When Lovers Stop Loving One Another

I think we often expect too much from relationships. It's like older couples after the kids have flown the nest and they retire from their careers and jobs. They might both just be ready to move on in different directions. Personally I see nothing at all wrong with that. That is if they can do it amicably and still appreciate the time they had together. But yeah, I get you, it can be sad seeing long term relationships end. Especially when they are both your friend.

I think those who are in worse relationship do not walk out easily because they feel they can repair it, or they feel they would lose a whole chunk of their lives which is something rather hard for them to live with. Restarting is not easy at all. Some get scared at the thought itself.

Mike and I are still here with 45 years .How about that.Married for two.

It's interesting about the volatile relationship lasting for longer, curious but true.

sometimes who people are change, and their life goals change, the path just isn't the same anymore, I wish them well on their new directions. I hope they are able to heal too

It's all too common these days, and I'm no longer surprised when an apparently inseparable partnership breaks down. Love is a good reason to get into a marriage, but it's not necessarily the one that will sustain it over the years.

We are sorry to hear that two of your close friends separated unexpectedly. Nothing happens without reasons and there might be some (hidden) reasons for the marital discord between them. It may be that something was simmering between both of them for years together and suddenly that reached its boiling point, which led to their separation. I do not think so that some couples who appear a perfect match separate suddenly, if this is the case then either those kinds of couples are too smart to look perfect to others or there is something wrong in our reading. On the other hand some couples who seem to us as unstable, stay together because they learn to accommodate each other with the passage of time and probably they also apprehend that separation is not the solution to their married life problems.

This goes with the saying "nothing lasts forever". It is really saddening to be int hat kind of situation. But that's life. It's reality. It's unfair but we do learned from things happening around us. every single person that comes in our lives, leave us lessons or blessings. We just have to be thankful in every single person that comes in and even out of our lives. Accept reality and move on...

My parents go separate ways when I was 5 years old by then I dont understand why and I dont like the idea of having a broken family but when I grow up I now understand that what they done is for our best interest and so for them too. They still love each other until now especially my father to my mother. They both dont re-marry and they still care for each other but there are things they cant agree with always and end up fighting so they decided to parted ways. Its sad but if you see it on a positive ways it is the best thing to do rather than hurting each other and the people involve.

It is very sad. I know three cases of this. These three couples seemed rock solid in their marriages. It was shocking when I heard in the past year or so that these three different couples were divorcing!

I hope that neither of them expects you to take their side against the other - that could be awkward.

That is sad, but it happens a lot these days and I'm not even talking about celebrities. I think what we see on the surface (how couples behave with each other when people are around and so on) doesn't tell us anything about the reality of their relationship. Who knows how long they had been trying to hold on to the relationship. I hope they both find happiness again.

It is sad to see couples break up that once seemed so perfect for each other. Some couples shouldn't be together, but the ones who worked well together, you can't comprehend what caused the breakdown.

Our friends have just announced a separation today funnily enough after being together for 24 years, it's a real shock and right now I'm having trouble thinking how I'll even relate to these people as separate friends rather than the 'Charlotte and Adam' couple

Sad indeed! But it is a fact that people including ourselves are changing everyday, every moment and even now and then. With these will result in differences which in some times draw each other apart than closer with time gone by. Also, perspectives had changed ones' perception on devotion and dedication. People no longer like to fix things.

so sorry that your friends got separated. you know i think that the biggest problem is that sometimes people are together for so long that their life becomes a routine. thats why i think is always good to do different things with your lover. so the relation wont become a routine. we need new things everyday.

Many times, what is mistaken for 'love' is an infatuation that can last various amounts of time. It's a shame when such relationships fall apart after the arrival of children. Love is the real long lasting relationship that will withstand anything...except, perhaps...treason.

Oh dear. I hope they are still friends. But it happens. People do fall out of love that's why I really admire couples who stay in love despite old age.

This is terrible. We do not know what is going on inside of a relationship, only what the couple shows us. My sister and her husband have been together for seven years with three beautiful children. We have had two recent deaths in the family a month apart and instead of bringing them closer it has torn them apart. It saddens me that during such a difficult time they found the way to ease their pain is to pain one another.

Real Love is always PAINFULL