhill - therefore, I said that the other person should also behave nicely with you. If he is behaving oddly, then you have every right to go to other direction.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
29 Oct 15
@dpk262006 I can be nice and I can go the other direction depending on who it is.
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@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
29 Oct 15
The average person doesn't talk about ther weatth, education and brag a lot. Those that do end up with followers that want something, like money not friends. I feel sorry for people so insecure in their life they feel they need to brag and make themselves better than others.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
29 Oct 15
Yes, you are very right that an average person does not boost or brag about his education or special skills or money. Those who have habit of boosting are always obsessed with a kind of narcissism and they are perhaps feel little insecure inside, therefore, they keep telling others about their wealth.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
After having interacted with you here on mylot, I am pretty sure about you that your treat everyone with respect and this has earned you many friends. Keep it up.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
2 Nov 15
@poehere - You are warm and friendly with others that is why you have so many friends not only in real life but here on mylot also and your friends reciprocate in the same manner with you.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
30 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Oh thank you so much. This is so kind of you to say this. I worked around the world and gained so many friends. Many I wish I could see again. I now have a lot of new friend on here including you. I love to be nice to people because it give you such a warm feeling when they are nice back.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
29 Nov 15
Do you treat everyone with respect, irrespective of his financial status?
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
2 Dec 15
@paigea It is great on your part that you show respect to everyone you come across.
@paigea (36317)
• Canada
1 Dec 15
@dpk262006 absolutely. When I meet people I rarely know what their finances are.
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
30 Oct 15
you made a statement with the status of your post, some people seem to forget where they left when they reach a certain position
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
Yes, many people forget about their original status when they touch some higher pedestal and their ego gets inflated and they start behaving others with disdain.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
@swissheart - Then any day you should make your boss realized that previously he has not a boss but a subordinate to another boss.
@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
5 Nov 15
yes courtesy costs nothing and to me everyone bleeds red regardless of status or privilege
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
5 Nov 15
It is nice to hear that you try to be courteous with everyone, irrespective of his economic of financial status.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
5 Nov 15
@arthurchappell - I appreciate your approach.
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@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
5 Nov 15
@dpk262006 I treat everyone as a friend until they prove otherwise
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
2 Nov 15
@MusesM - It is good to hear that you treat others with respect.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
@dpk262006,You are absolutely correct.It's our behaviour,our way of treating others that shows what we are.Good persons make others feel great in their company.If you meet me and I make you feel good,then and then only I am a good person.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
Yes, you are very right that on meeting each other, we should make each other comfortable, else if you and me start boosting about our wealth or social position, it could spoil the show.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
@dpk262006 Exactly.Arrogance kills friendship.
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@Sheilamarie78 (2586)
• Canada
30 Oct 15
I don't like pretence. Every person deserves respect. It's not right to treat someone poorly no matter what their social status.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
30 Oct 15
It is good to hear that you don't believe in bragging and you do not shy away from treating everyone with respect.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
2 Nov 15
@Sheilamarie78 - I apologize for the typo error. I wanted to write that you DON'T believe in bragging (I've since edited my comment).
Now, you could rephrase your counter-comments accordingly.
@Sheilamarie78 (2586)
• Canada
30 Oct 15
@dpk262006 What do you mean "you believe in bragging"? I didn't think I was bragging, just saying I don't like it when people see themselves as better than others. That's only an image they have of themselves and doesn't reflect the truth of who we are as human beings.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Nov 15
I do not care how much money a person has, or how educated they are, if they are rude or cruel to me or someone else, I have no respect for them and will ignore them. If someone does not have a lot, but they are kind and well mannered, then I have respect for them and will treat them with respect.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 15
Yes, you are very right that a person's wealth and education has no meaning if he does not behave nicely, these kinds of people do not deserve respect.
If one is well mannered and treats us with respect, naturally, we treat him in the same manner.
Thanks for responding to my posts.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
9 Nov 15
@bluesa Yes, we are on the same page.
Thanks for your wishes. Yes, Indian Cricket team proved better than SA and they won the match.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
7 Nov 15
@dpk262006 , we are agreed. You are welcome :-). Congrats to India on winning the First Test, they really demolished us. Ouch.
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