if you and your best friend were in love with the same person would you give up?

If I were to answer this question when I was 20, I would have said "I will give up". In my thirties I would have answered " I won't give up. Why should I? Let him give up". Now my answer is "Who cares?" (I am 48+ now. )

I am one to walk away from sticky situations anyway. Although this never happened to me and a close friend, a similar incident happened between me and a classmate. We liked the same guy but the guy liked me. She, however, flirted so bad with him that it pushed him even further away from her. When she knew that we had a thing for each other, she stopped talking to me, and started acting really "b*tchy" towards me. I guess she couldn't accept defeat. It never worked out with me and that guy. We were in college, and my course was just too demanding I didn't have time for relationships. They also didn't end up together. All three of us are friends now. :D

OMG. What have you got into these past days I am getting scared I hope she is not the only one around. If she is, I will not give up

haha,that is complicated,if it happen to me,i might gaive up

well, I think I wouldn't want to get involved in that.

if he really love her and trust her then i will give up but it depend on she also who like her because sometimes what happened both friend like one girl but she like only one girl so if all there understand properly then its good and decide who is happy with who.

Perhaps it is fair for the one to make a choice. You know the love depends on two persons. Even you love him or your best loves him, it doesn't mean a thing if he doesn't love anyone of you.

I think it will be a disaster for the 'guy' Glad to know that you are ready to sacrifice your 'love' for a friend. For me, being a wife and mother of two I really don't want to think such a weird situation.

No I won't give up. As the old saying 'everything is fair in love and war'. why give up and leave yourself crying for life. I would rather ask my friend to give up and tell him that next time I will.

Interesting question. I think I shouldn't give up, perhaps my best friend can feel happy seeing me with the other girl he also liked. Anyway, the end decision must be taken from the person who is loved. She can finally choose none of us, but a third one.

I don't think my best friend would appreciate me giving up just for her. It's almost like saying she has no chance without me giving up. Though, I'd probably go for someone else instead.

Well it has happened only once, but the girl chose to go out with me!! And also that was in final year of school!! Now, if that happened, I will simply ask the girl, that's it!! I won't sabotage a friendship because of a crush!!

I actually had this happen to me when I was in high school. I ended up walking away from the situation and letting my best friend have the girl. Have you ever heard the expression "bros before hoes" before? It's basically when guys make a pact with each other that they won't let a girl come between them. I figured I didn't want to lose my best friend, and I knew that somewhere out there would be another girl for me.

First think about her....opinion. Love needs sacrifice between close friends. Love needs selfishness also more....You can not leave your love just because somebody has loved her....First you should ascertain she is in love with whom....Always choice should be her...

I don't think I'd give up. I think it depends whom the guy loves, if he loves me, why should I give up? If he loves my best friend, then I will be wishing them together happily. I believe if she's my true friend, she will wish me to be happy too. But, I never think this would happen to me, even when I was young. It seems like my female friends and I were attracted by different kinds of guys.

Sure you don't want your best friend to suffer but what about the guy? How does he feel? As far as my BF goes she and I have such different interests and are attracted to such different type of guys I really don't see this happening. But, if it did it would be horrible. I don't know what I would do. It would have to come from the guy and his feelings I am thinking.

Hard one! Probably would if I loved my friend that much too.

depends on the person you both love.. on whom he will chose among you but if it's not too late, better give up the feeling to avoid getting hurt.. not only for you but also for your friend

If everything else were equal, I would give up my relationship with the person my best friend loved. Of course, much depends on how much in love I was and how good the friendship was.

It happens to me once, and I choose to let go, because I don't want to lose our friendship. But the problem is that, the girl told me that She likes me, and it made me happy, because I liked her too, but for the sake of my BestFriend, I choose to lie, and told her that I don't feel the same way. So we didn't talk for a month, and my bestfriend is bugging me by always asking for help to go on a date with her. I just told him to go and ask her directly and have courage to tell her your feeling. That's all. p.s There happy now, and its been 2 yrs. since then, and were still friends, and we also tell him that story.