Ouch, that Wasn't Very Nice

Unfortunately it's easy to misinterpret comments when we are unable to hear tone of voice or see facial expressions. I know this at first hand, when @garymarsh6 left a comment on one of my posts which I found amusing. I came back at him with ''Trust you to lower the tone of my post!'' I was joshing him but he took it seriously, deleted the comment and sent me a PM saying how sorry he was to upset me. I was aghast that he hadn't realised I was joking. We were able to laugh about it after that, but my point is that comments can be taken the wrong way, a way that the commenter hadn't intended.

I've had a few the last two days that weren't very nice, they were very rude, but it's part of life I guess.

Leaving comments that are "meant to be hurtful and to belittle the writer". Is a Guideline violation and should be reported. I have also seen some unnecessarily harsh comments, verging on rudeness, left on discussions where the D.O. was clearly new and needed guiding.

I have to say that I am the type who will just delete a comment if someone upsets me, period. My post, my delete button. oww that sounds a little harsh lol Most of the time the writer knows exactly what they are doing and does it anyway. I just want peace and love and flowers .... here I go drifting off again. lol

I have one person responding to me in a an insensitive manner.. I avoid such people, but they make it a point to comment and write some insensitive comment.

I did notice that some members are pretty harsh with people.

Please report to Alex anything that seems to be deliberately hurtful. That is not the myLot way of relating.

hi Juliaacv Some on the lot can be intimidating. By and large, though, if you continue what you are doing, being pleasant and respectful, you will attract like minded people, who appreciate your style. I've found, though, that there are folks who simply enjoy a vigorous debate, and who as much as they seem to be aggressively arguing, seem to really love the interaction of the most challenging people. At times, those people may seem unpleasant, but its good to be cautious about making a judgment based on one or two comments in a single interchange. Over time, try visiting the profile and seeing what they have to say on a range of topics, under different circumstances and with different correspondents? Like getting to know anyone, it is hard to really understand someone you only see in one setting. And it is so easy to misunderstand one another. Of course, there have been some who were just downright unkind, but I found them to be few, and short lived. Those can be avoided. May your interactions be rich and rewarding

This isn't facebook were they could trash-talk all they want and call it freedom of expression or something. there's a way of sayings things not meant to be rude. Unfortunately when the post is about politics and religion some people can't help themselves.

Whether in 2015 or 2023 this is a bad thing to see on here.

In my opinion (which probably doesn't worth the box I'm typing in), we should call those folks out when it happens, as oppose to starting a discussion about it. Once again, this is my opinion on the subject and please do not take it personally.

It's a hard pill to swallow when you get a harsh remark and I always try to let a rude remark roll off my shoulders. Sometimes it hard though

I did challenge someone yesterday for what I thought was a rather aggressive attack on another member in the comments. If someone's rude to me, I may well let it pass but if they do it to others, I'll get my smiting stick out and give a good thwack.

I always try to be respectful when leaving comments. Kindness will always go further in my book.

I think that I should probably use more emoticons, because sometimes I am very dry and people might not understand. I haven't seen anything as harsh as you say. Unless it was me, and then I wouldn't notice my own harshness probably. Now I am going to have read everything I have said the last few days.

There is always the provision to send messages to seek clarification. I did that yesterday and just as well because I had totally misunderstood that comment.

That is a shame, I am sorry to hear that is going on. I thought we were all here to have a little fun and make a few $$

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, I think is the order of the day. Or get chummy with "Mrs. BeDoneByAsYouDid".

that's too bad. i haven't seen any of those comments at this point, but haven't had much time to spend there yet.

I haven't seen this in my few days here. Can you flag that sort of thing?