Sweet 16
@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
United States
December 9, 2015 7:35pm CST
So, my husband's younger cousin is going to be sweet 16 on Friday. Yay good for her! So I have to attend because....?
Don't get me wrong. I really think she is sweet when I do get to see her. But the sad fact is that she is incredibly spoiled and selfish for the most part. A brat if you will.
We got invited to her party and it's at a club and we have to dress all formal.
I mainly don't want to go because this girl doesn't wish us happy birthday or Merry Christmas or anything unless we see her face to face which is only at family functions.
Oh and what do you get a 16 year old who has everything anyway?
Am I being immature and selfish? I feel like my point is valid.
/rant.
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@yukimori (10145)
• United States
10 Dec 15
In other words, you kind of have the impression that she's only interested in acknowledging your existence when there's the possibility that she's going to get something from you or she can't avoid it?
I'd just RSVP 'no' and call it good. Whatever other issues you might have with the girl's behavior, the time doesn't work for you. Although I do think it's kind of odd to expect a teenager to remember all of her extended family members' birthdays... but that may just be due to the fact that my family never paid much attention to birthdays. As far as holiday greetings go, isn't she included in the cards that her parents send out? I'd consider them responsible for that sort of thing since she's still a minor child living in their household.
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@yukimori (10145)
• United States
10 Dec 15
@DanieGirl80587 Why would you feel close to someone that you only see a couple of times a year if that? An invitation isn't a summons, and you don't have to attend just because she happens to share more DNA with your husband than the average human.
Honestly, your child's routine is way more important than attending a party for a teenager you rarely see. And let's face it... nobody poops on a party the way a tired, overstimulated baby (or toddler) poops on a party.
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@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
15 Dec 15
@yukimori Hahaha so true. We ended up going anyways....I got guilted by my father-in-law. I had me some free drinks and food and my little 1 conked out at a decent time :)
@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
10 Dec 15
She is included lol. I basically just don't feel close to her at ALL so I guess I just don't feel like going. I married into his family so I guess I get stuck going to his cousin's events lol. I see her like 2-3 times a year if that.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 15
Not to say anything about your husband's aunt and uncle, but the child would not be that way if it weren't for the parents.
I also want to say that perhaps she is more reserved than you know and is too shy to wish people a merry or happy whatever. It could also be that her parents haven't enforced or taught her this kindness.
Let me further say that I know it is not always the parents whole doing, but they do have influence over it.
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@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
10 Dec 15
That's true.I'm not trying to be harsh on them at all. His aunt and uncle are incredibly rich and they spoiled her and her brother. I just hate feeling obligated to go, especially when it's from like 6:30-10 and my son has a bedtime of like 8. My husband can go if he wants to, not stopping him. I just don't want to have to go just because I'm married to him.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Dec 15
@DanieGirl80587 My sister and brother in law spoil their kids a bit more thatn I would. My sister's reasoning is because of our upbringing. We may not have always had what we wanted but we had what we needed and that is what mattered. In any case, I don't blame you for not wanting to attend and you have a valid enough reason with your child's bedtime being two hours before the end of the event.
I hope the cousin is learning the true value of money and not thinking everything will be handed to her throughout life.
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@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
15 Dec 15
I got guilted into it by my father in law. Meh. I had me some free drinks and food so not a total loss :)
