So, your spouse cheated on you?

@KnehKnah Does he took the bait?

You want an honest answer, my dear @wiLLmaH ? Yes po.

Indeed, my dear. But, you see, in my more than 30 years of marriage with my dearly beloved, I found out a hurting truth: even if he said he loved only me, there were times that he also looked at other women who were so willing & able to have an affair with him. Gosh!

If we're faced with each other right now, I will give you my loudest clapping, my dear! Yehey!

@KnehKnah Thank you my dear . I am indeed proud of myself for giving him a second chance.

Can I chime in with you in that, my dear @SIMPLYD ?

It's really a tough question to answer for most, but as it happened to us, I know it is not.

@KnehKnah This is a special condition and I can understand that you forgave your husband, I would have done the same.

Thank you, my dear @LadyDuck . God bless you.

I did, my friend. No, please don't get me wrong. I agree with you that for a relationship to flourish, there must be mutual trust between spouses. But, when my dearly beloved commited a sin against our vow, I felt it was I who pushed him to it. He loved me beyond compare. We just got married. We were having the best moments! But, I got sick. So sick that I even avoided sleeping with him. It was not only for days or weeks. It was for months. Several months. So when he told me of his guilt, I readily understood & forgave him. I even asked for his forgiveness too.

@KnehKnah He's lucky to have such an understanding, compassionate wife.

Thank you, my dear Momma @jaboUK . You know our life since we met in Bubblews. Every word I wrote there were true. I just found myself more open in myLot. Some friends say, why not just keep this part of our life a secret? I said, why? People need to know that somewhere out there a story could change them, as it changed us. We had this notion that after getting married to the best person, life will be a bed of roses. Well, maybe for some it is, but not for all. Just like ours. But, despite that cruel incident plus a lot more, here we are, still standing true to our vows. I think that is what mattered most.

Hi, my dear Momma! It was painful at first but not anymore when I thought hard what could have pushed my dearly beloved into it. I understood. Maybe he just sought company in my absence. It was just so timely that there were willing spirits to give him that. He chose one from among them. Ha! Ha! Ha

Most of my male relatives & friends say the same. And I salute you for that!

Haha thank you.

Oh! You are a determined wife, my dear! Just like what a friend of mine did, years back. When she learned that her hubby had another woman, she tried her best to know where to find her. When she did, it started the difficult days of her life. She called her house phone repeatedly, even in the dread of the night, saying nothing just stayed on the line while the woman shouts her hello repeatedly. Whenever my friend felt that the 2 will meet somewhere, she stalked her husband, popped in between them (saying nothing, just sat where the 2 were). The husband (maybe for fear that his wife will create a scene), asked her to go home, with him. That happened several times until the other woman got so irked, embarrassed & tired. She gave up!

@KnehKnah That is how it should be.

@allknowing Yes. But there are some stories too of wives simply giving up their husbands when a 3rd party exists.

@KnehKnah Thank you.

I respect your stand, my friend.

So sorry

I have friends who called it quits, after an offense. Now, they're sad. So sad because they let go of the persons they loved.

Wow! I admire your husband for his fidelity, my dear Neneng Dhel!

I pray it does not happen to you, my dear.

I understand you, my friend. I was able to forgive my dearly beloved when he erred because ours was a different set-up.

Yes. Most find it very difficult to forgive. But, as I'd been in that situation, when I forgave, that gave me peace.

@birjudanak You are right, my friend. As what a friend of mine said, "why cry over a spilled milk?"

@KnehKnah yes because we have no other option ,if you remember that thing or person it will more hurt you so better to go ahead and be positive because world till not ended still lots remaining.

A safe answer, my friend. Ha! Ha! Ha!

Neither did I when I was younger. But people change. Besides, if ever he commited a wrong against me, once, the good he did to me are beyond count!

I know. Besides, in every society, if a man commits a sin against his wife, it is said to be "natural" & forgivable. But if it's the woman who does it? Oh, well...

You are right, my friend. Just like what happened to me & my dearly beloved. Those who know us find it hard to believe. But it indeed happened. Ours is a different set-up. Forgiving & forgetting was easy. Why? Because we love each other so much.

Indeed. Had he sinned against me while I was in the best of health & was never remiss of my ways of expressing to him my love, maybe it would be very hard to understand & eventually start all over again.

That was the same thing that I thought about. As long as it was not repeated, it was easier to forgive & forget.

Thank you, my friend. Twas a thing of the past. If ever I inevitably recall it, I no longer feel the pain. I am sure I've forgiven him, totally.