Have you ever said no when others borrow money from you?
By youless
@youless (112496)
Guangzhou, China
January 2, 2016 4:27am CST
Some time ago my friend borrowed nearly $100 from me and he returned it back later. And then one month later the same thing occurred. And last week he also borrowed money from me and he said he would pay it back later. I know he will pay it back to me and lending $100 is OK. After all, it is not a very big amount. But I wonder why he is so short in cash? I know he does enjoy shopping online and he is even addicted into it. And it doesn't make a sense to me that he sometimes buys something but doesn't use it when he gets it. It is a big waste. I guess this may be a reason that he doesn't have money left.
Since he is my friend, so I feel embarrassed not to lend him money. I just hope that he can control his online purchase.
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18 responses
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 16
I agree with @boiboing . Why would you think it's embarassing to not lend him? big or small it still money. Give him reasonable reason, like you're saving for something or you need to buy something soon.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
4 Jan 16
Maybe that may be the reason. He might owe more people than you.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jan 16
I have made it a rule that I do not loan money. Too many irresponsible people.
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@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 16
OH, I had experienced the same. a year ago there was new college girl living next door. She was friendly, and then we became close. She started borrowed money from me for some different reason. She always pays back as she told me. But later I found that her parents sent her money every month like more than what I earn. She likes shopping a lot and her parents did not know. Later I stopped, not giving her money when she wants to borrow. I don't like that she lied to me and to her parents. I told her I start saving money for my future plan, and I can't help her anymore.
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@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 16
@youless I'm not sure what she think about me that time, but she moved out not long after I stop lending her money.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 16
I ever said no when others borrow money from me, because at that time I do not have much money. I have just for fulfill my daily needs. I think it is not wise if I borrow it while I do not have extra money. I think it is very risky for me if the money does not pay back immediately.
Usually, I said to her/him, I am sorry...
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 16
@youless I think it is difficult if you have much money. Moreover, if someone who want to borrow money from you knows that you have much money. I think you can't say no...
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
3 Jan 16
and hopefully he does give the money back each time. i would worry a time would come they get to far behind
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
3 Jan 16
That is strange that he keeps borrowing you $100. Now he knows you allow him to borrow so he is making it a habit. But it isn't a large amount ~ I am curious to how come he doesn't have $100 to his name?
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@delyaj30 (613)
• Quezon City, Philippines
2 Jan 16
many years ago a friend borrowed money to me, she didn't pay me back, so i just let it pass. Another friend borrowed money, i gave her and same thing happened. Se didnt pay me...Until one time another friend borrowed money to me and it was a big amount. She just paid me 10% of the amount she borrowed. Since then, i realized that lending money to other people is not good for me because they always cheat me and not pay. so, if anyone asked or borrow money, i don't give anymore. I have learned 
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
2 Jan 16
its depend on friends as he give back no problem but if they earn like us same amount and not any expenses for house work then why they short from money so i will give once but not more then it because then it habits that he always give me so he is fearless...
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