Is it normal that when we feel depressed we put ourselves away from those who care for us the most?

I agree with some of what has been said below. I wouldn't push him but perhaps you can send him something from time to time that might cheer him up. I sent a friend a small angel statue in the mail one day. She told me she had a bad day that day and coming home to that gave her such peace and good feelings. Some guys DO like getting flowers, or perhaps a healthy gift basket, or even just a cheerful card. Keep your distance but let him know that you are thinking of him and care.

Yes, is the simple answer to your question. When I am depressed, I need space, and I need to do things my own way to handle my depression. If your really want to help your friend, do meet him, do interact but cut out all the talks and questions related to his depression. Try cheering him up... maybe take him to lunch or a movie or a long drive. To start with - try get him busy with something that interests him.

You see you have played your part, you have already offered your services to him so as to help him come out of his depression, however, he does not seem ready to listen to you. It would be better to leave him alone for the time being. Whenever he becomes normal, he will contact you himself. You should not worry about him.

True. I stayed out of contact of friends and family. when I got out of depression i realized that those were not real friends and also family wanted me to be a high earner person. and i wasn't that great so they deserted me. so my depression taught me something. now though they say people care about you. I learned that people only care about what benefits them. even parents think that way.

its really critical situation because you want to help him and he may be not want anyone help so in this both are feel not good that as you want to help him,i think if he understand you and your best friend then he must have to tell you something and whats his problem.he is you just friend or something more?

@sweetloveforeve Like all others, I too think what your friend need right now is personal space and your support. Leave him alone for some time because insisting to talk in such a situation may worsen his condition, but allowing personal space doesn't mean you all together leave that person. Time has the power to heal all wounds, so you need to patiently wait. Just make him feel that whatever happens he wouldn't have to face it all alone, you will be there for him. I hope the day soon comes when he himself will tell you his problems and you get your same old friend back!!

It is normal, yes. It's hard to know what to do. You don't want to be pushy but you want to take care of your friend. It partly depends on the person because some need to be made to talk while others need to be left until they are ready. I think the best thing you can do is tell your friend that you're there for him, and know that he's welcome when he's ready. Perhaps then just 'check in' with him every so often just to say hello. Also, check if there are other people who know/can help. If there is someone else around, maybe they can also check in so you don't seem like you're being too pushy. I hope that's helped. It is a difficult situation to be in.

it's ok. everybody needs some time alone for themselves. well, in my case, I do. so I can relate to that. when I feel I wanna talk about it, I'll tell my close friend. probably just say hi once you know, for him to notice that you are available whenever he wants to tell you about it. probably the best thing I can say about your case, is just update him how your day has been. all the best for you.