One is enough, two is too much. Three is ---
By wiLLmaH
@wiLLmaH (8802)
Singapore, Singapore
November 24, 2015 8:45pm CST
Husband and I have 12 door apartment. Since we are working here in Singapore, we employed one of my sister-in-law to be our property manager. She will collect the monthly rent and she will be the one who will face the tenants for any problem that will arise on the building itself. Of course, we gave her a monthly salary.
All were smoothly done until, one day I observed that she keeps delaying the banking in the rents, until it reached a 2 months gap. She told me that the tenants asking for some time to pay and that causes the setback. Then one day, she stopped communicating with us. She deposited money to our bank account on first week of October without any explanation why it is just a meagre amount and why it is delayed (that is for July rent).
Like what I have said @sofssu, I have a tongue that can get through until the bones when I am angry. So I asked my husband to call her, and informed her that we do not need her service. My husband instructed her to hand-over all the contracts, other papers and money by last week of October.
Well, my older sister reported that she only got contracts... no money at all. She also informed us that may sister-in-law cried a river in front of her admitting she touched the money and bought some stuffs, like Elba gas range, tablet and so forth.
She send me message through facebook. I never replied. I talked to my eldest brother (her husband) and my brother swearing he do not know about this kind of things. Pity!
She is fired and she is now stressed-out how to pay the money she took from us.
Trust vanished... AGAIN! This will be the last. One is enough, two is too much. Three will be FOOLISHNESS to trust her again.
You? Are you going to give second up to third chance to the people that once wrecked you?
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25 responses
@sofssu (23662)
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25 Nov 15
Three is asking fro trouble. .. Its sad when people whom we trust betray us. I really hate doing business with relatives. We had a terrible time when two of my brothers went into business partnerships and broke up.. Their wives made the whole scene painful for everyone.. I wince at the thought of it. I am happy that we are all back to being a happy family once again.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
25 Nov 15
From experiences of people i get in contact with , it's difficult to hire someone who has affinity with you as a businessman . It's so hard to reprimand them , because they are after all connected in one way or another to your family .
And that one , when she is only depositing meager amount , that is already a ringer that something is fishy .
Though , don't you and you husband get and verify her collections every month ?
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
25 Nov 15
That is our fault. We are not that strict in taking those rents from her. That is a lesson for me and my husband. I just want her to give her a living. But it ended up like this.
This is the second time. I will not entrust a money with her. EVER!
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@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 15
It's sad to hear someone who is so closed to us betray us. In this case, yes, I think one is enough. It might be better for your relationship with her, and your brother when there's no monetary issue involved in future. Hope you'll get back your money soon.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
25 Nov 15
No way could you ever trust her again. We were in a similar position when we worked overseas years ago, but we got a professional property manager to look after our house for us. It might have been more expensive than asking a relative to do it, but at least the rent was always in our bank on time.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
26 Nov 15
My mom told me not to trusts on cousins and my father and I really knew that my siblings can be trusted. I extended that trust to their spouse.
I want to give a job around the family so everyone have a extra income, that is why we gave that position to her.
@BethieAnnie (818)
• Dayton, Ohio
25 Nov 15
We have a saying, "Fool me once, shams on you. Fool me twice, shame on you." It means what you explained, one is enough, two is too many and three is foolish. I am sorry you family has had this disruption.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
25 Nov 15
@BethieAnnie My dad told me that there is an immediate change of lifestyle when she became our property manager. He do not told us because maybe he is wrong. My dad told me that my sister-in-law is maybe shocked that she handles a lot of money every month.
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@BethieAnnie (818)
• Dayton, Ohio
25 Nov 15
@wiLLmaH greed is one of those things that makes a person not trust worthy. A person would have to show effort overtime, but even then it would be unlikely I could trust her again with money. But, moat people don't change once greed has sucked them in.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
26 Nov 15
Actually, my sister and 2 brothers have business too. They have apartments too and I saw them how they have managed it. I thought it will be a good idea to give that job to my sister-in-law, since she is a housewife for her to have an extra income.
Well, it is not the case. Now, I shifted the job to my sister.
@LeaPea2417 (37369)
• Toccoa, Georgia
25 Nov 15
That sounds like a mess and when family members are a part of it, it is messier.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
25 Nov 15
OH dear I am sorry to hear that. No you must definitely not give her an extra chance. She has done it once too often. Not content with doing it once she has done it three times. Good luck I hope that she pays all she owes you!
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@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
25 Nov 15
that was an interesting question. I will tell you choice is yours. And take your decision carefully.
Don't mix with money with relations.
or Don't mix with business with friends.
If you mix with relationship or friendship it definitely not going to a good end.
Don't mix with money with relations.
or Don't mix with business with friends.
If you mix with relationship or friendship it definitely not going to a good end.2 people like this
@DeborahDiane (40317)
• Laguna Woods, California
25 Nov 15
I always helps us to forgive other people ... but never forget what they did. We can forgive someone without being foolish enough to trust them in the future. I do not blame you for being angry with her. That is terrible!
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
30 Nov 15
no not at all to give other chance who wrecked us,even though that they are my brothers or sisters or anyone's. if we keep trust on them it doesn't means we are very soft to them what ever they do.at this time we cant give second chance to anyone,one thing remember where money come between relation then always create problem if you not alert.
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
2 Dec 15
@birjudanak I will be coming home on April. I hope she is not so "thick skinned" to have guts to be around my parent's home while I am there for vacation
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
1 Dec 15
@wiLLmaH just try to keep away from her otherwise while you see her you remember that topic and may become angry.so just enjoy life but forget some bad things.
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. Just kidding. well, if the person I trust lies to me, I will never trust him/her again.