Will you change yourself to get adjusted?
By Shreya
@SHREE_N (47)
Thiruvananthapuram, India
December 4, 2015 5:44am CST
Suppose you are brought up in a metropolitan city where you have had all freedom to choose what you wear, what you eat, with whom to go out, what time to come back and all of a sudden your life takes a turn and you are forced to go, live in a village area where everything depends on a culture that the folks there have been following since decades and they force you too to follow them even though you don't like. Will you change yourself, your style of living and your attitude towards things just because the culture demands it? Will you be ready to change your personality?
From a fun-loving, carefree, talkative girl will you be ready to become a mature, serious girl whose smile, clothes, attitude is governed by the society?
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@Knidarius (1)
• Hyderabad, India
4 Dec 15
This question is wrongfully directed at girls in the end. Men too face judgement, albeit of a different kind, in the hands of the society. Even a slight change like the one from a bachelor life in the city to a family one, brings in a lot of cultural and habitual changes that are expected from one. As has been said, the move to the village was forced, so there is no reason why one should change. On the other hand, whom would they maintain the same nature with? They would not be able to go anywhere, do anything they want because there would be no places to go and noone to hang out with at those times.
The only sensible thing to do would be only to change as much is needed for personal safety then move back to the city at the earliest possible. Keep in mind, that the move was forced according to the question asked.
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@SHREE_N (47)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
4 Dec 15
It wasn't wrongfully directed, that was just a general opinion, I wanted from girls. Facing judgement is totally different from having to follow something which do not represent yourself. Of course villages have locations to hang out may not be cool as city hang out spots but still. As far as personal safety is considered, it is more important in cities rather than in villages.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
4 Dec 15
There is no such thing as freedom in the city.
When you start to work in a company, you have to get used to the culture of the company.
if you do not, you will not get promoted, and everyone will boycott you.
I think it is a matter of adjusting to the environment.
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@SHREE_N (47)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
4 Dec 15
Yes, it is a matter of adjusting but in the process you need to change yourself rather bend your wishes and habbits to follow up what already exists. My aim was just to ask won't we lose ourselves in the process because we are trying to follow up something which is not the real us. Working in a company, you need to get used to the culture but for that only you get paid.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
5 Dec 15
There is a saying While in Rome do as the Romans do ... We have to blend in or else we tend to stick out like a sore thumb ! I feel that one need not change completely but in India people living in villages are very particular about the way you dress and if they find it objectionable you may end up inviting trouble for yourself and one can compromise on that easily and change your lifestyle accordingly..
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
6 Dec 15
its look little difficult but with people and culture we have to change for ours family who live there and with situation we have to change because like in clothes village girl wear simple and here jeans ,skirts so if wear there then all people see you and we feel annoying ,
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