How Old Would You Be, if You Didn’t Know How Old You Are?

United States
January 30, 2016 9:12am CST
I happened to be at a friend’s party on the day I turned thirty. It wasn’t a birthday party, just a coincidence. One of my friends asked me how it felt to turn thirty. My answer? “Real familiar.” You see I had lots of adult responsibilities growing up. I felt like an adult from about the age of eleven or so. I was thirty long before the calendar caught up with what I felt inside. The funny thing is, I still do. I have not aged in my head at all. Perhaps it was teaching teenagers all those years that kept me from getting older. Every year I had students who ranged in age from thirteen to eighteen years old. This age range never changed. Unless I stared at myself in the mirror, which I rarely did, there was no visual evidence that time marched on. I have mirrors in my house, and use them from time to time, but I don’t often inspect my face. If I did, I would see wrinkles and loose skin around my chin line. I usually wear long sleeves. When my arms are bare, I notice the skin is not as thick or supple as it was in the past. My knees and eyes know how old I am. They never lie. I try not to listen to them. I have altered some of my behaviors to account for the passage of time (I no longer lift heavy objects, doctors’ orders), but mostly I continue to do what I have always done, since I turned thirty. How about you? If you did not know how old you are, how old would you feel?
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
30 Jan 16
I don't think I've ever felt like an adult
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
30 Jan 16
I like it lol :)
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
31 Jan 16
@ElizabethWallace indeed, I often hear people say, I remember when I was a child.. I don't think that, I think, I remember when I was 4. And tbh some aspect of me are still the same as I was 4
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• United States
30 Jan 16
Great. We don't stop playing because we get old, we get old because we stop playing.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
30 Jan 16
You are only as old as you feel. I feel young and vital, and fight looking old as best as I can.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
30 Jan 16
@UncleJoe I'm not as young as you think!
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• United States
30 Jan 16
Don't give up the good fight. Healthy is the new twenty.
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• United States
30 Jan 16
@UncleJoe My doctor said that everyone gets arthritis and cataracts if they live long enough. Bummer.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
30 Jan 16
This seems to be the same for most people. My age has definitely made a great impression on my physical age, but has done very little to affect my outlook or attitude.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
31 Jan 16
@UR_Forever_Raja I wish that I was only 50 again.
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• India
1 Feb 16
@Asylum Why you want to 50 when I am giving away your twenties back . Is there anything special of that age
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• India
31 Jan 16
You are just 20 stop acting like 50
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@much2say (55318)
• Los Angeles, California
30 Jan 16
Oh gosh. It's hard to say. Now that I'm a little past mid 40s, I actually do feel "older" overall. I think I still look somewhat youthful - but in comparison to my older photos, I'm definitely older. There are a lot of things I was never concerned about in my younger days, but now I think about these things a lot - health, mortality and such. My eyesight has always been perfect - now things upclose are a tad blurry. I am still active and can do almost anything but I can tell I'm no spring chicken anymore. Let's just say I don't feel "old", but I don't exactly feel as I did in my 20s.
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@much2say (55318)
• Los Angeles, California
31 Jan 16
@ElizabethWallace Hmmmm . . . I guess I'd have to say mid 30s
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• United States
1 Feb 16
@much2say I think we pretty much all feel this age.
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• United States
30 Jan 16
Okay, but do you feel thirty, like most of us?
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• United States
30 Jan 16
I would be around 17 or 18 my friend. Those were the best years of my life and I recall them often. Now that may be different than regarding how old I actually feel at times, but that is it for the most part. I cant get that time out of my head, so there is where I stay.
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• United States
31 Jan 16
@ElizabethWallace It sounds like you had a tremendous amount of stress dear friend. I am glad you are no longer there in that time.
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• United States
1 Feb 16
@TiarasOceanView Many in my family had health issues. Plus my mother, who was the one ill much of my childhood, was a major drama queen and a narcissist. I had to become an adult when I was only eleven. Oh, well. I learned a lot.
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• United States
30 Jan 16
It must have been good for you. Not so for me. I used to bite my fingernails from stress. Once I was on my own, I stopped.
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@mom210 (9117)
• United States
30 Jan 16
I think my kids keep me young, I know I am not 20 anymore, I feel it. But I think I am about 30.
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• United States
30 Jan 16
Thirty is a pretty "average" age to feel. You are no longer carefree and have lots of things on your plate.
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@RasmaSandra (79362)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
30 Jan 16
@ElizabethWallace on days when I really feel great I think that I should be back at high school.
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• United States
30 Jan 16
@RasmaSandra Not I. I don't even remember my locker combination.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
30 Jan 16
Some days I feel quite young and other days I feel like I must be 100 years old.
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• United States
30 Jan 16
If you can figure ouyt the cause of each, you have it made in the shade.
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• India
31 Jan 16
You need coffee that's the thing you are missing in you other days
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@paigea (36318)
• Canada
31 Jan 16
@Marcyaz I have a lot of sleep problems and when I don't sleep I have days where I feel 100 years old too.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Jan 16
I would be alot older body wise than I am in my head. I think I am about 45 in my head and about 75 in my body.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Jan 16
@ElizabethWallace ...Oh ya! I at least my mind to function some what adequately.
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• United States
30 Jan 16
Wouldn't it be awful if it was the other way around?
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• United States
31 Jan 16
@celticeagle Remember that Steven Hawking has had a pretty great life. His body sure didn't function well for him, but his mind has.
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
30 Jan 16
I've never felt my age, always felt much young, I feel about 29/30
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
30 Jan 16
@ElizabethWallace Lol hmm maybe.
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• United States
30 Jan 16
Why can't you just say 29 and a half?
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 16
@ElizabethWallace I'm older than you - about 35! On the subject of age I remember something you said to me a while ago -'We don't stop playing because we get old - we get old because we stop playing'. Edit (I've just read the comments and see that you've said this to somebody else too).
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
1 Feb 16
@ElizabethWallace That's good to know - thank you.
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@MALUSE (69373)
• Germany
30 Jan 16
Working with youngsters of the same age for many years keeps one's mind young. In this respect I'm younger than the peers of my age group. Unfortunately, my body hasn't stayed young in the same way.
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• United States
30 Jan 16
Mine neither. What's up with that? I have taken care of myself, worked out, eaten healthy, and hey, I have aged anyway.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
30 Jan 16
Probably 100 @ElizabethWallace . If it wasn't for the spinal injuries, I 'know' I would feel 30. I still lift 50 lb bags of feed, 70 lb bales of hay and 40 lb bags of cat food because the doctors said if I didn't keep the muscles strong that run down both sides of the spine, I would be in a wheelchair. Those muscles are the only thing holding me vertical.
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• United States
30 Jan 16
Good for you. Mine on the other hand, have told me to stop lifting things. They are concerned that I will get compression fractures. So far, my bones are doing better than they should, considering.
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@DeborahDiane (40279)
• Laguna Woods, California
1 Feb 16
Like @DianneN I think we are only as old as we feel. Most of the healthy people I know say that they feel the same inside as they did when they were young adults. It is the outside of their bodies that surprises them. I feel young and vital, too, walk miles a day, work out at the gym, ride horses, take yoga, and, in some way, I'm more active than I was as a young adult. Of course, I'm also old enough to have had friends die unexpectedly, as well as friends who seemed in poor health who have lingered for years. Go figure.
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• United States
2 Feb 16
It is best, I think, to do what we can and let the odds fall where they may.
@JudyEv (338682)
• Rockingham, Australia
31 Jan 16
My mother, even when very old, always said she didn't feel old inside.
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@Auntylou (4264)
• Oxford, England
1 Feb 16
• India
31 Jan 16
I heard one old man saying that in front of me too
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• India
1 Feb 16
@Auntylou I am sorry for your loss, Let her soul rest in peace.
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@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
31 Jan 16
The teen hit 17 in Dec so it would feel odd to try and pass as anything under 33. I definitely feel 10 years younger than I am and look it too!
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@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
1 Feb 16
@TheHorse Someone called me Miss this morning, not heard that one for years, but it came from an Italian.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
1 Feb 16
@thea09 Is "Miss" good or bad? It sounds polite? Does it imply youth?
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
1 Feb 16
She lives! I feel young in some ways and ancient in others. Sometimes the pretty girls flirt with me. Other times they call me "sir."
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@allknowing (135331)
• India
31 Jan 16
Myhands reveal my age and so I cannot pretend (lol)
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@allknowing (135331)
• India
31 Jan 16
@paigea Have you watched the movie Fedora.?
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@paigea (36318)
• Canada
31 Jan 16
My hands reveal my age too. Sometimes I look at them and wonder how they are my hands.
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@paigea (36318)
• Canada
31 Jan 16
@allknowing No. I will check it out. Edit. I looked at it. It looks interesting and has a good cast!
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@maggs224 (2320)
• Alicante, Spain
30 Jan 16
On the inside I seem to have stopped ageing at 27 and so I still feel that age on the inside. Unfortunately like you my body did not stop ageing at 27 and so I no longer do a lot of the things I did in my 20s. Or if I do them I do them a lot slower lol...
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• United States
30 Jan 16
I still confuse people (even medical professionals) as to how old I am. I take that as a good sign.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 16
Haha a good one! I feel about 22 first thing in the morning by the end of the day feel a loot more than my real age at times!
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
1 Feb 16
Egads, I sometimes feel old and stuff when I first get out of bed. Then I oil the joints like the tin man, and things get better.
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@TheHorse (217901)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Feb 16
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• United States
2 Feb 16
@TheHorse Exactly. After I exercise I feel twenty years younger.
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• India
31 Jan 16
Hopes, believes, highly motivated mind are always the way to keep your body away from thinking the age. I have seen few people at age of 75-80 running Marathon of 10KM. I don't know if they completed the race ( not shown in news ) but yes the spirit actually shows us that they have life in them. I do agree at some stage body doesn't support the things mind-or we think to do after passing 50-60 but then I salute those who still try to work it out with the body and drawbacks they got in them.
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• India
1 Feb 16
@paigea Yes, everyone has life out of Mylot. And I totally understand that But then whenever I am here I try to keep people moving their fingers
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@paigea (36318)
• Canada
1 Feb 16
@UR_Forever_Raja I am moving my fingers and the rest of my body is getting flabby
@paigea (36318)
• Canada
31 Jan 16
Yes, I admire those people too. And always thought I would be like that. But then I better remind myself to sit here less and get moving!
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• Philippines
30 Jan 16
I feel younger than my age
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• United States
30 Jan 16
Great. Keep doing things that make you feel young.
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