~It's A Mutual Dislike~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
January 6, 2016 12:48pm CST
As I think I have mentioned here many times I am not a fan of my husbands family at all. They are not nice people at all and they are all addicted to pain pills-which makes them very selfish and rude. When they are out of pills they become hateful, and I just don't have time for that in my life.
Anyway...his niece just called MY phone and said where is Uncle Johnny? 
That is what I got when I answered MY phone. No hey Aunt Jennifer, no how are you-nothing. (Oh this is the same niece that stole $30 from my grandma when she sent our children birthday cards with money in them).
I know none of them really like me either but it's called respect-I respect them and I'm not rude to them no matter how I feel about them. I don't appreciate the disrespect I get from them at all.
I was very nice in return to her and gave her his number...
No matter how rude she is, I will be the bigger person.
That is what I got when I answered MY phone. No hey Aunt Jennifer, no how are you-nothing. (Oh this is the same niece that stole $30 from my grandma when she sent our children birthday cards with money in them).
I know none of them really like me either but it's called respect-I respect them and I'm not rude to them no matter how I feel about them. I don't appreciate the disrespect I get from them at all.
I was very nice in return to her and gave her his number... No matter how rude she is, I will be the bigger person.38 people like this
38 responses
@vandana7 (100280)
• India
6 Jan 16
How about teaching some manners like..How are you? First let me know you are alright then I will give you the number. But come to think of it, did it save you talk time? If it did, you can feel happy that even though she had no manners, you still got something in form of savings.
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@vandana7 (100280)
• India
8 Jan 16
@ataboy ..I am with @LovingMyBabies on this. I would not react unless the person has been obviously nasty towards me not once but a few times. And in the present context, it could blow up out of proportion. I would look for something that all others would find extremely objectionable to start my sermons. If this person reacts obtusely, or in defensive, I would have the whole world on my side with one shot. Then I could if I so wished reveal how rude she used to be, which would be unnecessary of course. But picking battles is important in relationships. It is necessary to pick only those in which the person has no way to but to invite others wrath or lose support. Here, this matter will get treated as trivial. It hurts, but it still gets qualified as trivial.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@vandana7 Yeah, its not my job to teach her and if I said that she would have became more rude to me. Its just a never ending battle. Thank God she doesn't call a whole lot.
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@ataboy (737)
• United States
8 Jan 16
Why is it not your job, @LovingMyBabies? I'm seriously asking that of you. I don't personally think that it is, but where does your belief system say that you should simply wash your hands of such things? If it's something that you might be helpful towards then why would you, Loving, not take it upon yourself to improve another? I mean that with no negative connotations, whatsoever...
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@DianneN Yeah I have to bite my tongue with his family as well. Otherwise, there will be more problems than its worth.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
6 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies For sure, these people have no regard for anything it seems.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Sorry to read also you have to bend to see your grankids Dianne, but I understand you.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Kill em with kindness. Sadly other addictions start with being addicted to prescription pain medications. I hope that this doesn't happen to your in-laws.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
7 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies That is truly sad. If they choose not to seek help they will never get better.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@Elusivebutterfly They have been addicted for many years and as far as I know never gone to anything else. But if one day they do it wouldn't surprise me.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Hmm sorry you have to deal with these atrocious in laws.
This sounds awful and I know it is hard on you but yes, no good in being rude back that is for sure. They will not listen to reason anyways being addicts like that.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@TiarasOceanView Yeah their not easy to deal with at all but thank God I don't have to see or hear from them too often.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@LadyDuck Yeah, I am not going to get myself crazy over them. I will just vent about it here. Lol.
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@ataboy (737)
• United States
8 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies Maybe...I'm not so sure that's the one and only ideal approach, but I admire it (Anna). I do agree with your attitude towards venting (Loving) where they are not privy to your thoughts...hopefully! You are your own person, and allowed to maintain some sanity! Especially if it does not involve them. That is were we might run into some gray areas between our agreements! But no matter!
You are your own person, and allowed to maintain some sanity! Especially if it does not involve them. That is were we might run into some gray areas between our agreements! But no matter!2 people like this
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@Jabouk My husband barely speaks to his side of the family so we don't get together on holidays or anything.
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@ataboy (737)
• United States
8 Jan 16
I have gotten' it on with my significant others family before, @JaboUK, so what are you trying to say...you think I'm wrong? Maybe I've misread! LOL! No, even I'm not that hideous of a beast! Although I do have this one cute cousin!....LOL! I should stop I think... No, but seriously, I did have a crush on my cousin when I was a WHOLE LOT younger! I'm sure "addy" (who is possessed by he DEvil) will be along to make fun of me soon enough! Please brace yourself my dear Loving! I needith not speakish his name!
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@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
6 Jan 16
It seems as if he has turned out well in spite of them.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@GardenGerty Somehow, thank God my husband turned out amazing! Probably because he wasn't raised by them. His aunt raised him mostly after he got out of the foster care system.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@suzzy3 Thank you, I am definitely not letting them bring me down to their level.
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@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
6 Jan 16
Sorry about the crappy inlaws. How does your husband feel towards them? Either way you're entitled to feel how you feel. Hope they get help for their addiction.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@Daniegirl80587 My husband barely ever speaks to any of them. Matter of fact he was a little upset I gave his niece his number.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
6 Jan 16
That's right - don't stoop to her/their level. Be the bigger person and hold your head high.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@AbbyGreenhill Yeah I wont. No matter how much they push my buttons I just need to ignore it and do what I know is right.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
6 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies They are hard to ignore I can imagine, but put yourself first.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@AbbyGreenhill At times it is hard but I just bring it here and vent.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@amnabas I try to be nice always-and just vent about it here.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
6 Jan 16
I got to give you thumbs up on that your very respectful others especially family should know how respect is .
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@softbabe44 Thank you, I just try to be nice toward others even when its hard. His family really have no respect for anyone-not even themselves.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
8 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies That's on them the way they want to act.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
9 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies Hopefully your hubby understands what is going on.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@Judyev Oh I'm sure it annoys them more than anything that I'm nice to them in return. Lol
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@JudyEv (339930)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies So really, you could forward to meeting them and unsettling them by being super-nice. 
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
7 Jan 16
I'm so sorry you have to deal with mess like this. I am going through rough times as well with my younger brother's wife. She is just a miserable person.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@fishtiger58 Thank you. I am really grateful that I don't hear from them or see them often. It would be much more difficult to deal with if I did. I'm sorry your dealing with your sister in law like this-it is not fun at all.
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@Auntylou (4264)
• Oxford, England
7 Jan 16
@fishtiger58 It is sad when people make it hard to be with family
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
7 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies No it's not and now she has the entire family upset, and most of them want nothing to do with her. I almost think that was her plan all along. So be it, she finally succeeded, but my brother is nothing like her, he is a good guy. Guess I will just have to meet him alone for coffee and stuff.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 16
good for you. i had that kind of mess with my first husbands family. and i in turn was still nice to them as family. when i left him, his mom was so upset with the new gf that she would call and write me about what a good daughter in law i had been
and would i please get him .etc. like i really would want to...
and would i please get him .etc. like i really would want to...3 people like this
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@bunnybon7 That's karma for them, I'm glad they don't like his new girl. Lol.
My moms ex used to beat the mess out of her and put her in the hospital a few times. His new wife beats the mess out of him with all sorts of objects ~KARMA~Lol.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@jstory07 Yeah I won't go down to their level. I would rather be nice.
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@tuttiharris (1338)
• Chattanooga, Tennessee
7 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies (16416), some times we just have to put our feelings out of sight, and it is great when you can do that. I thank God I don't have these problems and I know it would be hard to deal with. Blessings my friend. Have a great night.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@tuttiharris I try hard to treat others how I want to be treated no matter how they are to me. Thank God we don't hear from them much and we don't see them almost ever.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@paigea Its not always easy but I try to always be respectful.
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@abhinalstrikr (4111)
• India
7 Jan 16
you r right to solve your problem your way,definetly the other will melt seeing ur respect and dedication and if doesnot so u should be happy about urself as u r not failed in your deeds and approach and get going
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Jan 16
@abhinalstrikr His family doesn't know what it means to have respect but I do.
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@abhinalstrikr (4111)
• India
7 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies
out of two there is always one and only one true,so if his family dont know about respect then u can be the cause to let them know what really respect means and i am optimist about u
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