Wedding rings vs Tattooed rings
By Jhun Flores
@mnjhun1 (226)
Peru
January 4, 2016 12:53pm CST
I don't know when it all started but I will do some research about it later. I just personally love this trend of having a tattooed wedding ring instead of a solid one. It's looks more significant as a symbol of a matrimony; it's long lasting and hard to get rid of.
Unlike wedding rings, as soon as you're done with your marriage, you can easily take it off and even sell it as if your marriage has a price. I still do think people can get hurt by the fact that it didn't work out. But eventually, one will realize that it's not as painful as going through emotional and physical pain all at the same time. Erasing a tattoo is just as painful as (or maybe more painful than) when you get one. Not only will you pay for the divorce and go through emotional pain, but also spend for a tattoo removal and go through physical pain, unless you have strong tolerance to pain. In that case, it won't be so bad after all.
My point is, I simply think that if people have a tattoo for a wedding ring, they may think twice (or thrice) before ending their marriage for good. Somehow it will make them contemplate about having to go all through the divorce process, after all the pain there'll be more pain, money spent, etc. They won't be winning anything good other than just their freedom, I guess.
What do you think?
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
4 Jan 16
My son and his wife have tattoos on their ring fingers. They also have wedding rings too. I would not be one to have a ring permanently tattooed on my finger.
I truly doubt that a tattooed ring would cause anyone to rethink getting a divorce. If the marriage is troubled it will end if the couple isn't willing to work at it.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
4 Jan 16
@mnjhun1 As I told my first husband, a ring doesn't say your married, your actions do. He lost his ring the first week we were married and never got another. Our marriage after 6 years due to his infidelities.
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@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
4 Jan 16
@ElusiveButterfly I'm so sorry to know that..But, can you imagine how a tattoo could have probably made cheating almost impossible for him?
Although I don't know the whole story but I think it could have helped even a little to avoid cheating. But then you're right...it still depends on how you work your relationship. To be honest, if we're talking about marriage and relationship itself, it's very intricate to explain. But focusing on choosing between a tattooed ring and a wedding ring, I don't think I should really go deep. Right?
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@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
4 Jan 16
Who knows? Cuz I would if I had one. See, it's the same as having a wedding ring. Somehow when you look at it, it conveys the essence of your marriage. Or let's just say it's like a reminder of so many things you've shared together. The difference I see there is that when it's tattooed on you, you can't take it off quite easily while your anger or frustration still lasts unlike the wedding ring. I'm quite sure it will stay there longer than your strong negative emotions can last. Especially if you're relationship has gone so strong for so long and you just knew you're meant for each other.
Like what I've commented somewhere here, I know that there are so many factors as to why people want a divorce. Some are reasonable, while some are not. But, personally, if I were to choose between the two, I'd go for the tattoo. It doesn't have to cost much, but one will know how hard it is to get one and getting rid of it doesn't make it any less difficult. Just like when one gets in a lifetime commitment.
I accept your opinion though ^^
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@Bomber109 (201)
• Australia
4 Jan 16
I'm not sure worry about removing the tattoo would be enough to stop a break up. There are too many other issues that would be taking priority at the time and I don't think people would give removal of the tattoo ring much thought.
Having said that, I like the idea of a tattoo ring as it is there for life and you don't need to get it cleaned or re-sized as you do with a real ring. I could never get a tattoo though - I don't think I could handle the pain!
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@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
4 Jan 16
If I would point out every possible factors of divorce, I bet I would have to write a very long discussion about it. Of course, there are couples who have got to a point in their marriage where it's impossible to be fixed. Thus, I have to agree that the last thing they're gonna be worried about is having a tattoo removal.
In some other cases, there are couples who take marriage too lightly that if a few things go bad, they simply dispose their marriage. Taking off a wedding ring and find a new partner is that easy anyway... not to mention when cheating.
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@saurabhrmp (2283)
• Hyderabad, India
5 Jan 16
I didnt know about tattooed ring before reading this post. But I agree with you that this tattooed ring stays longer with the couple rather then actual one.
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@saurabhrmp (2283)
• Hyderabad, India
28 Jan 16
@mnjhun1 ; In some way it is good and in some way it is bad also.
@Gamic01 (88)
• Laguna, Philippines
4 Jan 16
I think the wedding ring is still the best and romantic one...taking care it for a long time is like keeping your love for a lifetime. Besides, that's the essence of marriage...thinking twice or thrice to make a lasting bond rather ending it forever.
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
29 Jan 16
@mnjhun1 I can only speak from my experience. It was a long marriage but ended due to lying and cheating. On her behalf. it wasn't truthful. So, I was stuck in this institution and got screwed financially as a result. I wound up with almost nothing. Which wasn't fair. After what she did. I will never enter into another binding contract like that ever again.
@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
29 Jan 16
@inertia4 I see.. I'm not saying that the only way to avoid divorce is through having a tattoo. Although from a couple who has really loved each other but is giving up hope decides to end it, it may help them think again. Let me repeat "it may"--no assurancet at all.
And think about this, if she had have the tattoo from your wedding, having it removed would have meant that she has to go through a lot of pain... which is how it should feel. It won't make anyone suffer forever, but the fact won't change that it did hurt at some point just how it should be.
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@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
28 Jan 16
I bet those people who changed their minds despite having their partner's name tattooed on them have learned a valuable lesson for their future relationships. Though some don't learn with just once... I've met one who has 5 of them on the same arm. xD
And of course, I don't remember saying that commitment is a symbol. Rather, the wedding rings are traditionally the symbol of commitment. As for the tattoo, it can also stand as a symbol. Though, in my opinion, between wedding rings and a tattoo, tattoo is more significant as a symbol of marriage.
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@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
29 Jan 16
@LadyDuck u're point is that there's no difference from having a wedding ring to a tattoo right? By what I mean that tattoo is more significant is that a marriage doesn't have to cost a lot because it doesn't have to have a luxurious price as to weigh its value; a tattoo's value doesn't rely on how much you paid for it, but what it meant for you. Marriage is meant to be forever, like a tattoo. Marriage can be a pain, like a tattoo. You know it's painful but you still took the risk because you knew it's worth it, just like before getting a tattoo. Marriage is where u can't just get rid of your partner that easily, like a tattoo. And if you really love each other, separation is painful, just like a tattoo when you want to remove it and it will still leave a mark.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
28 Jan 16
I don't like tattoos, and if I want to leave a man, it takes more than a tattoo to stop me xD
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you're tough
@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
4 Jan 16
I think a tatoo would really hurt someone incase f a break up. I would prefer the issue ring
@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
4 Jan 16
@mnjhun1 Oooh yeah but too bad one cannot tell the future right?
@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
4 Jan 16
@Missmwngi I'm not an expert, but if there's anything I know, you have the control to whom you're going to commit yourself to in the first place. It's a matter of time to learn how to keep that relationship with someone. That can also teach us to decide carefully before committing ourselves in a lifetime relationship. I bet most people know that marriage is a long-term relationship, but most people act like they don't.
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@JESSY3236 (19949)
• United States
28 Jan 16
I don't like the idea of getting a tattoo ring because it is painful to get rid of, and expensive to get rid of too. I am all for tattoos if they aren't regretted later on.
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@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
28 Jan 16
It's the same as when you get in a relationship. It's not always beautiful nor cheap. You get to spend money on dates and gifts, and even get hurt when you fight. Just like a tattoo, marriage is not all that nice. But we still end up taking the risk to get married. So if you and your partner know how hard it is to get that tattoo and get rid of it later on, you two will definitely consider not messing up your marriage so there won't be any regrets. Don't you think?
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@cindiowens (5120)
• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
29 Jan 16
If this were required, people wouldn't be so quick to run to the alter with someone they don't really love. It might be a great thing.
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@cindiowens (5120)
• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
29 Jan 16
@enlightenedpsych2 doing great, and you?
@cindiowens (5120)
• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
29 Jan 16
@enlightenedpsych2 So glad to hear that.
@innertalks (21916)
• Australia
28 Jan 16
Of course with a real ring, it is nice to inscribe the names of each other inside of the ring. If we included names too on the tattooed ring, it might spoil the look. People do get names tattooed onto other parts of their body too though.
@innertalks (21916)
• Australia
28 Jan 16
@mnjhun1 Yes, I think I understand.
When love is about to be lost, something permanent like a tattoo, might remind you every time you look at it, to give just a little more love, if you can do so.
I have heard that some people wear a rubber band around there wrist.
Whenever they are about to do something unloving, either to others or to themselves, they give themselves a little flick with that band, which pains them a little, and so they realise, that what they are about to do, will probably pain the other person too.
They have another chance to rethink their action, or actions.
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@innertalks (21916)
• Australia
28 Jan 16
@enlightenedpsych2 It's not implying that their marriage was an easy one either though. At times there were great difficulties, as there are with all marriages.
My poor dad was very sick for the last five or so years of their marriage. My mother nearly killed herself caring for him, until we finally persuaded her to allow him to go into a nursing home, but she would then visit him every day.
That is what real commitment is, caring deeply for the other person, so deeply that it hurts more than any pain from any tattoo, ever could. And yet it doesn't really hurt in one way, because the love that is there is being always applied to any hurt like an ointment.
My mum was hurting physically though, being such a small woman, she could not go on picking my dad up off the floor, every time that he fell down.
The best practical decision for all concerned had to be taken.
@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
28 Jan 16
@innertalks Marriage alone is a symbol of a lifetime commitment between man and woman with or without rings. Simply saying that I agree with what you said. Anything that can be a symbol to one's love is no more significant than the devotion and genuine love one has towards his/her partner.
Sadly, not all of us actually value marriage that much anymore, which is why I proposed the idea of a tattoed ring to be a better one than a wedding ring. ^^
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Jan 16
having been married 5 times 4 abusive ones that was hard to get rid of, i think it would have been a very bad idea for me. maybe you never married someone that turned into a monster afterward ?
@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
28 Jan 16
Since 50% of marriages end in divorce, I am not sure it is a good idea. What happens when you are divorced and left with a tattoo to remind you of a failed or bad marriage?
@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
28 Jan 16
@enlightenedpsych2 First of all, the thought that your marriage may end up like those 50% unsuccessful ones before even getting married, will make any of your marriage unstable from the start. Why? Because you already doubt your own relationship. Why not think your marriage will be like those other 50% successful marriage and the tattooed ring will actually remind you that committing yourself to love your partner for a lifetime was worth the pain and struggle because it was all paid off with love for life?
And if you're still scared about the idea, that's okay.. that will make you think wisely in choosing with whom you're going to get married.
@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
28 Jan 16
People throw away their marriages despite having children and a home with their spouse. I don't think a tattoo will stop that. And I think that they are hideous.
@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
28 Jan 16
I'm not assuring it will stop any divorce and cheating. That's why I mentioned 'it may'; it can help lessen the possibility to cheat that easily, getting married just like that and probably getting divorce for silly reasons ^^
but if you hate it then I understand
@mnjhun1 (226)
• Peru
28 Jan 16
@MALUSE I would like to point out that neither wedding rings or tattooed ones can save ALL marriages from divorce. But just focusing on comparing the advantages between the two types of rings, there's a difference. Yet again, the fact that you hate it, too, is comprehensible.
@KristenH (33386)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
28 Jan 16
Good question. I guess it's a matter of taste and personal preference. If it's a tattoo, it would have to removed by laser surgery if the marriage sours.
@KristenH (33386)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
28 Jan 16
@enlightenedpsych2 I doubt it'll ever happen. 
And if it did, I would do traditional wedding rings. Maybe henna and not tattoos.
And if it did, I would do traditional wedding rings. Maybe henna and not tattoos.@KristenH (33386)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
28 Jan 16
@enlightenedpsych2 You're too kind and sweet, Erica. Thank you!
@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
2 Feb 16
I wouldn't do it. I'm not into pain of any kind. I'll take the standard ring.
@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
2 Feb 16
@enlightenedpsych2 I agree, the commitment aspect is fascinating, but not at the expense of all that pain.
@JudyEv (339930)
• Rockingham, Australia
28 Jan 16
I don't like tattoos of any kind. I don't think having a tattoo would make much difference to a couple staying together.
