Age gaps

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I've never been a super judgmental person, I mean I've judged people, I guess most of us are prone to do judge at some point, even though we really have no room to do so, but there are times I sit and wonder how a relationship where there is a huge age gap can work, I'm not putting those that do date much older or younger down, but I honestly don't get it at times, because the bigger the age gap the more likely you are to have less in common. I've only seen a few relationships with that big of an age gap last. Most usually end, because most of the time those two people are at two different points in their lives. I know sometimes they do last, and sometimes I'm sure age really is just a number if you have enough in common and you both want the same things, but most of the time you don't. I like older men, just not THAT much older. My boyfriend is 7 yrs older than me, which is old enough to be more mature, but not so old that we don't have much in common. Most of the time I forget how much older he is. I sometimes tease him that I was 7 when he was 14. We joke, but most of the time it's not something I think about. What I really don't understand is how someone who has been married for many years to someone close to their age can decide to up and leave their spouse for someone younger. I don't see how being with someone younger can make someone feel younger, if anything I'd think it would make them feel older. I feel old whenever I hang out with younger people. Age isn't always just a number, it represents wisdom, experience, and maturity, at least a lot of the time. I always just wanted someone I could grow old with, not someone who was already old and wouldn't get to spend most of their life with me, not that age is always an indicator of a life span, but someone much older is more likely to die before someone younger. No one really thinks about age until it makes itself known. I personally wouldn't date someone a lot older than me, I always said 10 years max, let's face it a lot of the time women need older men for maturity reasons. I never could stand most men my age, they were all immature and drove me crazy, but I didn't want someone so old that they could be my father. I'm not putting these relationships down, but personally they definitely aren't for me, and I'm sure some have worked out, but most of the ones I've seen haven't. I think sometimes age is more than just a number.