what if you fall in love with very close relative?
By Muses
@MusesM (584)
November 17, 2015 2:22am CST
i just heard today,my married friend A fall in love with his very close relative(his father's brother's daughter),and secretly go and date her(let's call her B).His wife just found out yesterday and told me what should she do.
The real problem is A already have two daughter,his wife want to divorce but A did not agree.what should she do?i dont know either
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@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
11 Dec 15
messy - not sure if it constitutes possible incest which would make it very creepy and illegal but the infidelity and cheating alone is a clear basis for divorce
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@marguicha (223783)
• Chile
14 Dec 15
@MusesM Sometimes and unhappy marriage will mean an unhappy childhood for the kids.
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@MusesM (584)
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15 Dec 15
@marguicha yes that is true,so they decide not to get divorce because of kids
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
17 Nov 15
'Dating' a first cousin doesn't make cheating any better or worse. The first step should always be mediation/counselling to see whether the marriage can be saved, especially if one party doesn't agree to a divorce. Only when divorce seems to be the only option, should it be considered.
Marriage with a first cousin may be legal or not depending on which country one is in. In the UK it is allowed (but I believe that one now has to have medical tests), in many other countries it is illegal.
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@marguicha (223783)
• Chile
14 Dec 15
There are two problems ther. One is the cheating (that can lead or not to a divorce depending on the couple), and the other is the relation with a close relative. In my country (Chile) it is legal, but it is not so in some other countries.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
18 Nov 15
I think this a terrible affair, because it occurs in a large family. It hurts a lot of people involved in the family. This is a difficult case. Sorry I was also confused how to solve it. Love is blind ...
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@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
30 Nov 15
That relationship is terrible, if they had children the children will suffer because they have a good chance to be not normal but slow and unhealthy.
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@MusesM (584)
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1 Dec 15
@PainsOnSlate A's wife tell her mother in law about it but her mother in law dont believe her
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@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
30 Nov 15
@MusesM If you are strong you can let some relatives know what you know and let them do something about it.
@birjudanak (14320)
• India
18 Nov 15
i think its stupid thing that man doing because relation between both of them is brother and sister so as our culture they can marry and even they love each other parents not allow because its again religion and culture,the solution is that man should have to understand the relationship and responsibility of family.if they take divorce then its very effected on child so A has to stop relation with B and see as her sister only and go ahead with his family because its only way to happy all otherwise 5 person in trouble.
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@MusesM (584)
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18 Nov 15
yes i agree with you,even if A and B really love each other they still brother and sister,i dont understand why they even fall in love they are so close relative.A's wife is very beautiful and treat A very well and she is my best friend,for her and her Children's sake,maybe dont divorce is better?
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@MusesM (584)
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19 Nov 15
@birjudanak yes it is so true,i will let them know thank you my friend.i already hate B very much now
@birjudanak (14320)
• India
18 Nov 15
@MusesM if they take divorce then children are trouble and they learn from them what they see and later when they understand their mistake then its too late so i request you to help them and explain them some negative point of divorce and specially love for child so they will understand and there is not any advantage of divorce may he think that after divorce he marry with sister but its his big mistake of life and family may not respect it.
@pumpkinjam (8770)
• United Kingdom
7 Aug 16
I think you already have your best answer from the wise old Owl. :)
My advice would be forget about dating anyone, never mind his cousin, until he sorts things out with his wife and kids (whether they divorce or stay together or what). The dating cousins thing is really beside the real point here.
@trivia79 (7828)
• El Segundo, California
30 Dec 15
That's incest and it is against with the rules of the Bible. Although in the history of the bible, incest has been done, it still saying us not to do it. 
