My sister beat her daughther

I don't know about where your sister lives but her she could go to jail for that. Beating a kid or anyone isn't going to make them listen. Someone needs to get professional help.

Beating kids never works.

First off, the money/job lecture won't work. Kids aren't thinking about their future yet, or they think everything will work out fine no matter what. Second, not every child is going to be good in school. Not everyone can grow up and go to good schools and get good jobs. That might not be this child's future. As long as the child grows up happy and healthy and works for a living, that's all that really matters.

I agree with you that it's not the right thing to do to beat her daughter. From now on she must stop to give things to her daughter. If she wants something, she must work to have it, no matter if the work is studying.

I think beating a child is not good she should talk to her polietly and make her understand the importance of education.

*Beating* is definitely not the answer. Getting to the root of the problem as to why the girl does not want to study and learn is the better way. Maybe she has a learning problem. Maybe she is being bullied in school and has lost motivation. There could be many reasons the girl is behaving this way. However, she will not open up and talk about what is going on with someone who is beating her. The daughter needs to feel she can talk openly and honestly. She needs to feel safe and understood. There needs to be an environment that is conducive to studying and learning, a specific place in the home where she can study. A schedule as to when homework is done should be enforced. This means no TV, cell phones, hanging out with friends until homework is done. A parent or even a tutor should be available if the girl needs help with homework. Many children lose hope if they don't understand the work. Many act out instead of simply saying they do not understand. A discussion should take place with the teacher/teachers as to anything that is going on at school with the girl that might be causing her behavior. A teacher can give suggestions on how to motivate more on the homework issue.

Beating the child is not going to help her and the child is going to stop learning at all. I believe that your sister needs help to find a better way to deal with the daughter. Good luck in makng her realize that she is doing wrong.

I don't know more about Romania, but I can ensure you in China students suffer more heavy study pressure. If Romanian students experience the education here, then they will realize how lucky they are. This is what I often tell my foreign friends. I think right now the most importance is not telling your sister's daughter why she has to study. I guess her relationship is not so close with her mom. Your sister shall rebuild a better relationship with her at first. Try to be friends rather than a parent and child. When she has been loved enough, she would try to do the best. When I was a child, I often told myself one day when I was a mom, I would be a good friend to my child and correct my parents' mistakes. So I have a good relationship with my son now. I remember one day he didn't have a good score and he felt worried and he was afraid I would not be happy. I said to him that let's see what's wrong. Careless? Too difficult? I didn't blame him, on the other hand, I encouraged him to get a better score next time. I never want to do anything which may let him lose interest to study. Especially if he meets some difficulties in study, we need to help him much more. In China there will be much more homework and study pressure. I was a student and I knew how it was like. Even until now, sometimes I would have a nightmare about exams. So I want my child to feel relaxed to it. Try to find more sparks from children and praise it. Everybody is different and they are good at different things.

If it is a question of the girl having too much without working for it, her mother can start taking it away until the work is done.

Beating achild just because she doesn't want to study is a No-No . Maybe what she can do is give her an incentive if she studies well .

i think your sister needs more patient with her daughter,sometimes it is not easy to raise a kid

A little encouragement goes a long way.. But does she have other problems? Its better to rule out those.

how old is the girl? it could be many things but I think age may play a role for me to formulate an opinion.