Maybe, if she wasn't very creepy...
By Cahaya
@cahaya1983 (11116)
Malaysia
November 16, 2015 1:20am CST
...I wouldn't mind reconnecting with her after all.
I got a message the other day from someone who, according to her, was my classmate in primary school.
The way she introduced herself was a little funny, though. "Remember me? You drew a picture of a cat in my notepad once!" Honestly, I can't even remember where my seat was in that class, let alone drawing a cat in anyone's notepad.
Then, "I saw you at the mall in 2008! You were with (family member A) at that time. Can you send me the latest picture of yourself?" Whaaat? Okay, weird. I told her I don't really upload pictures on social media, and the reply was, "Oh come on, we've known each other forever. Send one to me. It's just for me. Please?"
Creepy. I had not heard from her in like 20 years and we have "known each other forever?". 
It crossed my mind that her account was hacked or something, but when I started asking a few questions to make sure she really was who she said she was, she did answer everything correctly. Checking her page, I found that we had two mutual friends.
She stopped messaging me after that. Oh well.
Have you ever been approached in a strange way like this?
It crossed my mind that her account was hacked or something, but when I started asking a few questions to make sure she really was who she said she was, she did answer everything correctly. Checking her page, I found that we had two mutual friends.
She stopped messaging me after that. Oh well.
Have you ever been approached in a strange way like this?20 people like this
22 responses
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
16 Nov 15
it reminds me of a reunion recently with 2 old friends. they were talking about a classmate who seems to have selective memory, sometimes he knows you, sometimes he doesn't. so i told them maybe he remembers people when he needs something from them.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 15
That's interesting. I never thought about that. If she really wanted something I really can't imagine what it could be.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 15
Yeah she uses a different username so I didn't know who it was at first. I normally don't respond to requests like that.
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@allknowing (137553)
• India
16 Nov 15
It is pathetic when there is a one sided need for friendship.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 15
I don't even know what her motive was but I'm pretty sure it wasn't friendship. After I told her that I can't send my pictures she just stopped talking.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Nov 15
About three or four months back the cell phone rang
Caller: We have added you to out School Group on Whatsapp.
Me: Who is it?
Caller: Ah so you dont recognize us any more. No problems, As we have added you there, just log in and accept.
Me confused, still logs into whatsapp to find some of my School Classmates in a Group. I reject the invitation as I dont need those people any more. I have been happy without them since the past 26+ years now.
I get another call - so you have lots of attitude han! What do you think you are? Join it now.
Till date, I dont know who was that caller.
And yes, I did join for a few days. But that was taxing. every morning I got to read about 700_+ messages mostly Spam and Copy Pasted. 
I am glad that I have a new account now with Whatsapp and no one knows what the number is barring a few who matter to me.
And yes, I did join for a few days. But that was taxing. every morning I got to read about 700_+ messages mostly Spam and Copy Pasted.
I am glad that I have a new account now with Whatsapp and no one knows what the number is barring a few who matter to me.3 people like this
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 15
That is strange. I got a few spam messages on WhatsApp and I just blocked the number. It wasn't a group invitation though. I know some people have been using the group chat inappropriately and lots of people get annoyed because of that. I have one group (work-related) and I can barely keep up with the 100 messages I get daily, but 700 per day? 
Plus the caller didn't even introduce himself/herself to you in the beginning so that's a red flag already.
Plus the caller didn't even introduce himself/herself to you in the beginning so that's a red flag already.2 people like this
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 15
@Auntylou Exactly. Telling someone to "join it now" without you even knowing who it is? 
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 15
Same here, I can count how many people I don't know personally that are in my friends list. But even though I know that girl personally I still find it strange that she suddenly asked me that.
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 15
I know right. 20 years not talking and suddenly asking for a picture. Not even asking how I'm doing or how my family is, etc. So weird.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
18 Nov 15
@cahaya1983 The more that she insists , the more creepy she is to me . 
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 15
@SIMPLYD Exactly. So I concluded that she's too creepy to entertain.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 15
I know right. She was insisting for it even after I told her a few times I'm not going to send them. Some people...
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@betsuz (57)
• United States
16 Nov 15
Yes! I had joined Classmates in 2008 and wanted to connect with a few of my good friends from high school. It was before I joined Facebook so I thought I would give it a shot but instead of reconnecting with the people I wanted to, I got a creepy guy who I didn't remember ever talking to in school. His face looked familiar but that was it. Anyway, he would say things very similar to what the creepy girl said to you. He was freaking me out so I blocked him. Then when I joined Facebook he tried to do the same there. It was scary.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 15
Sounds like a stalker to me! You definitely did the right thing by blocking him. It is scary how easily people can find you on social media. I think there's an option under the privacy settings that can avoid people from finding you but I'm not too sure. I'll have to check that myself.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 15
I had a lot of doubt too but it's really strange that when I asked her some questions she answered them correctly.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
16 Nov 15
That reminds me of a film "a single white female!"
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 15
Oh yes I know that movie! We can never be too careful about who we invite into our lives.
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@Marilynda1225 (83067)
• United States
17 Nov 15
I've gotten a few weird Facebook friend requests from people I'm not really familiar with. Normally I just ignore them but in your case someone from 20 yrs ago would be weird and unsettling even if they did know you
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 15
Yes, that's why I thought it was strange. She never made any contact with me since primary school and she almost sounded like a different person.
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 15
It's better not to, too many scam these days and you never know who they really are and what they want.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
12 Oct 17
that is weird. i hope she is not a scammer, and she truly is your friend
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 17
I was inclined to think she was who she said she was, considering her answers to some of my questions. But I'm glad she stopped bothering me with the picture request!
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
15 Oct 17
@cahaya1983 i hope she is no longer bothering you.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 17
Nope, never, but if I do, I wouldn't send her any pic at all. Who knows what she will do to my pic!
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 17
Exactly what I thought. She eventually stopped bothering me.
@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
16 Nov 15
Some people are just overwhelming in their outgoing-ness. Others, like me, are very much more cautious about approaching other people, etc. But if she is this enthusiastic on Facebook at your first contact in 20 years, how overwhelming would she be if you actually got to be close?
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 15
That's what I was thinking too. Plus, I remember her as the shy, quiet type when we were in school.
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 15
I do remember her and when I asked some questions to make sure it really was her, she did answer them correctly. But I still find it odd that she insisted for a picture and stopped talking when I refused to send any. I doubt I'd ever meet her in person.
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 15
I have a lot of primary and secondary school friends that I still keep in touch with. This particular girl though, hasn't spoken or contacted me in over 20 years and the first thing she asked for was my picture. She was a bit pushy about it, too.
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
17 Nov 15
Yes, kept getting invite to connect from this person who have betrayed me in the past ..I ignored her
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 15
Good thing there's an option to block people. Some people can be so persistent though, they keep coming back with a different account.
@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14351)
• West Haven, Connecticut
16 Nov 15
Yes a few times, sometimes its people trying to scam you or ask for money
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 15
I can usually recognize those people pretty easily but in this case I really have no idea what her intention was.
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 15
Yeah, I hardly even upload pictures of myself on my FB page, let alone send them to anyone.
