What to do if you can't stand one of your lover's friends?

Just because he is your husband's friend doesn't mean he needs to be your friend. What is it about him that you don't like? Maybe you need to think of the good qualities that this man has.

As you get on well with his wife just ignore him and talk to her.

So your husband has no Idea that you feel this way? Number one I understand you dont like him...but if he has been friends with him (ur hubby) for 20 years I hope you dont want him to stop being friends with this guy because I dont think you really can expect that from your hubby! I mean maybe you can set rules, maybe you can have a girls night when he's having the poker night or whatever...you know theres certain things you can do to over look everything but the 1st thing you have to do is tell your hubby how you feel and that you want to personally spend less time with him..if you know what I mean!

I would just have as little contact with them as possible. My lover isn’t easily influenced so I wouldn’t expect the friend’s ways to rub off on him. If it does I’ll pull him up on it immediately. If I have to be around the friend I’ll just make sure one of my friends is with me to keep me company. Or I find some zen place inside of me and ignore the annoying person. I can tell my husband I don’t like his friend too much and he should understand. I’m not expected to like everyone he likes. I won’t make a big deal of it though. I’m sure some of my friends would annoy him if he had to be around them for any length of time.