How long can you hold
By Bala
@everloving (439)
Chennai, India
November 12, 2015 4:31am CST
There is so much going on around & you are tested everytime when something or the other happens. It is easily said than done to control the anger. I often come across people who at times get under my skin & really test my patience. When this occurs i always try to keep my cool. Things are very disturbing at times that you bend & break beyond the threshold level. There is a lot of exploration going on in my mind to find new way to conquer what is supposed to be an very bad evil. I hope as i get older my tolerance level will be better.
How long will you be patient before succumbing to anger??
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@sofssu (23662)
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12 Nov 15
I used to get angry very fast.. years ago.. I worked on learning to control my anger for a couple of years I should say .. I choose my battles now.. I am in control.. I don't let others push my buttons. The other day some one said something mean.. I just responded how kind of you thank you and god bless. That stopped the person in her tracks.
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@sofssu (23662)
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12 Nov 15
@everloving Avoidance is only a momentary escape.. when you live with someone like that its better to learn to respond only to the times they speak to you rationally, play deaf at other times.. or just use a head phone or ear plugs to stop getting irritated. Don't let them know that they have the keys to your emotions.
I know it is tough.. it doesn't come over night.
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@everloving (439)
• Chennai, India
12 Nov 15
@sofssu Thanks for this valuable tip, let me practice it 
@everloving (439)
• Chennai, India
12 Nov 15
Well said. Avoidance is the best way to control anger, but certain things are so hurting that it is only making us to react. What do you if you live with a person who is capable of pulling your leg on every possible ocassion
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@djgarner86 (289)
• Exeter, England
12 Nov 15
It depends on what has happened before I guess. I tend to only stress out if it's been issue after issue all day long.
@everloving (439)
• Chennai, India
12 Nov 15
Thats exactly what i am taking about, the issue whole day. How you maintain your temperament??
@djgarner86 (289)
• Exeter, England
12 Nov 15
@everloving Sometimes I am grumpy, I'm sure my wife would agree. I think what you have to remember is you shouldn't take out your frustration on other people who have done nothing wrong. I think it is called "kick the cat syndrome"
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@everloving (439)
• Chennai, India
12 Nov 15
@djgarner86 Good point. Day by day i am just increasing my tolerance level , but some anger tries to creep inside.
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@everloving (439)
• Chennai, India
12 Nov 15
thats really good. Keep up the same forever you will surely bear its fruit.
@everloving (439)
• Chennai, India
12 Nov 15
Oh yes, it has happened for me as well. We take it for granted & feel deceived by the situation.
@Rationalwriter (1813)
• Lucknow, India
12 Nov 15
When it is a matter of a general discussion or a person's personality being irriitating, I never lose my cool.
But if someone accuses me of something that I din do or questions me when I am not wrong, that is when my cool just goes off immediately
@everloving (439)
• Chennai, India
13 Nov 15
This is exactly what i was talking about, When you get accused for the thing which you did not do (or) blamed for every action of yours.
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@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Nov 15
I think it depends on the situation. Sometimes I can go without getting angry, and then it happens on a moment's notice.
@everloving (439)
• Chennai, India
13 Nov 15
I am trying not to be fragile. Every day that ticks by i want to keep expanding my reserves of patience
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
14 Nov 15
Hi, there is no definite way to avoid anger and sadly, one can only control this primal emotion over countless practice. I am not immune to this human impulse myself and I could recall countless situations where if given the chance, I would have dealt with differently. But as they say, we are but human and over time, we learn to control our emotions and with this, we become better individuals.
What I could impart is that I always avoid situations that would likely trigger my anger and just always think before act. I know this doesn't take effect at all times. But life is a cycle, there's always other chances to be better,
