In a sexless marriage

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We've only been married three years. Sadly, we've seen no action in several months. Before that several months, it took almost a year before we had sex again. It all started when I got pregnant. My husband told me he wasn't comfortable making love because he might hurt the baby. He knows it wasn't that hazardous but I respected the fact he wasn't comfortable so I let him. It was a difficult pregnancy. I was misdiagnosed with ovarian tumors. We took the risk and undergone surgery at my 7th month. A few months later I found myself almost unable to walk. It started out as a severe back pain and turned out to be spinal tuberculosis. Long story short, we just couldn't do it. I was incapable. I was cured and fully recovered by November 2014 but even then, he's just lost interest. Aside from sex, he's still the same, sweet and caring husband he's always been. We talk dirty a lot but no move. I tried everything--be playful, massages, wear sexy sleepwear. Nothing. I cried and confronted but he keeps giving me lame excuses. He says he doesn't want to get me pregnant but he doesn't like any kind of protection. Naturally, I felt less of a woman. Unappreciated. I feel ugly, fat and stinky. The worst was when he laughs when I try to make a move. Makes me look desperate but I can't really get mad at him for too long. He's just too nice. He's a good father, provider and overall a good person. Now, that drive and interest has also died for me. While sex does not define our marriage. It affects it in a big way. And I can't fix it alone. What do you suggest?