beauty really is in the eye of the beholder

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Something I've noticed about people is our tendency to focus on how someone looks. I admit I'm guilty of it, we all want to be with someone we find attractive, whatever that is. We all have our own version of what we find attractive in a person. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. I am guilty of staring at men I find physically appealing, but here's the thing no matter how physically attractive I may find them the second they talk that attraction can melt away. I don't care how physically attractive someone is that can melt away if they're a jerk. No one wants to settle down with a jerk. The jerk is the guy/girl that often finds himself/herself alone when all is said and done. Who a person is as a person can reflect on their looks. There have been men that I didn't initially find attractive, but then I got to know them and found myself crushing on them, and it wasn't because of their looks, these men were attractive to me because of who they were on the inside as cliche as that sounds, because it really isn't always about looks. I won't judge anyone on who they find attractive, because it's our right to be attracted to whoever we're attracted to. A lot of us have types, and that's OK, but you shouldn't settle for a jerk simply because they're attractive, there's so much more to a person than their looks. My boyfriend isn't movie star attractive, he has a big ol' beer belly, even though he didn't when we first got together, he's got a chubby face, and I'm sure there are probably other features about him women wouldn't find attractive, but I find him attractive. He fits into my typical type tall, dark hair, and blue eyes. Not that I've only ever dated men like that. I've dated men shorter than me, I've dated a couple of blondes, I gave other men a chance, but they never worked out, not because they weren't decent guys, but because something was missing. I knew what I wanted in a man, and I ultimately found it, and it has nothing to do with looks. My boyfriend is sweet, kind, caring, he can make me laugh, and he would make many women jealous because of the kind of guy he is. He respects me and he accepts me. He's not perfect, but I'll take him any day over some dumb jock who thinks they're better than everyone else. Ultimately love has nothing to do with looks, you don't fall in love with how someone looks, sure it helps to find them attractive, but we fall in love with a person for who they are on the inside.