Ladies, what will u do?what do u think of it?
By Zhaoyue
@Zhaoxiaoyue (65)
Beijing, China
January 11, 2016 5:17pm CST
if u love a foreigner,before u confess u feelings to u ,will u worry that he will misunderstand ur reasons why u love him?i think if i really loves him,his nationality,ages,appearances,doesn't count that much to me....but i m afraid that he will misunderstand that i will marry him because i love his money,cars,houses,nationality instead of who he is....
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
3 Feb 16
It seems like you are counting all the chickens before the eggs are hatched. Sometimes I just appreciate the fact that I am a Chinese who is generally known for being conservative and coy when it comes to taking the initiative.
I don't see why as a Chinese woman we should be in a rush to do this or that. Much more think about being misunderstood when the other party has not even started telling you if he likes to be with you or not in the first place.
Why rush?
Instead, enjoy a few dates on his account and see how different (good side) as compared to our local guys. See how he treats you as a woman, how he behaves, how he thinks, his likes, his sense of dressing, his sense of what is a date and so on. The fact that you are asking if questions simply tells you that you don't even know what is happening or going to happen yet, So take your time.
Whether the relationship will work or not does not depend on you alone because if he does not see the point of commitment and devote his time with you, then it will be time to go separate ways. Otherwise, if you want to give people a chance then be patient and wait and see how things progresses.
@Zhaoxiaoyue (65)
• Beijing, China
3 Feb 16
First thank you for your comments.I learn a lot from it.yes,like you I'm also the one being coy when it comes to taking the initiative.Bur frankly speaking,I'm not in a rush about this...I don't like waiting for a suitable moment...many people who keep waiting for the perfect opportunity and for the best moment to do what they have to do,usually end up doing nothing.Life is short,I will do my best to seize the opportunity to make my life and the life. Of my dearest and nearest people better
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
4 Feb 16
@Zhaoxiaoyue
I think you need to remind yourself that the "waiting" period is necessary when we go through the stage before deciding if the relationship could progress or not. So be patient, you can commit but don't go overboard.
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@onyxwitch09 (2)
• Cavite City, Philippines
12 Jan 16
Have you met him in person? The best way to show him that you are genuine with your feelings is to show him more of you. Communication is the key. If you are seeing each other personally, I don't think there will be much of a problem in showing your real intentions. Now if this is online dating, then I'am afraid it would be harder to show your sincerity if you are just chatting and texting whatsoever. You should have quality time together. I hope this helps.
@Zhaoxiaoyue (65)
• Beijing, China
12 Jan 16
Thanks for your answer...but i think even we met each other,there also have some misunderstandings,and i think most foreigners will think that most lady love them for other reasons,do u think so?
