Rant
By CrystalRae
@crystalrae (91)
United States
January 6, 2016 3:40pm CST
So I worked 10:30p-7a came home got my daughter ready for school and on the bus at 8:20 don't fall asleep till 9:15 wake up at 10:30 for my boyfriend's mom to take us to lunch before my ultrasound day is going good so far other than lack of sleep. Find out I'm only a month pregnant then on the way home after my boyfriend of almost 4 years said he was excited at first tells me to get an abortion and that he don't think us raising a child would be good that he's moving out. I don't even believe in abortion I can not believe that came out of his mouth he's been wanting a child for over a year. I can't raise 2 kids on my own my daughter will be 5 this month. I made sure my next child would have a father who stays... I can't believe he's doing this to me. Could it be that he's nervous about having his first kid and not having a career yet? He only works in the summer but I make enough to get by. I don't know what to do right now. ABORTION IS NOT AN OPTION
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Jan 16
Sorry this is going on. How long did you know this guy before you were " sure my next child would have a father who stays"? Did you discuss having a child with him? Did he know you weren't using any deterrent and he obviously wasn't. Wow!
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@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Jan 16
@crystalrae ...I don't know you but there are times people tend to take things for granted and think they understand or know the other person when they are miles apart. If one person wants a child and they are going in that direction but they haven't really had a dialogue with the other person......know what I mean? Communication break down.
@crystalrae (91)
• United States
8 Jan 16
I have known him for 7 years dating for 3 and a half years we have talked about kids I think It was just overwhelming we are working on things... I have been off birth control for 2 years
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry! 
I cannot imagine being told that. If he wants to leave then no matter what you say or do he will leave. I am sure you can do it on your own, where there's a will there's a way. It wont be easy of course but you can do it. We are here for you whenever you need advice or need to vent. I don't blame you for not wanting an abortion-that would never be an option for me either. I wish I was closer to you because I would help you in any way that I could.
I cannot imagine being told that. If he wants to leave then no matter what you say or do he will leave. I am sure you can do it on your own, where there's a will there's a way. It wont be easy of course but you can do it. We are here for you whenever you need advice or need to vent. I don't blame you for not wanting an abortion-that would never be an option for me either. I wish I was closer to you because I would help you in any way that I could.@crystalrae (91)
• United States
6 Jan 16
thank you. I'm just so upset right now 4 years he could have told me sooner he knew I wanted more kids and said he did too.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@crystalrae No offense but he sounds like an immature jerk if you ask me. I don't know him of course, but anyone that could just walk away after that long is just awful-especially when your carrying a little angel inside of you!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 16
@crystalrae You might want to show him this picture...
@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
6 Jan 16
Sorry about that. Children are gifts from God and i am happy that you are not considering abortion. Don't rush into making any decision. Take it easy and think things through
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@Morethanamom (1948)
• Canada
6 Jan 16
It could very well be first time dad insecurity. I know my husband was very scared when we unintentionally got pregnant back in 2009. No he did not tell me to get an abortion or threaten to leave me, but he was still very nervous as it wasn't planned. He was just starting to get excited when we found out we had lost the baby.
If he truly decides that he wants to leave, don't stop him, but definitely take him to court for child support. If it comes down to it, I am sure you could raise 2 children on your own, but it won't be easy. Good luck.
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