How many doweries you will get when you get married?

@LLSummer (586)
Guizhou, China
December 2, 2015 5:11am CST
My younger female cousin got married two days age. Maybe you can image what doweries she will get : a car,furniture ,money and so on, But there is something special you really don't know: that's lots of shoes, those shoes are not produced by machine and they are totally weaven by herself. In my hometown, here the girl would be consider as virtuous if she knows how to knit those bootees. Due to that,now I am a little worried about that what I should do when I will get married some day , just because I really don't know how to do those sort of things. perhaps, I would be consider as an idiot. How pathetic I am!
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BirDan
@birjudanak (14320)
• India
2 Dec 15
sorry for that we also read in study whats they do with bootees,so is it compulsory in your religion.by the way its your life you can do what ever you want and you also tell them that you not wan knit bootees,its your life and you can take you decisions.what is important of it in marriage,i hope you will take good decision while you marry.
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Summer
@LLSummer (586)
• Guizhou, China
2 Dec 15
It is a custom here every girl should know how to weave that things. and I would be to make good decision when I am going to get married.
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BirDan
@birjudanak (14320)
• India
2 Dec 15
@LLSummer we also read while study that when baby girl born they give shoe to them and wear very tight because they not want to grow legs more as small legs look beautiful.
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Summer
@LLSummer (586)
• Guizhou, China
2 Dec 15
@birjudanak your country also do sort of those things, I always think chinese is the only one to do that.
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S George
@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
2 Dec 15
give and take dowries for marriage in India is a crime by law. But it vary as different kinds of gifts as you have mentioned like car, gifts, ornaments etc. In India normally bride's house give presents to bridegrooms house. I think your custom is just opposite.
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S George
@shshiju (10342)
• Cochin, India
2 Dec 15
@LLSummer Ya Don't Worry, I agree that but not forget to learn that weaving in boots. Lol
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Summer
@LLSummer (586)
• Guizhou, China
2 Dec 15
WOW , thank for sharing so important thing with me. we have different customs just owing to differet countries.I don't think that in some ways you can accept what we chinese did. am I right ?
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dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
2 Dec 15
It's a news to me that system of dowry also prevails at your place. If shoe making is must for you, then you should learn it, if you want to get a good match.
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jaishankar
@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
2 Dec 15
@LLSummer,People in my town say my father had refused to accept dowry when he got married.So did my elder brother.And so will I do.No dowry at all.
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jaishankar
@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
3 Dec 15
@LLSummer My father hates seeking dowry.Yeah,I'll follow him.
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Summer
@LLSummer (586)
• Guizhou, China
2 Dec 15
Wow, I really admit that your families do that. and for what you do is to inspire me to get marry without dowry . Now I also get that ideas as you thought. and I will try to do it.
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Wendy789
@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
2 Dec 15
I thought in China as long as you can produce "car, $$$, a fancy wedding, and some furnishing for the house" it's a good dowry. Don't worry about the bootees, go to Taobao and order a bunch!
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Summer
@LLSummer (586)
• Guizhou, China
2 Dec 15
You are so humourous. yeah. as you said when I get married I would order a lots of bootees on Taobao.
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Rubeena Bashir Kunju
@rubyriaz007 (4188)
• India
8 Dec 17
In my place girl gives gifts to her husband's house. Gold, pocket money, land, car these all are given to the bridegroom. They only put a mangalsutra.