Am I Losing My Mind?
By Morley Hunt
@Morleyhunt (21744)
Canada
December 20, 2015 5:01am CST
In the last three weeks my life has gone through a major upheaval. My home has also had some major rearranging done to accommodate my new reality. As a result I spend all of my time searching.
My mother passed away three weeks ago. My father moved, temporarily into my guest room (a room with no windows, no closet and also used as storage for my fabrics). Legally it is not considered a bedroom and because we will be dealing with different social service agencies this was only a short term solution.
My father informed us he didn't want to go "home" as he has some health concerns that made that difficult. Yes, we could accommodate him, but he needed a different room.
My sewing room was the ideal solution. Two generous windows, a large closet, a good sized room and across the hall from the bathroom. As I said, an ideal solution.
It took me three days to empty the room of my sewing machines, threads, accessories, books, in progress sewing projects and all the other paraphernalia that accompanies my work.
All of these things needed to be tucked into various corners and closets throughout my small house. It also need to be accomplished quickly.
Now the search is on. Where is my iron? Where is this sewing notion?
I have spent hours searching for missing supplies. Things I could easily locate a week ago seem to have vanished from the face of the earth.
It seems my constant refrain has been, " I am losing my mind!"
Is this just a result of the turmoil in my life?
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22 responses
@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
It's a difficult time for you, your life has changed, your brain has been on overload, take a big breath and try to relax, slow down and hopefully everything will fall into place and without stree you will find life easier. .one step at a time. I wish you peace and tranquility, I know that sounds crazy but it does work...get a grip and relax. Let us know how and when things get better.
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@Marilynda1225 (83103)
• United States
20 Dec 15
@Morleyhunt it might sound cliche but you do need to take time for yourself every day or you will lose your mind for real
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
I try to take a few minutes each day to just sit and de stress. Some days are better than others.
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@ChinaLeon (247)
• Tianjin, China
21 Dec 15
@Morleyhunt I think what @PainsOnSlateb said is right. The sudden change in life makes you overloading too much. You need a rest.
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@marijuana (570)
• Tel Aviv, Israel
20 Dec 15
Yeah.. It happens when there are many things we have to think about., you have to take it easy. You have lost your mom and now having to attend to your dad. I hope all will be ok with you all,
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@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
21 Dec 15
my goldfish seem happy enough I guess.
Adventure is a good approach I think when everything seem just a little upside down. In those Mari Juana times taking it easy helps me too unless I think to much then need to take it easy with an activity. Life eh.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
We will get through the confusion. Much of it becomes an adventure. Something to write about.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
Once things settle down, and everything finds a permanent place, it should become easier.
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@sueznewz2 (10409)
• Alicante, Spain
20 Dec 15
its great you are able to accomodate your father... and i'm sure all the 'lost' items will be found once you start remembering where there new places are.... 
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
It will be helpful when everything has a permanent place. This constant moving around keeps me guessing.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
20 Dec 15
well, maybe your mind is still in the passing away of your mother. You will find it anyway!
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
Everything in my house has moved. Nothing is where it used to be. I need to adjust to these new locations.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
20 Dec 15
It might have been a good idea to put your sewing equipment into the guest room that has no window then you could have found everything more easily. I think probably you are still upset with the lose of your mother and now having your father coming to live with you has made you scatter brained.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
The guest room with no window is housing some of my sewing supplies, but the queen sized bed (used regularly by guests) takes up the bulk of the room. Two shef units have been moved to the font entrance, the treadle sewing machine has been accommodated in a passageway, the rest is all shoved into the walkin coat closet.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
21 Dec 15
We sometimes go that phase , when things gets a bit frantic because we are rattled . 
Don't worry , once you have rested from those accommodations done , you will be back to your normal self .
You are commendable for being a loving daughter to your father . Keep it up , my friend .
Don't worry , once you have rested from those accommodations done , you will be back to your normal self .
You are commendable for being a loving daughter to your father . Keep it up , my friend . 2 people like this
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
Thank you. I think of it as just doing what needs to be done. About seventeen years ago we had my mother inlaw as a guest for four years.
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
Busy untangling all my thread. ?? Soon I'll find everything that I am looking for.
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@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
20 Dec 15
I am sure it is, I still have the contents of my mother's home that I had to sell sitting in my formal parlor, good thing wee don't use it lol. My grandson spent 3 years in one of my spare bedrooms so I know the havoc it can play losing a room. I am sure your mind is fine.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
Moving to a bigger place is not going to happen. I had to move too much too quickly to be organized. Hopefully things will shake into place before long.
@just4him (317245)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Dec 15
You've got a lot going on in your life right now. I'm sorry for your mother's loss in your life. I would say it definitely is a sign of all the turmoil you're going through. You will find your sewing supplies, just take a deep breath and let peace and calm wash over you.
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
20 Dec 15
I managed to make the required bathrobe. I think the adventure involved in the making might turn into an interesting article. ??
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
22 Dec 15
I am finding more of the 'lost' items, but my life still seems to be spinning out of control..
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@JudyEv (342179)
• Rockingham, Australia
22 Dec 15
@Morleyhunt As others have said, try to take care of yourself as well.
@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
21 Dec 15
Yes, it is due to all the disruption. I have not gotten organized yet to sew, but I was having a creative urge the other day. I had my sister in my home for a year before I moved and I have been rearranging and moving since July. We had Christmas ten days early as well. I am glad you can have your dad with you, there are only so many days we can spend with our family. I will want to see my dad again soon.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
21 Dec 15
No you're not loosing your mind it's called stress. We live in a very stressful environment and it just doesn't seem to let up.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
21 Dec 15
It's good that your Dad was willing to speak up and admit he needed help. I find the older generations are not willing to do that. I am sorry to hear about your Mom's passing.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
21 Dec 15
Maybe putting theses things in totes till you need to use them.
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@Marilynda1225 (83103)
• United States
20 Dec 15
I can certainly sympathize with you about having to move a parent into your home. I had to move my mom into my home 7 yrs ago and it was a major upheaval. Give yourself a break and don't stress too much. You'll find your mind probably before you find your iron!! LOL
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@HebrewGreekStudies (1646)
• Canada
21 Dec 15
I am very sorry for your loss and...I might actually have some helpful advice. When working with people who are recently berieved one of the first things I tell them is that people often feel that way-it does not mean that one is going mad, it means that they are grieving. There is shock which has a physical and mental effect...and that will take time to deal with-so...just be patient with yourself. Again, I am very sorry for your loss:(.
