~Should I Tell Them?~

I feel bad about what your sister in law said. But I believe you should announce your pregnancy with pride and with happiness and i mean that super infectious happiness! You'll see everyone would be feeling the joy you are feeling too :)

It would depend on how close I am o those people, If I had been close to them yes I would tell them about my pregnancy, screw them if they are going to be negative. You can tune them out if they continue. This is about you and your family not them. You should be able to share your happiness with others.

Considering the horrible thing she said, I would not tell her, at least not directly.

You are doing right its your baby and its your choice to have a baby she shouldnt be tonting on you.

Don't tell her, tell her to mind her own business and don't bother talking to her again. You do not need people like that in your life, the fact that you are even worrying about it shows that she is a negative impact on your life and isn't worth your energy. What a horrid thing to say x

That was a thoughtless thing to say but is she really a bad person? Enjoy your pregnancy and hold your head high hon.

I guess it would depend on how much they have been keeping in touch since you moved. I saw your FB status, but no comments at the time. I guess the evil one could still make rude comments to sister in private.

I would not share the joy till you are ready . they don't deserve it. plus I know how you feel I had the same with my 4th and 5th pregnancies. my own mother said bad things to me like I couldn't afford it. but how can you feel like that when you love every one of them. funny thing is the last one she ended up taking away from me when he was 13 yrs. she spoiled him and I could never fix that. people are so mean sometimes. I hope this child gets here well and everyone ends up happy for you. how can they judge Gods plan?

If someone made a comment like that after I lost a child I would feel no desire to tell them if I were pregnant again. If they had something to say about me not telling them I would just let them know I knew what they had said, and didn't want to hear any more of their hate.

You don't have to tell anyone anything, unless you want to. Personally, hearing the situation - I would n't tell them, but if they find out - via your social media - it's sort of like you telling everyone already just not directly or individually per person. Btw, Congratulations on your pregnancy!

First off, congratulations on your new bundle of joy! So happy for you. Secondly, I'm so sorry for you miscarriage before. I have never gone through one so I can't even imagine the pain of it. Thirdly, your sister in law is a C U Next Tuesday. There are ways to make it work having more than 1 or 2 kids. She should never have thought of it as a good thing at the loss of an innocent life. I would only tell your close immediate family. I would leave out the brother and sister in law until it's been at least a few months, or when you feel ready to tell them. Hell, wait until you start showing lol, Totally up to you. I sincerely hope everything works out for you.

It is not their business if they are going to act that way.

Sounds like either way they will be mean or upset. You tell when you want to, because the is your body and your baby.

That is a tough one. If I Told them I would also include if you are not happy with a mirale from God to me, then don`t comment.

I would wait but if you want them to be a part of your babies life then you can tell them and if they have something negative to say they don't have to be a part of it's life. The choice is yours

Honestly, after all the negative thing she has said, I probably wouldn't tell her either. You don't need to have something else to worry about. You have a lot on your plate right now. Think of what's best for you, your kids, and your baby to be. Enjoy your pregnancy.

I wouldn't tell her at all. She's already made it abundantly clear what she thinks, and her opinions on your family's circumstances really don't matter. She's part of a package deal with your brother, and from the sound of it you really don't have much to do with them... otherwise it would be obvious that you're expecting again, right? Really, though... if the fact that you're not telling them this would cause a war, are they really the sort of people that you want in your life and your kids' lives? I wouldn't be above telling her to her face that her previous actions were what prompted your decision to withhold that information from her. "SIL, why would I share our happy news with you after the comments you made about the miscarriage?" If you're on BabyCenter, drop by the DWIL Nation board. They specialize in dealing with situations like this, and they can help you navigate any issues that come up when the relatives find out about the baby.

What a terrible thing for your sister in law to say. However, spread the good news and the heck with anyone who isn't happy for you.

From what you said, i would not tell the negative people...let them know after the baby is born.

I rarely told anyone about any of my pregnancies until I had passed the 12 week mark. Other than immediate (close) family it was often not announced much before 20 weeks.