Balance

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How do you find and create balance in your life? Is your life geared only toward work? Are you neglecting other parts of your life like your spouse, child, self? Perhaps you are not properly caring for your body, over eating, not eating, eating the wrong foods? Do you neglect your appearance? Go out in jammies and slippers, not even brushing your hair? Is life so awful you cannot bear to get out of bed so you live in sleep ware all the while preventing yourself from feeling, “The real world?” Feelings are there to indicate something is out of balance. They start out small bringing our attention to an ache or pain. And when ignored the small aches and pains become bigger and stronger and in time illness. The typical American at this point goes to the doctor of Western medicine and is given a pill or two, prescription drugs to mask the symptom and rarely addressing the underlying problem of feelings or emotions. Deep seated anger and other intense long suppressed feelings and emotions can produce cancer, diabetes, ulcers, and much, much more. Discomfort is not something we want to experience it brings unknown and that then generates anxiety leading into fear. Some people literally freeze up when faced with an intense emotion as protection. (In cases of shock and trauma this is expected and once incident is revealed or discovered a person can, only if willing and willing to be 100% honest get professional help.) This results in slamming the scales off balance and is not even part of the solution. Many live lives today as, “Ignore it and it will go away,” this works when faced with specific times such as one person not wanting to break up and bombards others will calls and texts. Or by the taunting of a jealous person. In cases of antagonism this is a solution but hiding just because you don’t want to feel the emotional discomfort greatly impairs life. And this radiates throughout that person’s life. Relationships suffer, are broken, trust is twisted, suspicion and doubt become a lifestyle. There is no balance under these circumstances. One is mistaken because they, “think” they can control whatever, and whomever they can with manipulation and guilt. I emphasize, “think,” because this their way of handling (ignoring) and still avoiding their own uncomfortable feelings and emotions. Instead they project negativity onto others. Control is shifting the stick shift to drive a car, control is the temperature you adjust on a thermostat. Control is not indulging as a way to sooth the discomfort. Control is not forcing others to do things, or sabotaging good people by putting down the ones who do well and are successful. Attacking others because you feel awful inside. ONLY you can handle confronting your suppressed feelings, for thinking you control your feelings and emotions by ignoring them is a fantasy.