I love you but I hate your job!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
February 14, 2016 9:06pm CST
What would you do if you met the person for you but he/she has a job you can not support? Their job is dangerous or the complete opposite of your values? Would you ry to get their to quit? Or just walk away? Me? If I find out it is his passion, his reason for life I would walk away! If I get him to give it up , he would resent me in the end. Your thoughts.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
15 Feb 16
If the job is going to be a problem the relationship isn't for you , no matter how much you love the person.
I don't know what type of job could hurt a relationship with me, for me I am glad the person would be working.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 Feb 16
I agree. It is more that I love him enough to let him go be happy without me.
My list is short. Policemen, boxers, servicemen, race car drivers,
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 Feb 16
@CookieMonster46 Then I will miss the Right person, especially if he is a cop. I'm not the right , supportive person for a cop. I know this. I am over trying to fit in where I don't. It is true you can die walking down the street but you don't purposely put your life on the line Every day. Other jobs or life choices are far less dangerous and are not a completely different life. Whatever I feel for this poor guy would die before it really takes hold. So the wisest and best thing to do is to let him go. It wouldn't be fair to make him change and I know I won't change. So love with this guy isn't going to last.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
15 Feb 16
@sarahruthbeth22 Just from this list, I wouldn't have a problem with any of these jobs. People have been hurt in jobs a lot less dangerous than this. You could get in a car accident, get hurt, not just from a job.
Yes, these jobs you would worry , but I wouldn't let it get in the way of love, sometimes the right person comes around just one time.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 Feb 16
I agree! If their life's work is something you can't understand or support then walk away. Of the jobs you listed I could support a male stripper! He is less likely to lose his life each night when he goes to work.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 Feb 16
I wouldn't even date a cop. It wouldn't work! You married a person who is in the same type of work.
@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
16 Feb 16
This is going to be very hard. One of you should compromise... I'm not sure how can I make a decision if I were in that position.. I guess it depends on the situation
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
16 Feb 16
I would ask myself how much do I love him? Do I love him enough to let him go be who he needs to be? I hope the answer is yes.
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@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
16 Feb 16
@sarahruthbeth22 it's going to be quite a journey for the both of you and I do hope you can arrive at a certain agreement that will make both of you happy
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 Feb 16
Walking away Is the compromise. They get to live their life the way you Need to and so do you.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
15 Feb 16
That is a really hard place to be. I can't think of too many jobs where I would HATE them working for it; even dangerous jobs like police officers - if my man was passionate about helping people, I would be glad, but at the same time afraid for him - afraid for us - if one day he was involved in a shooting or something equally life-threatening. That would be super difficult, but if it was love for me, I don't think I could just leave them because they are following their heart. You know? I think worse yet would be a job where I feel like it's horribly unethical or they are doing it for all the wrong reasons. For example, (and no offense out there) but I don't think I Could love and be with a defense attourney. Especially when they know their clients are guilty of major crimes. No thanks!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 Feb 16
Loving a lawyer is hard because they lie for a living. that could get in the way at times. a guy being passionate about something i can't share no understand is the reason I would walk away. who am I to get in he way of his life choice.
