~My Son Has Aspergers-Not Many Understand~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
January 9, 2016 11:30am CST
It is really hard for my son in this world. The world is so different to him than it is to us and it upsets me when people just don't understand him. He comes off as a smart a$$ to most people because he says and takes things very literal.
At the same time he is so sweet and loving, and would give you the shirt off his back if you needed it. He is a super intelligent 8 year old boy who loves God and loves people.
I am concerned for him as he gets older because I don't know how he will fit into this world. I guess being different is a good thing though now that I think about it.
I need to look into therapy for him-and pray I can find something that his insurance will cover.
In the mean time, I wish people would look past his Aspergers and get to know my son for who he is. I wish people would research and understand things before passing judgment...but then again that would only happen in a perfect world.
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25 responses
@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
10 Jan 16
Need to get as much information as you can about that.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Jan 16
@softbabe44 Yes I have done a lot of research on it.
@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
12 Jan 16
@akalinus Yea they need to be able to count on someone.
@akalinus (43919)
• United States
10 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies FB has a couple of pages dedicated to the condition. I looked for a support group and did not see one. However, you can start a group and others will bless you for it. Many need support and a place to rant.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
9 Jan 16
I understand that you are worried for your son, but you should know that persons with an Asperger syndrome are usually very smart and find their way in our world. They need a therapy to not become completely autistic, but the therapy works : these people are perfectionist and can do very well in their job. It is more a difference than a handicap.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Jan 16
@topffer Your right about being very smart, he excels in his school work. He is much more advanced than most children his age. I am sure your right that when he gets older he will also do very well for himself-I hope so.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
9 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies Aspergers are gifted children. Look for a therapy for him and everything will be alright
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
10 Jan 16
They do tend to be perfectionist. My son is with his art.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Jan 16
@sishy7 He does have a ton of love around him, that's for sure. =)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Jan 16
@jaboUk Before I realized my son had Asperger's I babysat 2 little boys with Autism so I always had reason to look into it and be understanding of it.
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@AnneEJ (4917)
• Dollard-Des-Ormeaux, Quebec
9 Jan 16
Can understand how you feel, as one of my grandsons is Autistic. Fortunately, he has been in a special school program since he was just little, but still there are a lot of issues to face. I am sure there are programs you can get him into to help him.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Jan 16
@AnneEJ My children are Home Schooled so at least he doesn't have to deal with many issues at school with being picked on and such. But I do want to look into programs such as therapy for him.
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@akalinus (43919)
• United States
10 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies Sometimes your child's insurance will pay for some types of therapy, such as speech, occupational, or physical therapy.
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
10 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies I had to homeschool my son because they refused to give him a reading program. Thank God thins have changed a lot since than. But, Like I said before if I can be of any help to you, you can email me.
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@celticeagle (170433)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 16
Counseling now to get him ready and help him cope better with his teen years would probably be a good idea. He is sure a cute little fellow and I hope that things go well in the future for him.
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@celticeagle (170433)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies ...Yeah, a therapist can get him ready for those teen years. Does he look like his dad?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Jan 16
@celticeagle Yeah I think your right, therapy is something I definitely want to get him into. Thank you, I think he's adorable too. =)
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
10 Jan 16
Since my sons was diagnosed that was over 10 years ago thing have gotten so much better for people with autism. There is a much better understanding of it and thing always seem to be getting better.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Jan 16
@jstory07 That is true, some people get annoyed with him easily but it's because they don't take the time to understand.
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@jstory07 (141273)
• Roseburg, Oregon
9 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies Those people will never take the time and you should stay away from them if you can. why put yuour son through anything.
@jstory07 (141273)
• Roseburg, Oregon
10 Jan 16
@ivyparkgirl I know I have two disabled friends and I help them as much as I can.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Jan 16
@LadyDuck Yeah therapy is something I will definitely be looking into for him.
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@LadyDuck (472430)
• Switzerland
11 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies I am sure this is the best thing you can do to help him.
@akalinus (43919)
• United States
10 Jan 16
Just wanted to let you know that there are Autism support groups on FB. The people in these groups understand because they have been there and have a good idea what you are dealing with. And sometimes it is good just to rant and have someone understand. I am a member of one of these groups.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Jan 16
@akalinus Thank you I will definitely look into the groups because at times I really need some support. =)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Jan 16
@akalinus Thank you so much! I very much appreciate it. =)
@akalinus (43919)
• United States
10 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies My child had a more severe form of Autism than Aspergers but I would love to help out if I can. Send me a message on here. Maybe we could talk on private message on FB.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
9 Jan 16
@boiboing Yeah my son is an amazing little boy. Some people just don't care to understand him.
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@JudyEv (344704)
• Rockingham, Australia
10 Jan 16
I know several people who have Asbergers' as well as some parents of children with this condition. Although it has been a bit of a struggle sometimes, the adults have all fitted into society quite well and have held down respectable jobs. Good luck with your search for therapy.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Jan 16
@JudyEv Yeah I am hoping as he gets older he will not struggle to fit in, hold a job, find a wife, etc...
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@ataboy (737)
• United States
10 Jan 16
I should say this before reading any other responses - And I apologize to the wonderful woman in the room as well as as religious person in general that this may offend in some strange way....but "HELL NO!" Your son is more normal than I! (I guess that may not be the most comforting of statements! LOL!) But seriously, (A) I would FAR rather know someone that is not considered the "norm" by society than anyone else! Call me crazy! and (B) We all suffer from disorders, just because some have "names" assigned to them...BS! (again I apologize to the lady in the room!) Your son sounds like someone I would love to meet. The average peer of his....not so much so. Is this something I say out of sorrow or being empathetic...actually, NO! I simply find someone like him far more interesting to speak to or get to know than "person X" so to speak. Not that they are necessarily any less interesting...but that's just my opinion.
And knowing who raised him is not exactly a negative factor either! (I don't think any emoticons are necessary here!)
I fully understand your looking out for him over the course of his life though. Clearly what any good parent would think of.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Jan 16
@ataboy Thank you, my son is different but then again I guess most people are not "normal" since we cannot exactly put a label on that word anyway. He is highly intelligent, loving and very focused on certain things. He comes across as being mean at times-but it's just that he is so literal. If you ask him if he's finished eating and his plate is empty-he will look at his plate and say obviously I am done. He's not trying to be a smart a$$ he just takes things for what their worth. Maybe he's onto something since we ask some STUPID questions at times-Lol!
Thank you for making me feel better about my son. =)
@whiteream (8567)
• United States
13 Jan 16
In a way I like how you put it. they are different and they learn different. I kind of wish the world look at it that way. I love my son for all that he is. Most people say he is one of the sweetest young men they have ever met. He loves to help people and make them laugh. he is a good person and that is all I could have ever hoped for.
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@shaggin (73574)
• United States
27 Mar 17
They think my son has it to but he also has the sadness and anger that can go along with it. I am hopeful that with help they will learn to adjust to the world around them better as they get older. There are so many adults with it who live wonderful lives. I am pretty much in the same boat as you right now. I think I have finally found a good place for my son to receive the help he needs. People judge kids and parents so much. I have dealt with a lot from people who just think my son is a spoiled brat and don't understand how things bother him that he can't control like not wanting to hug people etc.
@fawkes62 (1276)
• United States
11 Jan 16
I think some of it is that it's just difficult to understand because each child with it is different. It seems like Asperger's and Autism affect everyone differently so it's difficult to understand unless you are around it a lot. Good luck and I hope you are able to find therapy that is a good fit for him and covered by his insurance.
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
10 Jan 16
Well my dear, I am here for you. I will tell you that I do understand better than you think. My son is almost seventeen years and he went through many of the things your son has and will I am sure. If you need to talk you can email me through here, if you like.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Jan 16
@whiteream Thank you so much! It definitely helps to talk about things. It annoys me that the doctors when he was younger told me I was wrong about something being off with him. I could have gotten him into programs sooner than now!
He took much longer to walk-the doctors said he was just lazy, He takes longer to warm up to other children-they told me he was just shy, He was super sensitive to loud noises since he was born-they told me he had sensitive ears...
All of these things were signs that they missed!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Jan 16
@whiteream My son absolutely cannot handle loud noises, even the toilet flushing makes him hold his ears. Certain smells or tastes really affect him horribly too. He gags and freaks out.
@whiteream (8567)
• United States
11 Jan 16
@LovingMyBabies I am sorry to hear that the doctor didn't listen to you. They should have done something. I know , when my son was very young I had to push to get things for him. It was very frustrating. My son still has a problem with certain sounds bothering him. He has gotten a lot better with many of his sensory issues. But, the sad things is that I am the one that had to do the research to find out what to do for him because at the time there weren't that many doctor who even know what sensory disoder was.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Jan 16
@RRoyy2 Thank you so much, I think he is adorable too but then again he is mine. =)
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@workathomefan (8957)
• Prairieville, Louisiana
26 Mar 17
Your son has a high functioning autism.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Mar 17
@workathomefan Yes I know, I have babysat children with autism.
