Are we losing the courage to be ourselvs or is just a trick of society? (Part2)

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Being ourselves is a process that has to be taken. Doesn't make sense? Keep on reading and you will understand. The first question that applies here and the most important thing is: Do you know yourself? If your answer was: 'Of course yes', I advise you to think again. You may know your weaknesses and traits, but how deep do you know your attitudes, your desires, your feelings and your thinking methods, your potential and your soul? Let me tell you that is not hard to find a person with 34 years old that still doesn't know his own potentials, I have met people with more than 25 years that don't even know their own dreams. Why does this happen? First thing is, people are so busy working, studying, having a relationship and hanging out with friends that they actually don't give time to themselves to know themselves. Time to know yourself. Why do you need that? Because you can not love nor hate something or someone that you do not know, and if you don't know yourself, you will never love yourself, no matter how much money or friends you have. Talking to yourself may seem crazy but I will tell you a secret, I talk to myself since I was 13, and the result is what you are reading, and this is only the tip of the iceberg. But before I explain you how you do that, I will tell you why do you need to know yourself. The answer may look obvious but it is not. Only once you know yourself, or try to understand yourself, you will be able to understand others and why they act the way they do. It will give you an insight of the human mind. You need not to be a shrink to do that, you just need time and patience to yourself. Once you understand yourself, the stress of your life will decrease drastically, because you know why things happen, how you will react to the situation and how you will be able to get out trough your abilities that you would not know unless you took the time to do so. The advantages are enormous. Now moving on to the next part, how you do it? Well, this part is the tricky one. To get a strong mind by knowing yourself, well, you will have to 'take time to know yourself'. Yep, that's right. Isolation. Wait, don't go that far. Isolation doesn't mean that you should go to a exotic abandoned island, it only means that you should talk to yourself often, daily to begin with. You might get surprised by the creepy voice inside your head, but you will have to deal with it and understand it, not control it, but understand it first. I don't control mine because I like it when she is free. It's your choice. I actually was talking to a acquaintance of mine here in mylot, @Jessicalynnt, and I actually said this to her, if you allow me to say: "Loneliness most of the times is the trait of the strong minded. I am a very communicative and open person, but I tend to find my best ideas and inspirations when lonely and sad. I think that these states of mind exist to give you a sense of humanity, the compassion that is being lost with the times. With loneliness we can actually understand what love is about, what life is about, why are we here, why do we live, only because we ask questions to the world, and get the answers that we would not receive if we were in a crowd of people. It hurts, but it's better than being surrounded with people that are not worth it. Only when you are lonely you can see the ones that really care". I should thank her for this publication of mine. My best regards, Júlio Carlos. Thank you for reading.