The year I discovered there was no santa
@rosekiss (30414)
Eugene, Oregon
December 18, 2015 2:22pm CST
I believe I was 8 and my brother was 6 or so. Our Aunt and Uncle who raised us, would send us out to the car on Christmas Eve, as we were going to church for the Christmas Eve service. When we were sent to the car, they didn't come out to the car it seemed for awhile, and then all of a sudden, my brother said, that they we in the house putting the presents under the tree.
I couldn't believe what he was saying, as I wanted to believe so bad, but it also made sense as to why they had sent us to the car, and didn't come out right away.
Come to find out, my brother was right, and it sure spoiled my Christmas, but then it was better I found it out then, than later.
When I look back on things, our Christmases were always great, no matter what, and finding out that santa really didn't exist, was just a small matter. It was the fact that we could spend it togehter. and enjoy oursleves anyway.
I am thankful for the memories that I had with my brother, and my aunt and uncle, since they are all gone now. The memories will last forever, and I am thankful for that.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 15
What do you mean there is no father Christmas. Don't say things like that its not true! 
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
20 Dec 15
HaHa. That is funny. At least I had some years of belief, and you know, I am glad that I foound out when I did. I would have hated to go on believing a lie, as I don't like being lied to. I did enjoy my Christmases though, regardless, as they were with family, and that is the main thing. Now that I have grown up, have kids and grandkids, I think that Christmas is very special now. I get to spend it with my son and family, as we have great times toghether.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
20 Dec 15
@garymarsh6 I am 67, and I satill get excited at Christmas. 
I think, my biggest enjoyment is being with my son and family for Christmas. It is better than being by myself. I enjoy the time we spend toghether more than the gifts that we give and receive.
I think, my biggest enjoyment is being with my son and family for Christmas. It is better than being by myself. I enjoy the time we spend toghether more than the gifts that we give and receive.1 person likes this
@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
20 Dec 15
@rosekiss Lovely and I hope they appreciate your company at Christmas. it is magical for children. I used to shake with excitement the only problem is I have never grown out of the shaking with excitement! How daft is that and I am 55 now!
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Dec 15
HaHa, too funny. He knew that by us being sent out to the car, as when we went out to the car, there were no presents under the tree. He knew that they were puttng the presents under the tree, and I didn't want to believe it at 8 years old, but they finally did tell us then, that my brother was telling the truth. I am just glad that my brother lived with them as long as we did and had great times together whether it was Christmas or not.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
27 Dec 15
I am not sure about the Easter Bunny either, as I only remember about santa, that I found out he didn't exist. I never did resent my brother or my annt and uncle for not telling me. I am just glad I found out when I did, as it is better younger than older.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
19 Dec 15
You brother seems he realized before you
Good you had great Christmases even after that
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
20 Dec 15
It did seem funny to me, that my brother being younger, figured it out before I did. My aunt and uncle had been doing that for a long time sending us out to the car Christmas Eve. It just finally dawned on him as to why, and it was a little disappointing at first, but since our Christmases were so great, we just never let it bother us again, and enjoyed the good times we had growing up.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
20 Dec 15
@Missmwngi Well, my aunt and uncle made it easy, as they made sure that our Christmases were always happy, and she made sure that we got what we needed and not always wanted, We may have thought at first, that we didn't always need what we got, but we certainly did, and were very appreaicative of everything that we got. It wasn't about the gifts anyway, as it was being with them that made it special, and now that I have kids, they are more important than anything else, even though I don't spend the holiday with my daughter as she lives in Missourit, and I am in Oregon. I still wish her the best on that day, and everyday.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
20 Dec 15
@rosekiss Glad you enjoyed the time even afterward
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@godsmack423 (82)
• Flint, Michigan
18 Dec 15
When I found out my mother asked me and my sisters if we wanted to know who Santa is and my sister was like yeah I do. Well my mom says I am. We all looked at her in disbelief, and she goes I am Santa and have been all these years. I just couldnt believe it, I swear it ran through my mind over and over. Its sad I will have to some day tel my daughter there is no Santa, but for now I will enjoy the time and memeries with her.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Dec 15
It is hard to tell kids the truth, but if a child asks, then we do need to tell them the truth. My tenant has a 9 year oild daughter who just found out that there is no santa, and her mom had to admit that she is right. I think it was hard for her at first, but she si okay with it, and that makes her mom feel better. Since my ex and I are christians, we never did let our kids believe in something that isnt real, not because he isn't, but because we didn't want to have to lie to them, as we thought it would affect them later. Each family is different though, and that is what we chose to do, but those that don't I don't condemn them for it, as it is what they want to do.
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@saurabhrmp (2283)
• Hyderabad, India
19 Dec 15
It shows how much love you have for your brother. and that is good also. WE should love our family members.
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
20 Dec 15
I really didn't want to believe what he was telling me, but it all made sense. I am glad though that my aunt and uncle did finally tell us the trurth, as I would have hated to keep believing a lie. As far as my brother is concerned, I did have lots of love for him. He passed away a few years ago and I miss him, but I do have the memories to hold on to, and that is all that matters.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
20 Dec 15
@saurabhrmp I have lost several family members over the years, but my memories of them are very vivd, and I will hang onto them forever. I also have lots of pictures, and are priceless, as they are the family members that are no longer here. I miss them all, but I know I wills see them again, on that great resurrection morning.
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@saurabhrmp (2283)
• Hyderabad, India
20 Dec 15
@rosekiss , Really sorry by hearing about brother.By reading your discussion, I also remember my brother, whom I love a lot.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Dec 15
I don't recall every thinking about Santa as he fit into my Christmas. Looking back I feel like I always knew.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Dec 15
I wish I had realized it before I found out by my brother, but then it didn't affect me that long anyway. I enjoyed my Christmases regardless, and besides, he isnt what Christmas is about anyway. Jeus is the reason for the season, so I wanted to make sure that my own kids kenw that.
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Dec 15
It did me at first, but I got over it in a hurry. That isn't waht Christmas is about anyway, so I just deceded that I was glad tht I could spend my holiday with my family, as that is the most important thing, regardless of santa or not. Of course I now now, that Jesus is the reason for the season and he is the one I celebrate on Christmas.
@antonbunot (11093)
• Calgary, Alberta
18 Dec 15
There is santa (pretending) in the mall . . sitting and waiting for kids to sit on his lap for a Christmas photo. But the santa that puts those boxes of gifts under the Christmas tree is our moms or dads. 
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Dec 15
Yep, and that is what my brother, at the age of 6 figured out. I thought it was kind of funny, that I was older, and didn't catch on like he did. My brother told them he knew, and they admitted that he was right. It was disillusioning at first, but I got over it pretty fast. Now that I am grown up and have kids and grandkids, I am just happy that I can spend it with my son and family, as that is the most important thing, and of course Jesus is too, and not santa, who is make believe anyway.
@Marilynda1225 (82582)
• United States
18 Dec 15
All the magic that surrounds Santa is a wonderful time of year for youngsters
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Dec 15
Yes it is. I am just glad that we did have a few years of it anyway, and the rest of the time, we just enjoyed our Christmas knowing that our aunt and uncle had bought the gifts we asked for.
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
20 Dec 15
Isn't that funny though, that your cousin thought you better know, instead of finding it out yourself? That is the the way it goes with kids though, that they can't keep secrets to long, as they burst at the seams to tell others. At least when we do find out, we are okay with it, and enjoy our holiday with our families.
@cindiowens (5120)
• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
20 Dec 15
I can't even remember when I found out. It mustn't have been that big of a deal.
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@paigea (36318)
• Canada
19 Dec 15
I remember I was in grade three when I heard kids saying there was no Santa. I really wanted to believe. I asked my parents and they said I wouldn't get a gift from Santa f I didn't believe. So I BElieved!
Any way soon enough they let me be part of the Santa fun by putting the gifts out and filling the stockings after my younger siblings went to bed. So my disappointment disappeared.
Any way soon enough they let me be part of the Santa fun by putting the gifts out and filling the stockings after my younger siblings went to bed. So my disappointment disappeared.1 person likes this
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
20 Dec 15
That is great that you got to be part of it. It helped you understand, and it like you seaid your dsappoiontement disappeared, and helpiing became fun for you. At least your other sibllings got a chance to believe if only for awhile anyway.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
20 Dec 15
@paigea I still loved Christmas even though I found out there was no Santa, but like I said, that isn't want Christmas is about anyway. It is about sharing with others, enjoying each others compahy, just having a good time all around. That is what I like about Chrismtas, is spending it with the family, That is the main thing, is the family gathering.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Dec 15
If it weren't for my brother figuring it out, who knows how much longer I would have believed in him. I wasn't upset with my brother though, as he was telling the truth. I wished I could have believed a little longer, but it is better finding out real young than later. I can remember that Christmas Eve like it was yesterday. It is amazing how we can remember things from our childhood like this.
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Dec 15
That is very young to find it out. Your cusin probably found out very young too. It is funny though that kids can be talking and the one will tell the other that there is no santa. Oh well, you know though, it doesn't detract from Christmas one bit. I didn't like it when I heard it, but then I told myself that I was going to have a great Christmas in spite of it, and I certainly did.
