Ok..your definition of family

@vandana7 (100604)
India
November 16, 2015 12:44am CST
Mine is..father, mother, siblings, spouses, and children...1st priority Second level father's brothers their wives and children and similarly fathers sisters and their husbands and children. Likewise, mother's brothers their wives and children and similarly mothers sisters, their spouses and children. Mothers parents, fathers parents. - 2nd level. Beyond that I don't consider as family. I am sorry but they are distant relatives. I wouldn't travel for them. What about you?
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deeksha qanoungo
@deeshaq (82)
• India
16 Nov 15
according to me family is parents and siblings.. and after that, those people who ,related by blood or not are your true welwishers and never leave your side..it can be a friend, your neighbour, a child, your aunt, ..anybody! :)
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theSids
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Nov 15
I will be honest and people may dislike me for this. Wife for me. Everyone else can wait. Next in line, my brother (the only sibling I have), his son. Then Parents.
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hora_fugit
@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
16 Nov 15
@vandana7 Sure she is!
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
16 Nov 15
Is your wife standing next to you with a hot spoon or rolling pin? lol
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theSids
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Nov 15
@vandana7 The hot spoon or the rolling pin are almost old stuff... we have newer versions.... how about the tawa or even the frying pan Flying saucers
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fufurinha
@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
19 Nov 15
My family is: my parents, my sister, my grandparents, my uncles and aunts and my cousins.
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
19 Nov 15
What about me?
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
19 Nov 15
@fufurinha ...well, that is actually a relief! lol. As long as you understand I am only teasing you for fun nothing serious...that in itself is a huge bond between us. :) You are my Thumbelina here, and Saphrina was our Goldilocks.
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fufurinha
@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
19 Nov 15
@vandana7 You belong to the friend's list.
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Anna
@LadyDuck (472078)
• Switzerland
16 Nov 15
For me family wife/husband, parents, brothers and sisters, grandparents and the children and the spouses of brother and sisters. I consider all the others distant family.
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Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Nov 15
@vandana7 to me distant relatives c an stay distant l ol l0l
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
17 Nov 15
@Hatley ..I like that..there has to be a cut off point. Otherwise we are wasting too much gas traveling and too much money gifting and receiving gifts we don't need or want. lol
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
16 Nov 15
That is smaller than my definition! Wow! I like it.
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Nitin Sharma
@Rationalwriter (1813)
• Lucknow, India
16 Nov 15
Mom, Dad, Grandparents, Sibling,--- After them, whoever behaves like a family!!!
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
16 Nov 15
You hit the nail on its head. "Behave". When they "behave" like sponges they need to go out of that circle called family. lol. But your definition is indeed smaller than mine. :) I went the companies act way..lol
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
16 Nov 15
@Rationalwriter ..yeah...I agree. :) I think in India we need a serious look at those laws so that this concept is broken down. And is to his own. That way, we will know for sure if affections are genuine or not. In any event, would you attend any functions of those who "behave" like family?
Nitin Sharma
@Rationalwriter (1813)
• Lucknow, India
16 Nov 15
@vandana7 Haha!! It's all based on experience!! I have seen people in the immediate family act out as if they are gods, and to such people I say bye bye!!!
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (342171)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Nov 15
The only difference from my definition is in the case of more distant relatives with whom I might have strong ties with.
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
16 Nov 15
I agree. Sometimes distant relatives are better than not so distant relatives. :)
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (342171)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Nov 15
@Hatley That is so nice that your cousin keeps in touch. It can mean a great deal and I'm sure it does.
Judy Evans
@JudyEv (342171)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Nov 15
@vandana7 I think so too. Sometimes petty jealousies and family squabbles arise between the immediate family members.
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hora_fugit
@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
16 Nov 15
My parents and my siblings... done. Even the spouses of siblings and... they don't like it, lol... their children are not permitted in my defined circle. Didn't really have an interaction with grandparents...but they could permeate in my first level... not the uncles and aunts though. At times I am too closed in for my parents and siblings too.... Addendum: Gulp! How could I forget my lovely spouse and cutie children!
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Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Nov 15
@vandana7 yed one must remember spouse and own children others c an wait I m estranged form my yo unger sister as shed ke pt trying to break u p our marriage.to me m y hubby and m y so n always came filrt. She is a toxic relative and Im oka y away from herl S he als o is a street walker to be non graphic.
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
16 Nov 15
lol...I like your definition. In fact, I think laws should confine definition to that. A lot of crimes will come down for sure. :)
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AnjaP
@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
16 Nov 15
I think I include Grandparents to grandchildren and all cousins who are first or second, but even nieces and nephews might not be close enough for me to travel to see. It depends on how close you are.
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Patsie Hatley
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Nov 15
hehe hi@Vandana7 only close relative left is m y son so he is m y first priority then m y cousin who live in Oregan. I have distant co usins whoim I do not have any contact with but on came forward on f ace book to wish me Happy Birthday yesterday. I do noit travel for distant co usins either have not that much money.
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
16 Nov 15
Belated birthday greetings Hatley. Hugs.. And if you had that kind of money, would you have traveled?
hereandthere
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
16 Nov 15
here it can extend to godparents (ninong, ninang) at baptisms and weddings. extended families can be a help and a hindrance.
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
16 Nov 15
I like your language. Ninong and ninang. Sounds so sweet. :)
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hereandthere
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
16 Nov 15
@vandana7 then there's kumpare and kumare. let's say a common friend asked you, me and several others to be godparents of their newborn child that will be baptized. we are now kumare, the males are our kumpare. i just don't know how it's translated in english.
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vanny
@vandana7 (100604)
• India
16 Nov 15
@hereandthere ..I like ninong and ninang better. :) They sound musical even when I read. :) I think there were reasons for god parents to be there. In case of calamities when family was not around there would be somebody else to help the children up on their feet. Not sure it is needed anymore. But ninong and ninang is truly good..there was a small child on YouTube singing some song...reminded me of that. :)