Over Possessive Husband..!!

He should not have been so mean to her or put his hands on her in any way! That is wrong. If I was her I would not stay with him, I refuse to be abused by anyone. I hope your sister can get out before things get worse.

I hope you find local help for your sister. Is there a social agency she can go to for help- even to talk with someone?

I think the husband is a very unreasonable fellow. It is so hard to deal with that kind of man.

Oh, gosh. This is a really tough one for me, because there's a lot of cultural differences between where I live and India. If she were here, my advice to you would be to help get her out of the situation by finding a shelter for her to go to. Past behavior is a good indicator of future actions, and if he's abused her once he will do it again. It will get worse, too. The forum I'm on for dealing with in-laws would say that there's no coming back from this, but they have a very American outlook on things, too. His actions are absolutely about control. I don't know if it's redeemable. Do you happen to know about the availability of marriage counseling in her area? That might be an option, but I'd be afraid that they'd side with the husband and tell her that she's at fault. Maybe the best option at this point would be to be there for her, tell her that it's not her fault, and let her know that you'll help her if she decides that leaving him is the right course of action. Keep in mind that the situation may get more dangerous for her at the point where she leaves--abusers tend to do whatever they can to maintain their control over their victims.

I think he is over reacting like that to get a strong hold on your sis.

I am sorry hearing about your sister's plight. But I would like to give you a sincere advice that please do not post such personal things on these forums. This is because people do not take seriously and you wont get any proper reply. Now as you have already posted, let me try to suggest something. You can always arrange a discussion with the elders of both the families along with your sister and her husband. Whatever he did was wrong as I feel the reason was silly. But these are serious matters and should be resolved quickly. I re-iterate again that henceforth refrain from posting such things in these kind of public forums. I hope you agree.