Unwanted guest
By Tiff Gray
@T_gray (7774)
Salina, Kansas
November 15, 2015 5:26am CST
So, here's the deal, that I'm sure a few have faced. I allowed a friend of mine to stay with me for two weeks while she was getting infusion therapy at the hospital. She lives out of town and we thought this would be easier then driving in everyday.
Well her situation at her home wasn't all that great to begin with and during the time she was with me she got kicked out of her place. Sooooo, now that her therapy is over I ask her what her plans are on going back home and she said she doesn't have a home.
Well I'm thinking to myself, "you can't stay here!" But I simply tell her that staying with me was only temporary. Well she told me to give her till the weekend. That was last weekend.
She also owes me money. Friday was payday and she hasn't given me a dime.
I want my house back. I want my life and routine back. And this is really stressful.
Any advice on the matter?
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11 responses
@funtool (246)
• Sargodha, Pakistan
15 Nov 15
Well tell her now if you don't want her in your house but if you let her settle things will be worse in future. You courtesy is now stopping you to do it but in near future you will hate her. When you will through her out with hate you will loose a friend for ever. Tell her now that you love her and want her to be happy but you have your own privacy and you like to live alone
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
15 Nov 15
Just be firm and tell her to move out on a certain date or you'll have her evicted or something. Or find her family members and ask them to come pick her up. If all else fails have an argument with her and make her leave on her own. 
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
15 Nov 15
@T_gray Yeah well you know sometimes we need to show some tough lovin' right? If she doesn't understand it then well let's just hope you still have a friendship after whatever happens. 
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
15 Nov 15
@owstalaga tough love is not my strong suit but I'll do my best. I've never been an aggressive person. Hehe. That's why all this is so hard. I'm not confrontational
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@allknowing (135925)
• India
15 Nov 15
Charity begins at home as they say. Your friend is taking advantage of you as she was already in the know that she had no house to go back to before coming to stay with you. If she has been ruthless so can you. So please ask her to leave.
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@allknowing (135925)
• India
15 Nov 15
@T_gray Sorry that you will have to suffer her rest of your life. 
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Nov 15
That is a really tough situation and I'm not the one to give advice on this. I would feel terrible saying anything if it was me and I would allow someone to stay with me forever. Lol. I don't like confrontation either so I'm not good at this stuff. I hope you can figure out a solution that works for you.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
15 Nov 15
That is a really difficult situation to be in and I've been there myself. There really isn't any easy way to do it except to be honest and tell her she has until a certain date to be out. I know it sounds cruel and you will feel guilty but if you don't tell her, it sounds like she will be there for a long time.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
15 Nov 15
I think you already know what you'll need to do. It's a case of grit your teeth and get on with it.
I've been there myself, and it ain't easy. That is why I now have a no house guest policy.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
16 Nov 15
@T_gray I'd rather help them to find somewhere to live versus staying with me. With the exception of my 2 best mates obviously, but then I know they'd never over stay their welcome.
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@vandana7 (100214)
• India
6 Jan 16
Oh this sure is stressful. She needs to be told please check this place...I had a situation like that...dad was sending messages, letters and relatives over to ask my cousin and his wife to leave our place and my cousin was deliberately not taking the hint. Had to loan him monies upfront to get him and his wife leave. Sometimes, they do it deliberately.
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
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6 Jan 16
@T_gray Thats good news to know you sorted it out :)
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@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
6 Jan 16
@kevin1877uk Yeah, she caused a lot of problems that I just couldn't handle. She was bringing in too much negative energy in my house that wasn't cool. Ya know?
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