Thinner body is sexier?

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We see how a lot of girls are struggling to keep the perfect body figure just to be considered beautiful or sexy. How thin can a woman really should go just to be called sexy? I am a half Peruvian half Filipino myself, but I grew up in the Philippines. And trust me, I've been struggling with my weight. I definitely agree to be in shape and healthy, that what I was trying to do by going to the gym and going on diet. But as I grew up I always felt different, not because I'm a half Peruvian but because of my body. They consider my body size as ''fat'' or ''chubby'', I guess because I don't have the typical ''Asian body'' that they find sexy. I slowly think the same way too, I see myself the way other people see it and I guess in time I have learned how to accept it. And just try to hide all those parts that I think will make me look fat, this was my only way aside from gym and diet, to avoid people looking at me and calling me names especially at school. So the extra large shirts and loose pants were my most comfortable clothes ever. While I look at myself in this way, my mom on the other hand keeps on telling me how beautiful I am and that there is nothing wrong with my body. I didn't see what she sees nor believe what she believes. Until by the age of 23 I finally moved to Peru, and guess what, my mom was right. Here it was the other way around what I considered fat, here, they see it as thin and unhealthy. I get questions and comments like '' are you sick?'' or ''fat? is that a joke?'' and they started to laugh. I see how full body women are considered beautiful and sexy. The bigger, the better. It is kinda confusing, all this time I believe that having the body like Nicole Scherzinger is sexier (still believe it is). In time, I came to understand that beauty can differ according to how the society view it. What is sexy to this country may not be the same to the other country, everyone has a different standing on what really beauty and ideal body is. But does it really matter? The answer is no, I have always heard of the saying that ''beauty is in the eye of the beholder''. Which one is better? well, only you yourself can decide. If you believe that your body is perfect as it is then you have the answer already but if you don't, then that's what it's going to be. People can tell you a lot, on how you should look like or what you look like but if you always see yourself base on their criteria then you will never be happy. That's what I learned, I accept that I have the body of a Latina but an accent of an Asian. How people see me, would it be positive or negative, I am thankful for that, I just make sure that whatever it is. It is the real me and never base on other people's point of view. Be beautiful and proud of yourselves guys!