A family is good but not a life necessity

@allknowing Yes, that is true. Some friends are better than our blood siblings. Some neighbors are much better than relatives too. Sometimes siblings do not get close, and when they do get together, they quarrel over family responsibility, especially towards the caring of their parents or grandparents.

Family is highly over rated. Most of incest related crimes happen because of "family", especially extended family. Time laws were amended.

@vandana7 People are living in a fool's paradise still thinking that family is indispensable. How wrong they are. They are losing so much by this thought process. Society has so much to offer.

@scheng1 That is really unfortunate , I agree that life is unfair to some people .We can simply pray that they derive the strength to face life without buckling under the pressure ..

That is true. Those who are born into abusive families are very pitiful kids. They have no way to change their environment, and some of them really run away from home and become street kids.

@scheng1 I pity such children too. I guess Chinese parents are like that generally because my daughter has a Chinese friend whose father was never happy with what grades he got in the exam. He's an honour student but his father is still not happy with what he had achieved. If he was my son, I would be very proud of him.

Some kids born in families probably suffer more than you did. You have the desire to have a happy family with caring parents, and caring grandparents. However, in the real world, many families are damaged emotionally, and children born into such families never healed emotionally.

There are different stages for a family to play its role in one's life. At certain times one wishes there was no family. To each their own.

@scheng1 How cold you are to presume to know my suffering as if to diminish its intensity. I have known abuse. Yes, it is true that some suffer at the hands of a family member That was not your argument. You stated that family is not necessary. In all of nature the family structure exists, not just with humans. There are individuals born with a defective heart or collapsed lungs who suffer as a result. Does that mean a heart or lung is not necessary for a healthy.life. Does not the body need to pump blood or the lungs to take in air. True, these individuals with defective organs survive, but not experiencing optimum health. There are always examples that go awry and horrible things happen to children, I know firsthand. Majority of families are good and beneficial and it is a needed element in the emotional and mental health as well as instructional for life. If help is made available for these individuals who suffer abuse as a general rule it is to provide another family arrangement that will provide the necessary elements to contribute to the healing and well being of the child. Why? Because it has been proven that the family structure is necessary.

You might as well take a job on board a cruise ship. It is tough to get in, and you get to travel for half a year or so, and return home for 2 months before you sail off again. I do think that family is good, though there are many people who do not have family at all. They are still surviving, and probably just as happy as we are.

@scheng1 i think they love to have a family too. Traveling yeah, i love also but first need to get a job that really work before starting traveling

@scheng1 What you said is very reasonable which I haven't thought about it before.

Obviously we cannot imagine life without a family. We are too used to a family, and we never given a thought to those without a family at all. That is why I start to think about them. I think when a person has no family, and he grows up in an orphanage, he can still enjoy his childhood.

Family is a "want" more than a "need". If we need a family, then orphans cannot survive at all. There are many elderly ones with no living relatives too. Some of them lost their children, and spouse, and they ended up alone, and they are still surviving. That is why we should appreciate our family, and think of it as a privilege to have a family.

That is true. Some of us do have very close friends who are dearer than families. I have seen parents who are not keeping contact with their adult children, because their children do not love them, and never call to talk to them at all. They also do not welcome the aged parents to their house.