“Don’t lie to me”
By ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
Philippines
November 21, 2015 12:19am CST
I have a third year student who is a consistent liar. I handled her first when she was a second year nursing student. She stopped on the second semester, and now she is back. Her former classmates are now in their senior year.
She always lies whenever her group will do their case presentation. She also gets absent on duty; she texted her classmate to inform me she had conjunctivitis. The next morning, her classmate told me she did not have ‘sore eyes’ because she saw her with her friends eating in a fast food chain.
When she came for duty, I asked for her admission slip. She said she was not able to get because “her eyes were close”. I had to tell her, “Don’t lie to me”. I told her about what her classmate told me. She blushed and said nothing.
I do not know why some students lie if they do not like to go to school or on duty, but they always get their monthly allowance and tuition fees from their parents.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
21 Nov 15
@ridingbet
So she is a cronic liar even denying her daughter.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Nov 15
she gave birth when she stopped during her second college year. what is disgusting is she refers her child to be her niece. That is lying
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Nov 15
the parents of this students are farmers, so you can just imagine the blood, sweat, and tears they pour out for the tuition fees and allowance of their daughter.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
21 Nov 15
@ridingbet
It is about time they stop seeing their daughter as someone special and realize she is a liar and not worth their time and money, they need to see she needs to grow up and make her own way.
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@GardenGerty (160996)
• United States
21 Nov 15
Her lies will catch up to her. Her parents may actually quit paying her way if she is not careful. It must be very frustrating for you.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
23 Nov 15
yes, I get frustrated when one of my students do not finish their course. but it is even more frustrating if a student graduates nursing with no interest and heart at all, just for the sake of taking the course so her caprices will be given to her.
@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Nov 15
@ridingbet better transfer her to other school of her preference.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Nov 15
their guidance counselor/prefect of discipline and even the clinical coordinator cannot do anything. She is a stubborn young lady, and I think she dislikes all her clinical instructors because we keep on advising her to be truthful and honest
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Nov 15
that is true. truth hurts, but liars will always stay in dark and dim places, hiding something with their lives.
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@funtool (246)
• Sargodha, Pakistan
22 Nov 15
@ridingbet there is another ploy, praise her often for her fairness and truth. Till now everybody has told her she is lier and she believes this. Tell her that she is not a lier and she will try to prove to you that she really is not a lier
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Nov 15
@funtool but why should we praise a person who shows bad attitude? she may think that her lying is actually good.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Nov 15
yes, I agree with you. maybe she lied since her childhood years.
@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
22 Nov 15
@ridingbet
Then you need to change the way you treat her I would think.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Nov 15
it means, I will still have to deal with her for 1 more year. 
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
24 Nov 15
@Marcyaz well, I treat all my students like they are my children, and I "don't spare the rod to spoil the child".
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@koopharper (7601)
• Canada
22 Nov 15
"She blushed and said nothing," when caught in a lie. Sounds to me like there is some hope. I've dealt with liars who when caught in a lie didn't bat an eye and moved right on to the next lie. Hopefully she can straighten herself out before completely screwing up her life.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Nov 15
indeed, she accepted what I told her. Blushing and saying nothing may also mean, "yes, so what?", in my own humble opinion, Ma'am.
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@LeaPea2417 (37383)
• Toccoa, Georgia
22 Nov 15
I have known some people who are compulsive liars and I try to stay away from them.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
23 Nov 15
why, even older ones do that too, and it annoys me. As if the young learn from the old. nay!
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Jan 16
she was seen by the guidance counselor, and i believe she is a chronic liar.
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@ThankyouLord (698)
• St. Petersburg, Florida
22 Nov 15
I don't know how old she is, but if she is under about 22, she may "grow" out of it. She probably feels under pressure to go to school, as her parents probably are pushing her, so she has a future for her and the baby. But it may not have been her wish, and now that she is a mom, she is even under more responsibility. She is angry, and resentful, and taking it out on others. Sometimes, positive encouragement and reinforcement can help, but it may just take some time, too.
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@ThankyouLord (698)
• St. Petersburg, Florida
22 Nov 15
@ridingbet I work in the medical field, with many nurses, and have for years. Both as a worker and as a patient years ago, I know that a nurse who takes care of patients in any capacity can do a lot of damage to patients psychologically. Patients are helpless when in the care of a nurse who has an attitude. And this kind of nurse can make a patient very depressed and make them feel angry, fearful, or resentful. All these feelings are very bad for a patient to have, because it is like they are giving the patient a little bit of poison with their pills. She would be better suited to getting training in some other field, but it is probably too late. I hope she fails her testing and realizes she is not suited to be a nurse. Someone should be strong enough to tell her and her parents this before it is too late.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Nov 15
I deal with her like her mother, and I speak to her with care, but one attitude I don't like from her is her being without emotion . she is apathetic, and she has a snobbish feature too. PA- that is her initial.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
23 Nov 15
@ThankyouLord yes, nursing is a vocation because we deal with sick persons. we should be compassionate and selfless. This student however does not care about her studies, much more her parents who work hard for her future.I agree that somebody should talk to her or her parents so she can direct her interest in other courses that may not need human connection; probably office work?!
@babaraimc (1310)
• Pakistan
22 Nov 15
it isn't good to lie,
it can make our life worse, people will stop trusting you,
you should gently teach him about this
I'm sure he will understand
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@babaraimc (1310)
• Pakistan
22 Nov 15
@ridingbet Teacher can have a very good effect on Students,,
counselling will be more effective it comes from people that are near to you
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@funtool (246)
• Sargodha, Pakistan
22 Nov 15
@ridingbet motivation is bigger force to change attitude than condemnation or fear or punishment, I am teacher and I have applied this theory hundreds of times
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
22 Nov 15
if she does not listen to her parents and the guidance counselor, do you think she will listen to me? I have reservations, because if I call her attention,I will speak my mind out and tell her all her "bad traits" especially being a liar.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
24 Nov 15
yes, and she has the feature of an "I don't care" personality, and it makes one irk to the highest degree
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
22 Nov 15
Yes, you are right that it is wrong on her part to tell frequent lies. I feel that it has become a habit for her and she is unaware of adverse effects of this habit.
She should be told in clear terms that to tell lies is a kind of cheating and she is not cheating you or any other person, but she is cheating herself and in the long run she is going to suffer for telling lies.
@birjudanak (14320)
• India
22 Nov 15
i think she is lazy and totally wast her time for study and money of parents,because her parents think that their child is studying and going good but they really dont know what she doing and not attained class and give stupid reason for it.in fact she may be loose of her trust from everyone.
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