would you institutionalize your parents?

Actually taking your parents home with you is not a good idea. If you can find facilities such as day care center for them, you can work and still take care of them in the evening. That will be best. If they are sick, and bedridden, then you have to send them to the nursing home. That does not mean abandon them. You can always go and bring them out for evening walk.

The choice is not always so simple. When my mother became totally incapable of looking after herself she was admitted into the local geriatric ward by her doctor and my brother and I visited every day. We both knew that we would not be able to care for her adequately if we took her out of there and she would be unlikely to live very long. As a result we had no choice but to leave her there despite her regular pleas to come home. It would be impossible to describe how difficult it was to walk out of there some days.

i think its a sentiment most of us share but sometimes its just not a possibility for us all. Although we have already told our children they are not to leave us in an institution or we will take them out of our wills and haunt them when we die lol.

I think your perspective may change when you find yourself living with two senile, incontinent and violent people who don't have the first idea who you are. Sad but true.

This is an important discussion each one of us needs to have with our parents. We should seek to understand THEIR wishes before it gets to that point. Every situation, every family is unique.

i'll never do that,because I live for my parents, they really loved me , and worked really hard for my studies and they were with me at good and bad times NO One will do this if he loves his parents

parents should be given the love they want when they are old

My father is already deceased and that would never happen to my Japanese mother. And with 5 of us girls, and all of our children, with 3 or 4 being nurses and one respiratory therapist, she will never stay in a nursing home.