Oil and water don't mix and it's best not to try

United States
November 15, 2015 2:27pm CST
Oil and water doesn't mix and if you don't believe me, give it a try. The same goes for people - personalities clash like a herd of elephants running into a herd of buffalo. I'm not saying that I've run into a herd of either of those animals, but I've run into a few people who I just don't mix well with. I am not saying it's them or me, but it's not worth the effort or discomfort to try more than a few times. There are personality clashes for sure and it is best to retreat to separate corners. Life is too short and I don't have time to continually explain myself. When those things happen it's time to move on. Sometimes the 'list' needs to be lengthened and sometimes it needs to be shortened. This applies to people in 'real life' as well as online. Life is too short especially when you're on the downside of it.
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• United States
15 Nov 15
I worked with someone who was the total opposite of me and we didn't mix at all. We were definitely oil & water but had to find a way to co-exist in the workplace. Definitely not someone I'd spend time with outside of work
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• United States
15 Nov 15
Oh those situations always exist. My last 10 year job it was just me and my boss - no others and he was gone most of the time - it was wonderful.
@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
15 Nov 15
Sometimes all you need is a spoonful of mustard to emulsify the oil and water.
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• United States
15 Nov 15
It depends on how badly both parties want that to happen.
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• United States
16 Nov 15
@boiboing that might require a third party
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
15 Nov 15
@AbbyGreenhill and whether anyone is prepared to be the mustard.
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
15 Nov 15
i am always surprised when I think I am getting along with someone and they suddenly start avoiding me. I must be more abrasive than I thought.
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• United States
16 Nov 15
Maybe it's the other guy not you.
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
15 Nov 15
I'm so happy i met you and think we both get along..maybe its the brownies talking or me waiting for more stories??
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
15 Nov 15
@AbbyGreenhill I will be waiting sitting at your feet like a kid in a candy shop..
• United States
16 Nov 15
@Rosekitty I better keep my shoes on then....
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• United States
15 Nov 15
LOL - you are a hoot and I enjoy you. More stories another day.
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@LadyDuck (472081)
• Switzerland
16 Nov 15
We cannot please everyone and we cannot like everybody, both in real and virtual life.
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• United States
16 Nov 15
Well said, and we shouldn't have to.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Nov 15
I know a few people like that here that I try my hardest to stay away from. Now and then I am forced to mix with them and I do my best to mix but when I can get out of it I am gone in a hurry. I am wonderful at making up excuses to get out of mixing with them. One of the best is when my big dog tries his best to get out of the yard and only cries and barks. When I am here he is so calm. I just say oh I got to go look at the dog and off I go and never go back.
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• United States
16 Nov 15
Sometimes a third try at working things out is two too many for me. Life is too short.
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• United States
16 Nov 15
@poehere Good for you!
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
16 Nov 15
@AbbyGreenhill You have that one right. I have a sister in law who can really try you so hard. I had to put her in her place and now I can at least stand her for about 5 min then I have to go.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
16 Nov 15
@AbbyGreenhill A very apt comparison indeed.As you said life is too short and I am learning to walk away.
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• United States
16 Nov 15
Good for you,, it will make a happier life.
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
15 Nov 15
among other things.Good comments there
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• United States
16 Nov 15
Thanks.
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 15
I think the key is to just accept and appreciate diversity, and agree to disagree. Couldn't agree more with you, life is too short to worry excessively about such things (or people).
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• United States
16 Nov 15
There are too many other more important thing in our lives right.
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@amnabas (14688)
• Karachi, Pakistan
15 Nov 15
You gave a perfect reference for conflicting personalities indeed.
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• United States
15 Nov 15
It happens to all of us I'm sure..there is always someone...
@seren3 (387)
• Los Angeles, California
16 Nov 15
I'd agree with "Life is too short". Making happiness with the relationships that do work well seems time well spent!
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• United States
16 Nov 15
Life should be happy not sad.
@sallypup (61627)
• Centralia, Washington
15 Nov 15
Relationships must work both ways. Divorce happens and sometimes that is the best for all involved.
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• United States
15 Nov 15
Same goes for friendships, or supposed friendships.
@T_gray (7774)
• Salina, Kansas
16 Nov 15
This hit home for me and what I'm going through right now. I completely agree with you on this
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• United States
16 Nov 15
I imagine many of us are going thru, have gone thru or will go thru this.
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
16 Nov 15
Nice to see you again. That is so true bit it is really hard when members of your family are like that!
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• United States
16 Nov 15
Hi another name I remember! Family sometimes is the worst.
• Glasgow, Scotland
15 Nov 15
Couldn't agree more. ;)
• United States
15 Nov 15
Thanks, I knew I liked you! I also remember you from...can't remember which site but I know the name!
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• Glasgow, Scotland
15 Nov 15
@AbbyGreenhill I think we have crossed paths (but not crossed swords... yet lol) on a couple of sites. ;)
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• United States
15 Nov 15
@briggsy326 Yes,,,,still racking my brain to figure out where.
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@Juliaacv (51361)
• Canada
15 Nov 15
I agree I don't try to force myself onto anyone either, and when things don't feel right, then I move on, no hard feelings, I just move on.
• United States
15 Nov 15
Yes, that's the best way - no harm no foul.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
15 Nov 15
You are right, life is too short to waste time with people with whom we don't mix that good.
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• United States
15 Nov 15
Thanks I am glad I'm not the only one who feels like this.
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
15 Nov 15
Sometimes I feel like the oil to my mothers water, lol. But yes, no point wasting time on that kind of thing online
• United States
15 Nov 15
It's not good to let people get to me like some do...I'm still learning to walk away.
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• United States
16 Nov 15
@Jessicalynnt But it's not good for our bp!
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• Centralia, Missouri
16 Nov 15
@AbbyGreenhill yeah me too, I want to argue
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