Was This Unromantic?

He wasn't trying to be funny? If he was he didn't succeed, and if I was your friend I certainly wouldn't have been happy about it.

I hope that he was just nervous and hadn't said it right. I would hope that they know eachother well enough that she knows he does love her for her. Ugh! Sort of a weird situation.

A woman would nev edr say that but men most f them ten to be less soft and really a tad more honest so he was repeating what his friends said and really in his own way he did compliment her and said how beautiful she looked and I would bet hat he thought he was call ing her an angel and was telling her he loved her Most men are not flowery as women tend to b e.

i think that they both sound kind old and getting desperate for marriage. so they liked something about each other, and settled for each other before they end up losing each other and remain single and looking for another ten years. let's hope they are old enough to make their marriage work out since they finally found someone they want to marry.

I would have been offended if I was her. The only thing I can think of is maybe he's not good at conveying his true feelings through words-but if that's the case maybe he should have asked for advice or something.

He blew it with that give her a chance sentence. At least the sigh was there... Maybe he's just an idiot and doesn't know how to write or talk with intelligence...Scary to know you are married to someone willing to give it a chance...

I have to agree with you. This was something not only unromantic but also rude and offensive.

We sometimes seek perfection which is unrealistic and we sometimes don't see what we have right before us. He may have not said it in a way that seemed romantic but most men aren't really great with expressing emotions not like woman are.

The moral of the story is "don't write your own vows"! I guess he was being truthful there with how they got together, except it wasn't the right place or the right time. Erm.. I'd preferred a simple "I do" and keep the rest of the juicy stuff to yourself. Another bit of concern is that.. say 10years later, his "angel" showed up.. then what?

It could be that he had something better prepared and then 'stage fright' took over and it didn't come out the way he planned. I'd hope that the marriage isn't what it sounded like. It could also be that he's not that good at sharing his heart. You'll just have to see how it all pans out.

Some men need that push. It wasn't necessary to tell everyone his reasons, however. I hope they will have a long and happy marriage. Happy New Year!

it certainly is so unromantic, in my humble opinion. he may have meant that he cannot find another woman that was why he was settling only for him.

Unbelievable! Quite honestly, the guy is probably either terribly rude, not the sharpest tool in the shed, or he has difficulty conveying his own thoughts to other human beings. I do think it MIGHT BE true that he was trying to be either honest or funny (and failed), but that doesn't supplant the previous three choices, it merely supplements them! Here's what I can see hidden between the clumsily written vows he read. He was probably (scratch that, HOPEFULLY) trying to say that he had been searching for an actual "angel", and since I sincerely doubt he will find one, his friends apparently told him to not seek the unattainable 100% perfect person, or you're never going to realize that you have such an "angelic" person right in front of you, and you're going to lose this, your once in a lifetime opportunity. So he is just so happy that they convinced him to give up his unrealistic expectations and accept the best that this world has to offer. First of all, it probably sounded wonderful in his head and so he just started writing. And like I said he was either just not able to see that they sounded oh-so pitifully rude (to utter in front of a room full of family and friends no less), not any type of decent writer (which I can identify with - although I would seek help if I couldn't get it to sound a lot more like I wanted to commit my life to someone!), or he procrastinated until the last moment and managed to write, not read, his thoughts! Clearly, his bride was "drunk" with love , and she could see no flaw in any word he spoke or anything he did! Probably even if she looks back at a video, she either revisits that same state-of-mind or just remembers how great it was, so how could the video possibly show anything different than that! Ultimately, I do agree with you. I'm simply trying to offer an alternate explanation. I'd also feel comfortable running with the theory that SHE wanted them to write their own vows, and he agreed - so "THEY decided to do it". Then as the day approached he probably was hitting himself in the head saying "Why?! Why?! Why?!" I also feel it relevant to mention that your friend's vows weren't exactly all that impressive (nothing "bad" like his), they just sounded pretty Hallmarky to me - from your description. But I suppose that's just me. No matter what, I wish them well! So, anyways, Catherine, I have to ask you, how's your jaw?! LOL! That was my favorite part of the story! I'm wondering how many 'good ways' one's jaw can hit the floor... Hmm... I hope you put ice on it!

No doubt, that was over-the-top, downright unromantic. What was the guy thinking?! I mean come on, you don't say those things in front of your partner, especially on your wedding day. The guys should have kept that to himself and to his grave!

I find him too tactless. If I were the bride I won't be happy with what he said.

Most men find it hard to express themselves and they put their foot in it. Although it did sound like he was settling for second best . I am sure that is not what he meant at all.

Agreed, it does not sound nice... and putting it that way was a little harsh. But come to think of it - the guy is being honest. That is always the first step. And yes, also note that his friends are somewhat right, and are good friends (I think you would agree that when your friends are good, there are higher chances that you are good too) - who realize - it is easy to love someone, but finding someone who loves you is rare and the best thing to happen.

Though it looked unromantic to you. But i think the man is truthful to his wife on the very first of their new begining. She may not be his angel but at the least he cares for her and her feelings. Thats the most important thing. Nobody gets the perfect world for oneself, somewhere there is absence of sky and somewhere the earth is absent. This is what life is all about.

I think she was more serious about what she said then what he had to say his should have been more moving.

I see your point. He could have worded it a little better, I think. I hope they will be happy though. Men sometimes have a difficult time expressing their feelings, so maybe he did his best and meant well. Let's hope so.